Comments on: Why It’s Okay to Not Be Nice.

By: Jason Gan

Jason Gan — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 09:33:34 +0000

Being nice or putting a fake face to appear cosmetically pleasant is simply a way of not truly being yourself. Well, boundaries need to be set to maintain social courtesy but why must it trouble you to worry about what other people think of you? Let them do the worrying while you un-stress yourself. Sometimes the gut just has to let out that loud fart.

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 04:38:13 +0000

This is a wonderful article. I think removing yourself from the situation that turns our inner nature away from itself is a time learned wisdom. Some old souls know it early, some of us took longer to journey to that place. I often TRY and back away from a situation and ask myself what I was supposed to learn, how can I not put myself in that situation again, how do I maintain kindness and inner sense of peace with encounters of spiritual energy that is conflicted. When I have to be in that space for a time I often try and expand my energy outward to a place of giving. I am not sure that others can hurt me if I don't let it be about me but explore why they react in unkindness. Is it usually a root of some kind of pain they are in. Sometimes a brief glimpse in compassion can melt a glacier. Other times our example is all the other person has to sit with them. Let them own their energy, rejoice in yours!

By: Mel

Mel — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 04:34:39 +0000

I love, love, love, this artical!I can relate for sure!

By: mandi

mandi — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 04:10:32 +0000

i really love this! you've stated exactly what i've felt in a recent situation, which, unfortunately, i did not have such eloquent words for. thank you.

By: anu

anu — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 09:02:55 +0000

loved it….
v true ..

By: Don't Like Someone? That's Okay | The Daily Muse

Don't Like Someone? That's Okay | The Daily Muse — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 07:24:25 +0000

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By: DebA

DebA — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 01:33:56 +0000

Upeksha…right on

By: Just because I practice yoga, doesn’t mean I have to like you. ~ Frances Frischkorn | elephant journal

Tue, 12 Jul 2011 14:16:18 +0000

[...] Just because I practice yoga doesn’t mean I have to love all people and accept everything they do unconditionally and unequivocally. I believe it’s possible to have compassion for and recognition of each person’s inherent Divinity, as well as their suffering, while still calling into question their behavior. I strive to be a kind, loving and giving person but this does not mean that I need to open myself up to be walked all over by others in order to cultivate these qualities within myself. So what, it’s supposed to be, “I do yoga, therefore, come abuse me”? Umm, I don’t think so. When someone toxic gets near me, I say my protective mantras, put up an energetic wall and walk on by. [...]

By: Just Because I Do Yoga, Doesn’t Mean I Have to Like You, D-Bag. « athayoganusasanam

Tue, 21 Jun 2011 14:53:27 +0000

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By: ndieken

ndieken — Thu, 16 Jun 2011 18:16:12 +0000

I completely relate to this. Thank you so much for sharing!