Do You Still Believe in Marriage?
There are conflicting reports. Some say marriage is an outdated idea and others say that divorce rates are actually down in many states.
I asked this question on my personal Face book page as well as my Daily Transformations fan page and was pleasantly surprised to see that most people say yes~they still believe.
What do you think?
Like many of us, I came from a tumultuous childhood that included divorce. I was however, lucky enough to watch my grandparents enjoy their 67 year marriage. Yes they fought at times; but they held hands literally, until the very end. They laughed, they argued, they were best friends; and there was romance.
My grandma once said to me, “it’s not what you love about someone, it’s figuring out if you can put up with the things about them you don’t love”.
I myself was divorced in my late 20′s and spent most of my 30′s and half of my 40′s running from the idea of it. Lately I’ve been reflecting and realize that I’m finally ready to share my life with someone in that particular way again.
My favorite quote from a friend after sharing with her that a man I knew had been married multiple times over was; “Hey, at least you know he can commit and still believes in love”.
I think I like that quote.
xo
Photos from freedigitalphotos.net Couple holding hands by Sharron Goodyear. Bride by Timeless photography. Cartoon by graur razvan ionut
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I think that marriage takes a special kind of maturity. You have to love the person deeply (and of course, it has to be mutual). You then have to be grateful for the good times (not take them for granted!) and work hard through the tough times. You have to *make* it work.
I’m married for 4 years. I love my wife dearly. She’s beautiful, amazing, funny, sweet. I am so grateful to be able to share my day, my bed, my work, my life, with someone that is similar to me in so many ways… we have much in common.
The areas where we clash are also wonderful – we help each other to grow through those clashes and emerge on the other side as better people, hopefully! We grow. We are both people that are committed to personal development and growth though – I think that many people would rather die than grow; certainly, would rather divorce than grow.
I also take nothing for granted. Maybe we’ll grow apart. Maybe she’ll fall in love with someone else. Maybe I will. One day one of us will die.
But in the meantime, I enjoy our time together, work at it, and relish the stability and grounded-ness that being in a deep and meaningful relationship gives me.
I come from a place of having been married young , a poor union, lasting 9 years. Then I was a single parent for 24 years. Now, when I least expected to find a partner, here he is. This marriage is not the same as my first. It is still based on the "principals" of marriage, but because we both are at a different time of life (middle age), with different goals and expectations, it is a completely different union. I see the value of marriage and believe in it for those who wish to create their won version of this very special partnership.
You have to realize that what you are dealing with in a marriage is three separate entities: you, your spouse and the marriage. You must be cognizant at all times of all three. This is what makes marriage hard.
But what makes marriage awesome is you get to go from having one mind to having three.
Manifestation in sacred ritual speaks of conscious awareness
may all beings be happy <3
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oh dang… I went to thumbs up your post and things slipped on the trackpad and I before I knew it I had clicked on thumbs down, and can't undo it. Sorry. +1 to the count.