How to Transform Ex-lovers into Angels. ~ Sharon Gannon

Via on Nov 25, 2011
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Or The Magical Power of Giving Blessings

Many years ago, I received a letter from a person who was considered by many to be a saint. The letter didn’t open with a normal, “Dear Sharon,” instead it was: “Dear me in the form of you.” Wow that really rocked my world for a while, plummeting me into a deep contemplation on the age-old questions: who am I and who are you?

No matter how many good deeds you do or the many profound and intelligent thoughts you have or words you may say, what people will remember most about you is how you made them feel. If you really want to be loved by others, it is helpful to learn ways to make others feel good.

Learning how to give blessings is a powerful means to transform your world and the world of others. When you say their name and give them a blessing in a sincere, loving way you both fall into love—dissolved into the universal heart, your own true eternal being. Uttering the name of someone gives you tremendous power. Most people can’t help but respond when their name is called. When you daily give blessings to specific people, over time you can transform those people and yourself into holy beings.

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The best way to offer blessings to others is anonymously, because then you don’t run the risk of inflating your ego, which could happen if you were to give the blessings in person. Also it would probably prove to be an impossible task if you were to actually contact people “in person” or even by phone or email to bless them. But since they live inside of you anyway, the most direct means to contact them is to go within your own mind and heart to connect to them.

There is great power in giving blessings, not just for the recipient of the blessings, but also for the one giving the blessings—you! To bless someone is to enchant them. Through the act of blessing, unconditional love is transmitted energetically from one body to another. By blessing another you can transform them into an angel-like holy being.

When you give a blessing you become a channel for Divine love, and because the blessing has to come through you first, you also become blessed in the process. When Mahatma Gandhi gave his advice, “be the change you wish to see in the world,” he was reminding us that there is no reality that exists separately outside of us.

Here is how the “Blessing Meditation” works:

Set aside some time; morning is usually best for most people. Sit down comfortably, close your eyes and become aware of your breathing. Feel each time there is breathing in and breathing out. Start with the people you know and love, as it is easier to give a blessing to them. Silently say the words, “Blessings to” as you inhale, and as you exhale say the name of someone.

Continue for several minutes, extending your blessings to include your family, friends, teachers, employers, employees and even past boy- or girlfriends. You will find that as you say their names their image will appear to you. With consistent practice, after a while you will be able to not only see them but also to feel their presence when you name them.

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Over time difficult issues that you may have with them will begin to resolve. Eventually you will find that when and if you do encounter them physically, like running into them on the street or in a grocery store, your relationship with them has magically and dramatically changed—you will feel that there is a new ease and mutual respect in your interactions with each other. They will seem friendlier towards you. You will be surprised to find that even when they make an appearance in your dreams they will appear as a benevolent, positive presence.

 

 

But don’t expect immediate results. Patience is important when you are cultivating your new reality. Every action, whether it is as subtle as a thought or more formed as a word or deed is like a seed being planted in soil. Seeds take time to grow. When the seeds you have planted begin to sprout you will enjoy watching how the people around you will begin to grow and blossom into the people you wish them to be and you will discover yourself as the person you always knew you could be. Ultimately, your whole world can become populated with holy, blessed beings.

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Sharon Gannon is the co-creator with David Life of the Jivamukti Yoga Method, a path to enlightenment through compassion for all beings. A student of Brahmananda Sarasvati, Swami Nirmalananda, and K. Pattabhi Jois, she is a pioneer in teaching yoga as spiritual activism and is credited for making yoga cool and hip—relating ancient teachings of yoga to the modern world.

Sharon is a musician and is a featured vocalist on many CDs including Sharanam, which is her solo album. She has produced numerous yoga-related DVDs and is the author of several books, including Jivamukti Yoga, The Art of Yoga, Cats and Dogs are People Too!, and Yoga and Vegetarianism. Her writing has appeared in numerous publications, including Toward 2012, Arvana V: Music, Magic and Mysticism, What comes after Money, Semiotexte and Yoga Journal. She writes a monthly essay called the Focus of the Month, which can be read here.

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28 Responses to “How to Transform Ex-lovers into Angels. ~ Sharon Gannon”

  1. Kumari says:

    Blessing meditation allows me to get in touch with friends and family wherever they may be. Some are in the neighborhood while some are across the sea… and some already left this world… It is a great way to start the day to send “thank you note” to everyone.. I learned that by extending love and kindness to others, you get more and more…
    Thank you so much Sharon-ji for reminding us about this beautiful meditation practice.

  2. tamar says:

    thank you, Sharon! this is a very powerful practice for thanksgiving. and every day.

  3. Purnima Langen says:

    I really appreciate having this blessing practice appear today. I was contemplating some of the more challenging aspects of my connection to so “called others,” but in truth I am facing myself and my confusion, anger and insecurities. Having this blessing practice is a beautiful and simple way to start my day.

  4. Kim Roberts says:

    This is lovely Sharon, thank you.

  5. Jessica Sjoo says:

    Thank you for sharing this with us!
    Blessings are very powerful, and sometimes we forget that we have the power to bless, the power to make a change and make a more compassionate world. And this is a great reminder. The blessings meditation is a very powerful tool towards compassion and love.

  6. Julia says:

    Dear Sharon, I hope I will be able to enchant & leave people feeling as wonderful as you left me feel after reading this. I will be trying this blessing meditation daily. Namaste

  7. Valerie Carruthers Valerie Carruthers says:

    The blessing meditation is a particularly beautiful practice because it wipes away the illusion of separateness. We carry this illusion as a brittle shell around the heart. By blessing those in our lives we wish them well and in so doing, break that shell open so the heart can flourish.

  8. holly faurot says:

    Thank you Sharon-ji for putting into writing this lovely practice. It is so fun and uplifting to see just how many beings in your life you want to send blessings to. With love. Your student, holly

  9. Rima says:

    This reminded me "Tonglen" meditation method that His Holiness the Dalai Lama practices everyday. Thank you, dear Sharon, for sharing your beautiful message!

  10. Sassi says:

    Dear Sharon, thank you so much for sharing this beautiful meditation with us. Xx

  11. 山田金三朗 says:

    すばらしい、瞑想の練習ですね。日本人にとって、”ありがとう”という言葉は心に実感できる言葉です。
    思いやりの心が広がるメッセージ、ありがとうございます

  12. Sutra Neti says:

    Extraordinary how such a simple practice can have such a profound impact on life. I have been practicing this meditation for some time and have already seen meaningful results. Thank you for offering this teaching.

  13. notjules says:

    Feeling blessed….thank you.

  14. andrea boyd says:

    this blessing meditation is an incredible way to send love, and brings about such a sweet feeling. thank you sharonji for writing this and continuing to teach.

  15. Kaori says:

    目の前に現れる苦手な人、すべての人にありがとうと祝福できるよう実践していきます。他人と自分という考えを薄くしたいです。

  16. akkie says:

    I love this story.
    You can read this in japanese.
    東京のジヴァムクティ教師あっきーです。
    ジヴァムクティ日本公式サイトで翻訳したものが読めます。
    ご覧ください。
    http://www.jivamuktiteachers.jp/pg78.html
    またお知り合いに広めて頂けると嬉しいです。

  17. ed shapiro says:

    Sharon- ROCKS!
    Lovingly,
    Ed

  18. banka says:

    Dear Me In The Form Of You:
    Upon this holiday/Holyday season, the most precious gift we can give is Blessings!
    As Sharon-Ji exquisitely wrote, "No matter how many good deeds you do or the many profound and intelligent thoughts you have or words you may say, what people will remember most about you is how you made them feel. If you really want to be loved by others, it is helpful to learn ways to make others feel good."
    This article will tap into your heart, and remind you of giving. The Gift of Love. The Gift of Blessings! ALOHA!

  19. Barton says:

    Connecting with this page and the people who are responding to it is a blessing in itself. As always, Sharon’s invitation is timely, instructive, and specific. It is a great blessing indeed to see her continue to devote her time and energy to the benefit of others. To experience this life as learning to love more deeply is the example dear Sharon offers us.

    • sharon gannon says:

      Although we live thousands of miles apart physically we live in each others hearts, thank you dear Barton for remembering

  20. Jeffrey Cohen says:

    It is as if others are only there to give us an opportunity to send forth blessings, to know we have a choice and practice to choose love. This is the power that transforms. Blessing becomes a beautiful way of being. We then are like Amma, embracing others with our blessed thoughts.

  21. Through her authentic and powerful gift of teaching, Sharon Gannon leads us to the greatest sense of purity and oneness for all beings with "The Magical Power of Giving Blessings". Hari Om !

  22. Julie Francine says:

    Loving this blessing meditation! Sweet and sweeter everyday.

  23. Ana Savoy says:

    The only way we can work through our Karmas is if we continue to bless others.Tthe good and the not so good! I love this woman (sharonji) as she is the inspiration and MATRIARCH to many lives all over the world. Thank you SHARON and DAVID for your continued love, blessings, and wisdom. Om NAMO NARAYAN ~*~

  24. YES!! This is it! Whenever we seem to be stuck , it's a call not to look outward but inward. It is a call to find the places in ourselves where we blame others instead of taking personal responisbility for situations in our lives, where judge others instead of BLESSING them, where we are shut down instead of being open and kind. By blessing them we bless ourselves as there is only One. Thank you Sharon Devi for sharing this, you're such an inspiring teacher..One Love, all ways..

  25. Gabriela Bozic says:

    YES!! This is it! Whenever we seem to be stuck , it's a call not to look outward but inward. It is a call to find the places in ourselves where we blame others instead of taking personal responisbility for situations in our lives, where judge others instead of BLESSING them, where we are shut down instead of being open and kind. By blessing them we bless ourselves as there is only One. Thank you Sharon Devi for sharing this, you're such an inspiring teacher..One Love, all ways..

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