So You Wanna Date a Yoga Goddess? ~ Heidi Parker

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on Mar 13, 2012
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Do you have what it takes to date a Yoga Goddess?

“It’s not what you call me, but what I answer to. I am a Goddess. I’m not afraid of the dark because I shine my own bright light through a stained glass window, creating and dancing in my own beauty.” ~ Heidi ♥

Yoga in the West is like a house on fiyaaaaaa!

I suppose it is the new in-thing to say, “Yeah, my girlfriend is a Yoga teacher.” AKA Yoga Goddess. This also includes all the beautiful women who do yoga, not just teachers.

You can seduce an average women’s mind to gain access to her body, but you must speak to a Yoga Goddess’ soul to gain her full attention and affection. We do not give it up easy. A Yoga Goddess knows that her passion is her purpose and living out her dreams will inspire you to do the same. This is her gift that she can give to the world.

A Yoga Goddess is open to everything and attached to nothing. Are you sure you want to venture into unchartered spiritual territory? It is in her nature to believe in something other than her relationships and herself. A Yoga Goddess attunes herself to the divine spirit of guidance, the universe, and always listens to her own intuition when she has to make a difficult decision. She is independent and will not look to you to solve her problems or to hold her hand when times get tough.

Can your ego handle this?

Ego is the reason men beg, steal, borrow, go to the gym and to war. A Yoga Goddess is fully aware of a man’s ego. She knows that love is the answer to any question. She does not want to go to battle with you. She will allow a man to feel in control so he can feel like a God but a Yoga Goddess always takes care of herself first. She will not correct you when you say something stupid, she will just give you that aloof look and allow you to make the correction yourself.

A Yoga Goddess never sees her man when she is running on empty. Instead, she takes the time to care for herself by meditating, going to a yoga class, engaging in an active sport, reading a book, spending time alone or with her girlfriends. A Yoga Goddess eats when she is hungry, she sleeps when she is tired and works when she has to. If she does not respond fast enough to your messages, sorry, but she has her own life and will make time for you when time allows. Catch her if you can. If you are trying to find her, most likely she can be found connecting to nature, walking barefoot in the sand, paddling out into the ocean on a surf board, flying through the air on a kite or grounding down to the earth in seated meditation.

A Yoga Goddess believes there is only one master, herself.

Not being led by ego but by mastering her mind and conscious thoughts through practice she can overcome anything. She does not need you to complete her, instead she needs you to compliment her. If you want to hang onto her, you must support her dreams and she will also embrace yours and provide the same support in return. The Yoga Goddess is whole and she is looking to attract another whole person. This is not a Jerry Maguire—“You complete me”—sorta story. Do not come carrying baggage because she travels light and does not carry a heavy load, she is free. When love floods her heart and starts to spill over, this is when, and only when, she can offer it to you.

You see, A Yoga Goddess is quite content to be on her own, never feeling alone because she finds a connection in the innate oneness of all beings. A Yoga Goddess lives in the moment. She forgives you and herself if a mistake is made because after all, she is human and understands we all make mistakes. She has compassion for everyone including herself. She does not bring up the past because she knows the past no longer exists and she does not live there. She does not focus on the future because it has yet to come, nor does it exist. She lives for today, for this moment, enjoying and appreciating each moment—truly living Santosha (contentment). She is happy for what she has. If you give her a gift, she is forever grateful—because though she gives without any expectation and attachment, she is not expecting it; because she knows that having expectations can lead to disappointment.

When a Yoga Goddess sees another beautiful woman, she is not jealous; she looks at her in awe and acknowledges her beauty. She will not judge another or engage in gossip because that goes against her own beauty. She does not want drama. She has more important things to philosophize about. She realizes that when she stumbles, it is only herself she is tripping over. She does not blame anyone and does the work necessary to fix her own self.

A Yoga Goddess is from the world. She is free. Free to be.

I created Seeking Santosha, a small boutique lifestyle wellness company, after ten years of a corporate rat-race lifestyle. I finally found the courage to follow my truest desires and live out my dream of running my own business. I am here to inspire you to do the same. To be the change you wish to see in the world, together, a common goal. I believe in the innate oneness of all beings. I will always speak (or write) my truth. I write for me because I always wanted to be a writer but I allowed my own flame to be blown out by the negative words of others. I love to write and no one can ever take that away from me again. It is your choice to read, or not to read. Thank you for treading lightly over my dreams. It is my purpose and life’s mission to inspire through living a yogic lifestyle. I give back to humanity through my yoga practice, by teaching, volunteering, traveling, living in the moment, loving, sharing, and giving. I want to inspire people to gain the courage to live out their dreams. I am following my dream and passion and feel I have finally found my mission and life’s purpose. Living it inspires others to do the same. When you are happy, everyone benefits. Love, peace, light, and Oneness! You could reach me via email or through Facebook.


Prepared by Soumyajeet Chattaraj/Edited by Tanya L. Markul

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49 Responses to “So You Wanna Date a Yoga Goddess? ~ Heidi Parker”

  1. derek says:

    Eeep. I'd love to date a girl who shares my passion for yoga — but probably not this one … or any girl who refers to herself as a "Yoga Goddess"; I mean really. Talk about having a high opinion of yourself! A healthy self-esteem is a good thing … but I'm not sure I'd want to date anyone who sees themself as that much of a prize to be "won."

  2. Tanya Lee Markul says:

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  3. Seeking Santosha says:

    Women are not prizes to be won, you are right Derek. The message is a reminder to women, to love your self so you can be independent, whole and happy. Only then we can share this love with another and the world. The playful words of yoga goddess is not a term I created. I was just using it to make the writing fun. Until you have walked in another person's shoes, who are you to judge who I am? Finally I have the self esteem to write what I feel in my heart being abused as a child. It's people like you who always made me hide my passions. Yoga helped give me the courage to share my feelings and gifts with the world. With much compassion to you Derek and your quest to find a women who is strong and to not be intimated by her strength, Heidi

  4. Roniq says:

    Fantastic read Heidi, love it!!! This is how I feel about relationships, very healthy perspective!!! Thank you for sharing:-)

  5. yogijulian says:

    i have a feeling your meaning is better served by replacing the word "compliment" with the word "complement" in the sentence: "She does not need you to complete her, instead she needs you to compliment her. "

    to compliment is to make an admiring remark like "you look great in those lululemon yoga pants."

    to complement is to make complete or perfect in the way perhaps that salt might be a complement to pepper or a yoga class might be complemented by a closing meditation….

    it is a sweet article – i would be a little cautious though about using the somewhat conceited notion of being a "yoga goddess" to justify being self absorbed and aloof or caught up in an identity of specialness that is almost too good for the conventional world/man…. this may be more of a sign of the immature spiritual seeker.

    it is tricky because i think you are writing in a way intended to inspire women, but the article is addressed toward men, and i am not sure that it works in terms of giving men much insight/advice.

    all of that said i look forward to more from you and feel your sincere and playful intentions!
    all the best!

  6. Christof says:

    I really do like this, and there is some amazing (and fun-to-read) content here!

    My favourite quote from here is probably: "… expectations can lead to disappointment." I acknowledge that it is extremely difficult to live with no expectations, but simply delving into the world of Yoga has helped me sunconsciously shift expectations to the side (atleast slightly).

    One of the parts I did not like is: "A Yoga Goddess believes there is only one master, herself." A true Yogi knows that we are all masters. I'm not saying you're not a "true Yogi", but I think that statement sounds a little superior, which Yoga is not about. We are all equal, we are all beautiful, we are all masters.

    I think a huge undertone of this is the difficulty in finding a partner who can handle the lifestyle and mind of a committed Yogi/spiritual being! I fully agree with that – and I bet you know, as well, that we don't care – we will happily wait it out until we find someone who can handle it (and who is awesome in their own ways – no Yoga necessary to be with us!).

  7. Zack says:

    You are too cool for school

  8. James says:

    Loooool. That was… interesting.

  9. Seeking Santosha says:

    Yogasamurai….Tone is so hard to understand through these silly messages and I'm certain if we were sitting here face to face, it would not be so harsh. Soooo, I'm sending you a big virtual {{{{{{hug}}}}}}. I don't know you but I have much compassion and love for you and your Buddhist friend, truly. I'm not going to judge either one of you as you have judged me. I'm going to say, in oneness, I love you both and sorry my writing has offended you and your friend. I wish you all the best on your journey. I'm going to bow out here. Can you too? Or do you need to have the last word? Whatever you chose, know my message is sincere. …OH, and I've been spending more time these days in meditation than in actual Asana because the hurricane winds here in Nicaragua have been blowing my mat around. I spend most of my time alone. Not in a yoga studio but in my jungle home in Nicaragua. I do not know the "female yoga world" that you speak of as I've never really lived in a city or been a part of that culture, but again, I understand your judgement and assumptions because you have chosen to see with your mind/ego versus your heart. All the best….In love, and peace, Heidi

  10. satyam says:

    Just change it to "Yogini"..and the whole context will change and the "grey areas" will become more visible to your detractors.

    Good Luck….Keep moving towards the sublime so that you can silence the pain and reach your "Moksha" which after all is the eventual goal.

  11. Harleigh Quinn says:

    There's really nothing I can say that yoga samurai and a multitude of others have not already said.
    If it's harsh, that's really too bad.
    I just read an article that celebrates ego in a practice that is designed to alleviate one's self of the burden of ego.

    That alone tells me the writer COMPLETELY MISSED THE MARK, much less understands yoga or the TRUE yoga goddess….

    Thank you, guys.

    I could have said none of that better myself. :-)

  12. Witness says:

    Interesting words from above….
    a) "will not look to you to….hold her hand when times get tough"…..really? who, doesn't want emotional support from their partner?
    b) "Do not come carrying baggage"….really? We all have baggage (those willing to help unpack are those we should keep)!
    c) "She will allow a man to feel in control so he can feel like a God"…..permission to feel in control? Why thank you!

  13. Harleigh Quinn says:

    I have seen MANY other self absorbed, ego poisoned women that have the exact same mannerisms due to what they BELIEVE they have learned through yoga.

    I have seen more separation occur, more evil attitudes, more abuse (though now more creative and veiled), more cattiness, more just plain inappropriate, using, and ugly behavior from people calling themselves yoginis and yoga goddesses than I ever did in high school or growing up with at least the APPEARANCE of being black.

    Bottom line is that the "need" to be an "individual" within a practice that is supposed to join others, is called spiritual materialism.
    It's not for the health benefits any longer, it's for the status of being part of a new, special, private club that is the yoga community.

  14. yogijulian says:

    heidi – great job on fielding all this criticism (and some praise) and remaining kind and generous – it can't have been easy.

    i am sure many people loved your article. were you able to take anything away from the sincere points that i am others raised?

  15. Seeking Santosha says:

    Wow, you really need some love Harleigh Quinn. I'm very sorry to hear that you had your heart broken. You see, I'm always the one that gets my heart broken. BIG HUG, again. I do not take your reaction personally because I see that something I have written has been like me holding a mirror to you and you have seen a reflection that you did not like and because you have identified my words with your past hurts. I live in the jungle in Nicaragua and I mainly wear flip flops and cut off jean shorts. I have never been apart of the yoga world outside of Nicaragua. I do not do yoga in a studio. I practice so I can control my mind chatter and connect with the divintiy within myself and become closer to God. This article is just a reminder for myself to stay independent in a relationship because I have always lost who I was in my own heart. I won't do that again.

    I'm sorry you have been hurt. I did submit other photos to elephant journal that were NOT of me but because I sent so many, they selected these ones.

    Come join me in Nicaragua and heal your heart.

    Just because I quoted a few awesome quotes out of a few books that I have not even read the whole book but rather skimmed through and just highlighted what I thought was relevant. Again, you have "assumed" and "judged" me by thinking just because I took a few of these brilliant quotes that I agree with these people and obviously they are my Guru's and this is why I wrote this article. HA! Osho and Ram Das are not my Gurus. I see the good in everyone. And highlight the best from each person instead of pointing out the negative. We have the same blood. In oneness.

    Sending you lots of love and peace. Seriously, one love.

  16. Hyman Wisecarver says:

    Go easy on tea and coffee. Tea and coffee are harmless by themselves. It’s when you add the cream and sugar that they become fattening. Did you know that having a cup of tea or coffee that has cream and at least two cubes of sugar is as bad as having a big piece of rich chocolate cake’

  17. JungleCat says:

    Heidi thank you for sharing this article. You lighthearted sarcasm and fun combined with encouraging empowering words was a breath of fresh air. I appreciate your willfulness to be vulnerable and express what you feel compelled to share. My favorite line is "A Yoga Goddess knows that her passion is her purpose and living out her dreams will inspire you to do the same. This is her gift that she can give to the world". It is when you allow yourself to be open that you also open the door for judgement and criticism all which I feel you handled with grace! Continue to follow your dreams and inspire those around you…even it means ruffling some feathers along the way! It is often those things which make us a little uneasy that have the most meaning for us! NAMASTE~

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  20. To you says:

    Lame lame lame. This is no yoga goddess. Am not sure she even does yoga if its not in front of a camera.

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