Please Listen to Our Children and Treat them With Respect.
Dear Moms, Dads and Everyone Else,
Please do our world a favor, start treating our children as the most intelligent, wise and saint-like beings that exist on the planet. Why? Because they are.
Haven’t we learned a lesson?
For decades upon decades, centuries upon centuries, we spend our adulthoods dealing with our childhoods—mending and healing the pain, unlearning all of the things we learned that weren’t true.
We should start using life for what it is for:
What if we started a movement today?
Treat Our Children with Respect. Stop Torturing Them.
1. Stop baby talking (I want to vomit when I hear people change the pitch of their vocal cords and remove letters from a word, replacing it with nonsense). Next time you lunge to speak to a baby or child in gibberish, ask yourself one question, “Would I speak to Buddha this way?”
2. Stop coddling. They will learn how to sit up and crawl and walk, I promise. We all learn to pee and poop in the toilet. There is no need for all day potty parties, let it be.
3. Stop hovering like a rescue helicopter. They can take a little bump and bruise, it is a mandatory part of childhood. If we never fall, we never learn to rise.
4. Stop over scheduling. Children need time to be. How do you feel on the days when you go, go, go? You are exhausted and depleted, not revitalized. Playtime is vital for a child’s cognitive development, in fact it is just as important as sleep.
5. Stop placing them in competitions, like a show pony. If you do, you are saying to your child, “You need to be better than them, and if you don’t win you are less than them.” The truth is, there is no better than and there is no less than. Teach your children the truth: we are all equal.
6. Stop forcing them to eat their vegetables. They will find their taste buds and develop a balanced diet just through your actions. You eat healthfully, they will follow in your footsteps.
7. Stop teaching them words that don’t really exist. Example: A vagina is a vagina, it is not a woo hoo. A penis is a penis it is not a pee pee.
8. If something or someone dies, say they died. I’ve yet to see the farm where all these people and animals are hanging out eating cookies.
9. If you are crying, say why you are crying, don’t make up a story about getting splashed in the face. Kids are intuitive and empathic. They know, and if you hide your feelings you send them a message that they are not allowed to be open, raw and free to express their feelings.
10. And for goodness sakes, let them dress themselves! When we force them to wear something, not only are we squashing their self-expression, we are sending a message loud and clear, “You don’t own your body. Someone else does.” This is the antithesis to promoting independence, authenticity and self worth.
Let me clue you all in on a little secret…
They know it all.
They know more than we do.
We should be listening to them.
With love, respect and a slap of truth from a fellow parent and human being,
Editor: Brianna Bemel
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