If Jesus Wasn’t Such a Good Guy, He’d Punch You.

Via on May 7, 2012
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 North Carolina Clergy Makes Hateful Commentary Regarding Gay Marriage.

In the 1800’s, Thomas Jefferson advocated for a “wall of separation of church and state.”  This wall was to keep Congress out of the affairs of the Church, but it isn’t keeping the church—or the congregation—out of Congress or people’s private lives.  North Carolina clergy members are making national headlines for their hateful commentary regarding gay marriage.

Tim Rabon, a pastor at Raleigh’s Beacon Baptist Church, viciously attacked states such as such as Connecticut, Maryland, and Massachusetts, which have “re-defined” marriage to include lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) couples.  He asked his congregation, “What is stopping them from redefining marriage from a person and a beast? We’re not far from that.”

Sean Harris, senior pastor of Berean Baptist Church in Fayetteville,  recently came under fire for encouraging members of his congregation to attack their children if they showed signs of behavior outside of their gender norms, going so far as to tell parents to punch their children.

 “Dads, the second you see your son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist,” he said. “Man up. Give him a good punch. Okay? You are not going to act like that. You were made by God to be a male, and you are going to be a male.  And when your daughter starts acting too butch, you reign [sic] her in. And you say, ‘Oh, no, sweetheart. You can play sports. Play them to the glory of God. But sometimes you are going to act like a girl and walk like a girl and talk like a girl and smell like a girl and that means you are going to be beautiful. You are going to be attractive. You are going to dress yourself up.'”

Harris stands behinds his comments, saying that Jesus often used violent imagery to help his followers understand things.

As someone who is “ordained” and as a therapist, and more importantly as human being, I find this commentary disturbing, for multiple reasons.

  1. First and foremost, didn’t Jesus also say to “love everyone?” Did he stutter? Or was there some disclosure in the fine print where he said “excluding gay people?”
  2. Doesn’t the Bible talk about staying out of worldly affairs? Like legislature that isn’t going to interfere with how your church is run, or violate your right to worship as you please? People are going to bring their personal beliefs and agendas to the voting booth regardless, but for the church to be sponsoring billboards actively championing the suppression of a gay marriage amendment seems a little much to me. It almost seems to infringe on our individual liberties, including freedom of religion, if legislature is shoved down my throat because your church championed the cause. I understand “freedom of speech,” but please note that the Bill of Rights is intended for individuals.
  3. Doesn’t the Bible also speak about being nonjudgmental?
  4. Is not the entire message of the Bible to help you become a better, more loving, person? How is this commentary aligned with that goal? It is full of judgement, hatred, and even advocates child abuse!
  5. Marriage is about love. What God has put together, let no man take apart (you know, since we’re only using Scriptures for evidence where it suits our own agendas). Perhaps God has put together some of these gay couples. Who are you to try to take it apart?
  6. If Jake and John are in love and married, why does that bother you so much? Is it messing up your marriage? Your life? I didn’t think so.
  7. The entire concept of “gender norms” is outdated and ridiculous. I don’t even want to get into a full fledged analysis of Harris’ commentary that sounds like it is borderline endorsing the hyper-sexualization of little girls and rape culture. Girls aren’t supposed to be good at science and math. It’s a boy thing. Boys shouldn’t cry or do yoga—that’s for girls. Your kids will flourish when you stop trying to force them into a role and give them loving guidance and space to do what makes them happy- not when you beat them into submission. (Are you reading this, Sean Harris?!!!!)

Mr. Harris & Mr. Rabon, I just want you both to know that Jesus is somewhere shaking his head sadly. Yes, Jesus had human emotions at times, according to the Scriptures.

I also think that Jesus is wishing he wasn’t such a good person, because he’d probably like to punch the both of you as well.  Don’t quote me on that though, because I’ll say you “took it out of context”.

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8 Responses to “If Jesus Wasn’t Such a Good Guy, He’d Punch You.”

  1. Mariana Wirth says:

    Incredible homophobic people, they simply cannot accept that LGBT people are as PERSONS as they are.
    There's still a long way to walk about it. Thanks for your article!

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  3. Debra says:

    One of the best commentaries I've read Amen :)

  4. Christy says:


  5. chrissy says:

    This hits so many nails on the head. A friend of mine had a quote on her fb today that was simple and perfect: “claiming that someone else’s marriage is against your religion is like being angry at someone for eating a donut because you’re on a diet”. People who try to control other’s lives are usually the ones that have lost control of their own. Love is love, be grateful.

  6. It's a matter of the scripture being altered too many times throughout history for you to see that it demands proper lifestyles by scientific understanding. Quantum Mechanics & Harmonic Resonant Frequencies:: Every Atom in existence creates a specific frequency, measurable on the Angstrom Scale. In a human body there are over 15,000 Magnetic and Electric Charges of Negative, Positive, and Neutral polarity. The act of living, exudes frequencies based upon your charge state- the frequencies your body emits are called your soul. Your soul is contagious, you can realize this simply by watching what happens when one person on a train begins laughing (youtube vid, it's out there). Or yawning.
    The problem is not that what they're doing is wrong in "Gods eyes"- It's that the action of purposefully altering your charge state causes damage to your body and mind- and all of those around you once they're depolarized entirely through the natural flows of energy that are your soul. You wouldn't let someone even joke about killing themselves, why do you allow people to openly depolarize you? Society is too confusing sometimes… Not like we haven't seen civilization after civilization follow this EXACT path- into ruin, throughout 12,000 years of history.

    • Edward Tachy says:

      You are a nut. I hate it when people deliberately try to link the real (quantum physics) with spiritual mumbo jumbo. Just because quantum physics is counter-intuitive and strange – it doesn't mean you can therefore intuit any kind of crappy theory and have it validated because quantum theory is weird. Quantum mechanics is yet to be proved wrong in ANY experiment. Moreover, it works.

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