Your Ugly “V” Is Normal & Gorgeous. (Adult)

Via Tanya Lee Markul
on May 23, 2012
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Update: Labiaplasty – The Australian Classification Board decides what vaginas must look like in soft porn. If a vagina has excess tissue it may be labelled as “offensive”, so porn companies must digitally edit or remove parts of the labia, leading to only one type of vagina see in porn magazines:

Meanwhile, politicians are ignoring real problems.
This is insane. “Remember, Australia also classifies women in porn whose breasts are too small as possible child porn and it’s banned. So no A cups.”


Update: Of Vulvas and Vaginas. ~ Debra DeAngelo {Adult}


You don’t like your bits and twinkles?

Have you seen the documentary film, The Perfect Vagina? It’s certainly not for the faint of heart. I sat through the entire thing feeling squeamish, legs crossed tight, one hand over my eyes and a little curious about the look of my own undercarriage. Why all the tension and peculiar interest? The film is about vaginal cosmetic surgery, and according to this film, it’s growing in popularity.

So what is it about the vagina that’s causing a ruckus? Ladies and gentlemen, meet the labia minora.

Photo credit: Wikipedia

According to Wikipedia: The labia minora (singular: labium minus), also known as the inner labia, inner lips, or nymphae, are two flaps of skin on either side of the human vaginal opening, situated between the labia majora (outer labia, or outer lips). Inner lips vary widely in size, colour, and shape from woman to woman.

Labiaplasty (930,000 Google search results), also known as vaginal rejuvenation, labia minora contouring, labial reshaping, female genital surgery or labial reduction, is the surgical procedure of reducing the length of the inner labia or inner flaps. (I have also learned of a  procedure called vaginoplasty that tightens the vagina and muscles surrounding it.)

There is one profound question one cannot help but to ask: Why? 

As if we need another item on our already massive list of things to stress over, or another body part to obsess about. Why is it now a big deal if our inner flappage is a bit longer than the outer bits?

According to the film, women who want this surgery are seeking a more ‘youthful’ appearance and/or want to balance out the appearance of their labia minora with the surrounding tissue. Some women have claimed to be embarrassed of the length of their labia minora. Some say they’ve been ridiculed or teased by family members or partners. Others claim the length has caused them to have problems doing certain activities or from wearing certain clothing articles. Others say that it has caused (psychological) difficulties in the bedroom.

The influence/pressure for wanting a more ‘balanced and youthful’ appearance is said to come from the aesthetic vah-jay-jays featured in pornographic magazines and films or the skilful yet deceitful technique known as beauty magazine airbrushing. Some also blame plastic surgeons for developing such a procedure and the women who have the money to pay for it (the average cost ranges between 5,000-10,000 USD).

Photo credit: Flickr Commons

I also can’t help but to ponder, when did waxing and shaving become a part of our beauty routine? According to sex researcher Dr. Debra Herbenick, young women’s pubic hair has been steadily disappearing over the past decade and that younger women tend to shave it off while older women choose to wax. What happened to good old-fashioned ‘maintenance’ where we left a bit of the forest intact? Trees do look naked without leaves. Is a bit of pubic hair just not sexy anymore?

Anyways, I tried to find some statistics about large labia minora cases (also known as labia hypertrophy) and unsurprisingly could not find any solid numbers. In all honesty, I’m sure this number is huge.

But, just because your labia minora peaks out from your labia majora, does it really mean you have a problem? According to the documentary the typical size of the labia minora ranges from two to ten centimetres (0.8 to 3.9 inches). Supporting this range, a study by the Department of Gynaeology in the UK in 2004 shared the length of the labia minor of women between ages 18-50 to be 0.78 to 3.9 inches.

The fact of the matter is, the labia minora comes in varying symmetry, sizes and colours and are influenced by things such as genetics, childbirth, hormones and age.

What are the risks of the surgery?

I’ve read that some of the risks can include temporary numbness, bleeding, pigmentation changes, pain, decreased feeling in that area, asymmetry between the inner and outer labia, excess scar tissue buildup (that can appear as lumps), hematoma (broken blood vessels or blood clot), puckering of the skin and sexual dysfunction. It is also important to note that there has not been any substantial findings or research as to the long-term consequences of such a surgery.

If you really love me, don’t you also love my dangles and bobs?   

What exactly is the idea of the perfect vagina anyway? Not too tight? Not too baggy? Or in the words of this film “hairless, neat, pink and tucked-in”? If you ask me, the perfect vagina is a myth.

Photo credit: Wikipedia (A variation of female pubic hair  on a mature female.)

I asked ten random guys ages 25-35, if they thought the size of the labia minora matters. Here are their responses:

1. “It does not matter. What’s important to me are a woman’s curves.”

2. “I don’t think this matters. I don’t think men are that fussy.”

3. “For me it doesn’t matter at all. I actually think it’s quite sexy if you can see them.”

4. “I think it’s a total misunderstanding that any female would get this surgery. I think it’s a total minority of guys that would wish this for a woman. This part of the body is like the ears, it’s a part you cannot judge by prettiness and it doesn’t make sense to me to alter it. This type of surgery, if done just for looks, is a waste of money. Genetically we are coded to be turned on by a woman’s vagina pretty much however it looks.”

5. “All labia minora are created equal.”

6. “I for one, don’t care at all.”

7. “I’d much prefer that she is comfortable with herself versus being neurotically insecure enough to get surgery.”

8. “I don’t think vaginas were meant to look ‘pretty’.”

9. “Couldn’t give a damn.”

10. “I’m sure a guy is just happy to be there.”

There we have it.

Perhaps we should stop reading/watching so much porn, stop perusing beauty magazines and comparing our vaginas. We could also save ourselves a lot of pain and/or money by bringing pubic hair back. :)

Making love, looking good, feeling great about who you are doesn’t involve being what someone else thinks you ‘should’ be. Of course it’s a person’s own choice to have this type of surgery or not, but no matter what, a little more self-love couldn’t hurt. It’s not always easy, but a little bit goes a hell of a long way.


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About Tanya Lee Markul

Luring the magic of what is natural back into our daily lives, Tanya Markul is a freer of creativity, of inner beauty + power, and an enthusiastic igniter of the wild spirit! She re-writing the wild flower sutras, and offers a refreshing & badass view on spirituality, wellness & authentic living. Sensitivity is her tree trunk, flower stem, and nucleus. It is her belly, and her heart. Tanya is an artist of life, a faery of trees, a wanderer of the dark, a writer of heart, a misfit yogini, and an Urban Priestess apprentice. She believes in the power of your personal weird, quirky, magic, and that only path toward inner freedom & light, is through the dark — eyes closed, heart open. Tanya is the creator of The Urban Howl, Yoga Write Now & Waking Wild. Join her free forum for monthly yoga & writing practices here. Join her free forum for 30 days of exercise for 30 days here. Join her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter & get her free weekly & quirky newsletter here.


212 Responses to “Your Ugly “V” Is Normal & Gorgeous. (Adult)”

  1. GreatNorthSky says:

    Ridiculously Disgusting and Incredibly Sad, Is This The Ultimate Bottom Of The Shit We Do To Fulfill Ourselves, BTW, I am Totally On Board With West, : O )

  2. @zebrareader says:

    I have to write that this is a subject that never occurred to me. I am a heterosexual woman and had no complaints.

  3. A very interesting article, with one MASSIVE failure. You aren’t talking about the vagina. The vagina is the passage way from the uterus to the outside. You are talking about the VULVA.

    • Tanya Lee Markul says:

      Hi Debra — I hear you and know it. 🙂 I think the article makes that pretty clear, moving past the title. 🙂

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  5. jazz says:

    few thoughts:
    I saw that docco and thought it was great.
    have you read 'the bearded lady'? it talks about the obsession with being hairless.
    even more bewildering to me is the Hymen restoration surgery…
    its a shame its such a touchy subject that one can take to heart so easily, sometimes even overhearing a joke or comment can sting deep and make you wonder if you are normal or desirable.

  6. Billy Herrington says:

    Pussy goooooooooood!!!!!!!

  7. what can be said about the vagina? they are mostly pretty nice. women aren't the only ones obsessed with how others may perceive the appearance of their private parts, if the amount of penis shaping equipment available on the net is any indication…. men can be just as self-conscious, and both men and women tend to play it off as if they aren't, when they are.

  8. Christina says:

    Wonderful article and insights. Keep on speakin' up! Our vagina's thank you.

  9. Mr. Pussy says:

    You women have beautiful bodies, in diverse shapes, that we men love to look at and touch. The vagina is the center of your female essence – revel in it’s beauty and power and share generously with good men who appreciate it – don’t waste your time with guys who have hang-ups.

  10. Atom Kazarian says:

    To me, a girl wishing to change her vagina is the same as someone wishing to have different fingerprints. I tend to assume there's identity issues or something of that ilk.

  11. Damian says:

    i love all because its nature and there is nothing you can do about it but hurt your self.take comes and be happy is what i can tell any lady in this forum.not every one is equal to another

  12. Tiana says:

    Quite honestly, it’s silly. I for one DO shave my pubic area, but that is in part for the benefit of my mate and I really enjoy oral sex and honestly neither my mate, nor any of my exes, nor any man that I have ever known or woman for that matter, depending on how you swing, that would want a mouthful of pubic hair when pleasuring their partner, plus, it can be hard enough to breath as it is while administering oral sex, that we don’t, at least for my relationships, we don’t need/want hair obscuring our airways when we do take a moment to breath from burying our faces in the vagina. So for the pubic hair issue I have a definite stance and that’s why. but as for the surgery for the labia minoris, I mean really wtf? Why? As one guy they questioned says “I don’t think vaginas were meant to look ‘pretty'” He’s both right and wrong. Compared to other parts of the female anatomy, no it’s not that pretty to look at, but to others, it’s extremely beautiful, in it’s natural, as god gave us, UN-altered by surgery state. Besides, it’s a bit more fun if they are bigger, it just means finding the clitoris if more of a challenge and foreplay ends up being longer and more fun as a result. And really I have heard of people being insecure of their looks, but this is just ridiculous, and with all those risks, ladies, it’s NOT worth it! I for one have NEVER heard of a case where a woman has been teased or had problems wearing certain kinds of clothing or any other kind of so called “problems” because the have “big” inner lips. We come in all shapes and sizes and we are all beautiful.

  13. thatguy says:

    Ridiculous. I am a man, and I happen to ADORE long, visible inner lips. I know a lot of other men who feel the same. Be proud!

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  15. emily says:

    love it! thank you!

  16. Ron says:

    The bigger the lips the more there is to suck on ! Who wouldn't enjoy larger lips that have the texture of velvet when licking. The bigger the better. Never be ashamed of something so beautiful .

  17. big ben says:

    there's nothing more beautiful and sweeter then an ugly pussy

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  19. Michelle says:

    Every one is unique. There is no such a thing as a perfect vagina.

  20. Paul Mendell says:

    Utter bullshit! Every woman’s vagina is as unique as she is. Being somewhat, um, orally fixated, I find labia lips entrancing…more to enjoy, not better or worse. Frankly, my “up close and personal” approach really is selfish; I get to experience her orgasms that much more. As far as the shaving thing goes, I prefer the fur. Not that I object, it’s a lovely discovery, as a fun treat for her lover or personal preference because it’s more sensual for her. That said, I think men who insist on that are really looking for a pre-pubescent girl…

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  22. racy says:

    i love to kiss on vagina………..

  23. Mike says:

    Call me pedantic, and I am constantly surprised, why is it that women refer to their visible genitalia as a vagina? If I am looking at a naked woman she has to be doing gymnastics for me to see her vagina, and at best I will see the vaginal opening.

  24. feel ugly says:

    I have felt ashamed about my vagina and it has stopped me from forming relationships. I had some comments about it from a guy I slept with who then told friends of his (women and men) who then said derogatory things to me at a party about my vagina. I was mortified and I havn’t had sex now for over 2 and a half years because of it. I went to the doctors about it and they said I was completely normal and when I have looked at pictures of other vaginas my vagina looks completely normal too. Maybe it was because I dumped the guy but I;m really pleased I read this article I was/am considering surgery

  25. doc says:

    i enjoyed this reading… n i like hair on right places

  26. letslogout says:

    can anyone here tell me how to increase the length of pubic hair. as i like bushy hairy penis. what are the methods to do it. please help

  27. rihana says:

    Personally I like well shaved smooth and silky
    skin. My husband loves to lick lips of my yuni and all that well shaved neat and clean area. I love to have this fun.

  28. Leo the Lion says:

    Out of all my dates and relationships, I most say that I’ve never seen an ugly vagina, actualy I’ve always seen them as such beautiful part of a woman’s body, we man don’t care about you inner lips looks we just want to be there, no surgeries nothing will make us think it’s pretier than just natural.

  29. phil says:

    Penises and pussies are perfect! I love them both!!

  30. Maya says:

    "Making love, looking good, feeling great about who you are doesn’t involve being what someone else thinks you ‘should’ be."

    And yet, you asked guys for their opinion about us.
    Asking means caring…

    • Carina says:

      Exactly. it's a bit difficult not to think about what someone else is thinking when you're sharing and open yourself to him.
      Not like you're making love, looking good and feeling great by yourself…

  31. Megan says:

    Thank you for this lovely article.

    I couldn't agree more that we've got a big messy problem around how many women (and even girls!) feel about their vaginas/vulvas.

    I'm a new member to this community, so 1) – Hi nice to meet you all, I like it here, and 2) I get the feeling from poking around a bit that readers of this site are more inclined to be pro-diverse-vaginas/everyone-is-beautiful than the rest of the population may be at large.

    I think this because I've spent time with my little sister and her friends, and heard them talk about how anxious they feel about their bodies. How that dread of being abnormal affects their confidence and relationships. I've had classmates who feel the same way, and even casual conversations in women's restrooms or at parties – many women feel absolutely wretched about the state of their bits. To the extent that it never even occurs to a person to question or examine the negative feelings she has in this regard. And it's heartbreaking for all of the excellent reasons mentioned here.

    So if you agree with this article – please share it! Send it to your family and partners and friends. For all the times they hear "you're not right the way you are" hearing that "you're absolutely fine as you are," is like water on the desert.

  32. Yogifem says:

    Ew the comments from men on here are so gross.

  33. LuckyJane says:

    Sounds like “Men Rule” has a tiny little penis he is ashamed of.

  34. yoganerdmd says:

    Word of caution (I always feel the need to put my doctor hat on, and of course play devil's advocate):
    Yes, the idea that we have shamed women about their vaginas to the point that they are driven to surgery is appalling.
    But not all vaginal reconstructions are cosmetic. A number of women with "redundant labial folds" (our fancy medical name for what you reference) actually experience significant irritation, rashes, bleeding, and even skin infections from excess labial tissue. If you're like me, your legs crossed a little tighter.
    It's like plastic surgery. RECONSTRUCTIVE surgery is one thing; if you have ever watched the series of surgeries young children with Treacher-Collins undergo so they can look just a LITTLE like normal kids, you get that plastic surgery has its place. However, like Spiderman's uncle said, with great power comes great responsibility. Just because we CAN give a 100lb woman triple-D breasts doesn't mean we SHOULD.
    Now BLEACHING! Can we talk about THAT? Not only does it have no redeeming medical benefit, also: why do we want our pubic area to resemble that of a prepubescent girl? Creepy, if you ask me.

  35. Bill Arfman says:

    There is NO such thing as an UGLY labia!!!!

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  38. Normal says:

    I personally think that the lips are beautiful. Variety is also beauty. I'm so sick of seeing girls shaven bald down there. Just leave it alone!!! My natural instinct when i see a naturally hairy vag, is to hone in like a cruise missile; not so for a shaven one, its a hit or miss. The shaving should be an exception not a rule. Let nature do its thing (we've been programmed for millions of years). On the flip side, stop circumcising baby boys!

  39. @valkyreens says:

    The word "should" is a pesky being and one to learn to avoid at all costs.

  40. Jjboyd says:

    Are you kidding me? Women want the most beutiful part of a vagina cut on? I can't believe this. I love them big. The bigger the more sexy they are to me. Please ladies, leave them alone!

  41. Stephen says:

    it's the surgeons propagating the psychology of insecurity… twisted medical industry in this world. not nice to these poor girls at all.

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  43. jdember says:

    The article and the comments made me furious.

    A lot of the stuff said here is just trying to make women feel better about themselves. Men have to cop the "penis size" comments all the time.

    This surgery is no different to someone having a penis enlargement.

    There IS definitely such thing as an ugly vagina, just do a google search you'll find heaps of them. I personally haven't come across one but i've definitely seen them.

    Secondly, I've seen a lot of people talk about bringing pubic hair back… You have to be crazy!!! It should be erradicated (Men & Women). It should be part of normal grooming like getting a hair cut, shaving your legs or chest or back or whatever. The "pre-pubescent" argument for pubic hair is a joke. Surely you know the person you with is at least 16 so what are you afraid of. If you need to see pubic hair to be sure of.. then you have problems. Seeing pubic hair at all is a huge turn off for me and would likely cause me not to see that person again. Also, if I found a vagina to be particularly hideous then oral sex is out of the question. This is not sexist, it just depends on the person. Just like some women won't do oral or won't swallow or whatever.

  44. Joel says:

    I absolutely don't get the trend toward no pubic hair. I want to sleep with a woman, not a little girl! Keeping it trimmed is nice, of course, and I do the same to myself… but a "scorched earth" policy is so unattractive. And really, have you tried rubbing any part of your body up against stubble? A scratchy vagina is awful. I've heard so many female friends make a fuss about their boyfriend's beard, stubble, etc… pretty much the same deal :0)

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