A Love Note to the “Hypersensitive,” “Too Nice,” & “Takers-of-It-Too-Personally.” ~ Randi Buckley

Via on Dec 8, 2012
Photo: Hannah K.

We need you.

They say: You’re too sensitive. You take it too personally. You’re thin-skinned. You need to toughen up.

I hear: I have no idea how in touch with the world you are, nor can I grasp the depths of your empathy, from which I benefit. It’s like you can see colors that are naked to my eye.

You carry the awareness of others—of those far away, those unseen—in your heart on behalf of us all. You are the torchbearer of the forgotten. You bear the weight of others’ pain so they have a lifeline to the rest of humanity. You take on my share of pain when my words sting you. I can’t imagine the space you hold so that others can feel cared for and acknowledged, even when no one else can see that you’re doing this.

You bear witness so that we know, so we cannot forget. Your mere presence is equanimity. Your light is omnipresent. Your energy is generously given in service of your ability to intuit and sense even the most subtle change in weather, perspective, mind or heart.

You are a barometer for how we are doing as a species. You are a canary in the coal mine of our culture, and are wrecked by violent movies and the news of pain and mistreatment of fellow humans, animals and the earth.

I’m not aware that your sensitivity can cause you physical pain. If I knew the depths of your consideration, I’d be humbled and inspired. I don’t see or consider that you are a gift and should be treasured. I don’t know to pay attention. I don’t understand, even though I am the beneficiary of your grace.

I say: Thank you, friend. Rest and take care. We need you.

 

Described as “equal parts Pema Chodron, Sofia Loren and Clint Eastwood (with a splash of George Carlin),” Randi Buckley takes women from tricky to truth, from icky to ease. She is a coach and guide for wisdom and truth when life gets sticky.

Visit her website at randibuckley.com or email her at randi@randibuckley.com.

 

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Editor: Thandiwe Ogbonna

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11 Responses to “A Love Note to the “Hypersensitive,” “Too Nice,” & “Takers-of-It-Too-Personally.” ~ Randi Buckley”

  1. Carrie says:

    Thank you! This is a gift.

  2. Marianne says:

    Love this. As someone who has been told 'You are too sensitive' all her life and knows that this is exactly what makes me good at what I do, I salute you Randi.

  3. Alia says:

    I thank you with all my heart.

  4. Vision_Quest2 says:

    "I say: Thank you, friend. Rest and take care. We need you."

    Now, if only these words of reassurance could help me with my chronic light sleeping and insomnia, living in conditions adverse to getting a good night's sleep (no, I don't live in a cheaply constructed college dorm–it could only play one on TV) …

  5. Ayoganut says:

    Namaste, thank you!

  6. palomino72 says:

    That was absolutely lovely <3

  7. Such a gift… to realize, our sensitivity as human beings is one of THE most precious gifts we have. And… what I have discovered, is that truly, all humans are sensitive. Even the big giants who may not look it at first glance. Some of us expose it more through our tears. Our exposed emotions. We are the lucky ones. Thank you for this Jewel, Randi Buckley! I know many I am going to pass this on to

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  10. Joyce says:

    As someone who is not only hypersensitive, but is in recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, I wish that others could see this in us, instead of stigmatizing us.

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