Stop Grasping: It’s Already Inside Us. ~ Taya Smythe

Via on Dec 12, 2012
Photo: Taya Smythe

Light is constantly available.

Nothing is ever really just beginning and nothing will ever really be over. Against all the guards that evolution, religion, and death can supply, in the event that life is just energy…

Maybe this idea is valid.

It explains how when you meet someone, it can feel as if you’ve known him or her your whole life. It explains how sometimes two people just “spark.” It’s a coming home.

I heard the concept once, that if you change to be with someone, then it’s not real; if in experiencing relationship with another, you come into yourself, then it’s truth. In this sense, the “spark” we feel is a remembering: two souls already familiar with the other, having found each other in this life. It didn’t really begin when you met here.

This idea also explains how some relationships float in and out during a lifetime. Often we feel frustrated or disappointed to see that they do not leave us—because we’re trying to get rid of what we’ve labeled to be toxic. The lesson that “what you resists, persists” comes to mind here, though this idea—no start and no finish—goes beyond that.

Instead, if we can see that things do not have a linear quality and instead cycle through, touching us on the shoulder from time to time, grazing our lower back every couple of years, we can see that it’s just a loving whisper, demonstrating to us that in fact no matter how much time passes, we matter.

The cycles in which we inevitably participate give us the opportunity to see that light is never really just at the end of the tunnel, but rather constantly available, and with every experience.

And so, whether we have labeled something pleasurable or painful, a collective connection is being offered in the middle. In noticing this, the cycles of our life are not paired with reaction and expectation.

Instead, truth marinates within us and rather than relying on a promise of coming light and/or the end of suffering, we just dive into the present and see that it is here now. Let’s loosen our shoulders for a minute and stop grasping for what’s already in our hands.


A practitioner of yoga since the age of 16, Taya Smythe is a writer, photographer, teacher, student and lover who loves practicing yoga on and off the mat. She currently resides in Fort Wayne, Indiana, working as both a group and private instructor and the manager at Pranayoga School of Health. “I believe that what serves us is in front of us. I believe that we see fear get in the way. I believe bliss happens in embracing this very moment. Every day I am sharing this concept with others and with myself.” For more information about Taya, check out or follow her on Facebook.


Ed: Stephanie V.


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