People that deny and repress their own shadows are in great danger of creating evil in the real world.
Perhaps we could take our shadow and look at it directly for what it is. Make a connection to it. This will prevent darkness from sneaking up on us and haunting our thoughts and distorting our relationships.
When we stumble—and recover—there is usually a treasure waiting for you.
We cannot avoid suffering. The way to happiness is going through the darkness and into the light. You must grow upward like a seed planted into the dark soil.
We can take our flaws, wounds and compulsions and use them to create light, wisdom and love.
Let’s take our shadow and embrace it until we have turned it into a beautiful treasure. We can love the ugliest, sickest parts of ourselves. We can continue to perfect them until we awaken our hidden divinity.
If we continue to shun our shadows, we may also shun the most brilliant aspect of ourselves.
Jesus said, “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who mistreat you.”
Could that be the way we deal with our shadows?
“Love thy neighbor as thyself.”
Love the dark, different side of yourself, not just the attractive, friendly side. Express all of that with love.
Maybe we have been brainwashed by society, the media or religion. Maybe it’s time to stop being a slave to our shadow.
The real treasure is integrating our shadow and learning to tap into its resources. Ask yourself, are you projecting your shadow aspects on others?
Let’s decide to love that part of ourselves that we never cared for very well. Forgive him or her; for all the stupid things they have done. We can take a stand and say, “I love the fool in me, the one that is too sensitive, the one who takes too many foolish chances, the one that lacks self-control, self-esteem and the one loves and hates too much. The one that gets hurt and hurts others by breaking promises and the one that laughs or cries too much.
Let’s say, “I want to thank you for making sure I was not robbed of feeling alive—even with humility but always with dignity—Thank you!”
Once we decide to commit to loving and embracing our shadow, it may try to play tricks with us. We will need to be ready to approach with love and tolerance and serious objectivity. We will need to learn to negotiate so that we are the leader of ourselves and no parts of ourselves are sabotaged.
Describe your signature pain. What is the pain that you wish would go away? We cannot be healed if we do not name that which needs to be tweaked. Figure out what is so appealing about this pain. Maybe it entertains us and keeps us from being bored at the very least.
Perhaps you unconsciously do not want to give up your pain because it prevents you from reaching those amazing goals you are too afraid, timid or too lazy to strive for. Maybe it’s possible that you secretly like this distress—which it is so interwoven into your identity that you wouldn’t feel like yourself if you had to live without it. Has it become part of your self-image?
Could it be possible that that this is a way you can get more attention from others? People do seem to be more likely to shower others with sympathy when we are feeling miserable and not so much when we are so blatantly happy.
Let yourself feel the suffering. Don’t judge it or repress it. Don’t come up with reasons how you should be over it or how you should not let it have so much power over you. Let the pain ripple and flow. Allow your heart to crack open and feel the intense pain. Allow yourself to wail and cry and stir up as much emotions as you can.
Go within and ask what lessons your pain is asking you to master. How is this pain allowing you to grow in directions you have otherwise been unable to accomplish? Put yourself in a state of gratitude for your pain. Be thankful for its teachings. Feel gratitude for the awareness for your soul to carry out your life’s purpose.
Try meditating, being aware of your shadow and your pain. Reflect on the Zen Proverb: “The obstacle is the path.” Maybe you could wish upon a scar and find your very own disguised treasure!
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Ed: Sara Crolick