You Are Welcome Here. (All of You.) ~ Nicole Taylor Linehan

Via Nicole Taylor Linehanon Sep 4, 2013

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You are welcome here—all of you.

Last night after gentle vinyasa, a yogini came up to me and shared that a lot of emotion had come up for her during the class. Her eyes glistened with tears as she shared she had felt so much well up in her that she wanted to release, but didn’t out of respect for the other students.

She thanked me for the class and the Healing the Heart mediation. After listening deeply, I asked her if I could offer my thoughts, and she said yes.

“You are welcome here. All of you. Your tears, your sadness, your entire experience. Next time you feel like you want to cry in class, I invite you to let yourself. Not only do you get to have your full expression, but there may be someone else who is holding back, and once you give yourself permission, they will too.”

We shared a hug for a few moments before leaving the studio.

My heart felt blasted wide open as I appreciated the raw vulnerability of the student. I saw how easy it was for me to become a space of welcome for her, and I wondered why sometimes I made it hard to do that for myself. My mind filled with examples of times I had tried to manage my own experience and the experience of those around me by holding back different parts of myself.

I wondered, what would life look like if I made it a practice to turn that welcome toward myself? What would shift in my relationships if the space between me and the other person was filled with the energetic signature of “You are welcome here. All of you.” What would shift in the world if we held that space, not only for ourselves, but for each other?

That sounds like a game changer.

If we think about the space between us as being filled with energy, and if we see ourselves as physical containers for Divine energy, then how beautifully amazing would it be, if we gathered all the energy tied up in suppression and targeted it toward embodying acceptance? How much easier would it be to touch and experience the Divine within if we interacted from a place of inner and outer welcome?

Acceptance gets a bad rap because we confuse it with indulgence. I used to think if I accepted my anger it meant I was giving myself permission to go around snapping at people all of the time. Accepting that an emotion is present is quite different from choosing to act on that emotion. Research shows that a pure emotion like sadness passes through us in about 90 seconds.

It’s the suppression, the stories we make up, the self-judgment, and all the other things we add to emotions that make them feel overwhelming.

This new horizon begins with an intention. I commit to fully welcoming myself and my experience in all its messy and beautiful glory. I’m sure over time I will fall into old habits, and that’s just an opportunity recommit. I welcome all of me. I welcome all of you.

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Assistant Ed: Judith Andersson / Ed: Bryonie Wise

About Nicole Taylor Linehan

Nicole Taylor Linehan RYT, MA, is a yoga teacher, Conscious Living Coach, and Ayurvedic Yoga Specialist. Her life’s purpose is to transmit healing and light through sharing the tools of coaching, Tantra, and Ayurveda. Visit her on the web.

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6 Responses to “You Are Welcome Here. (All of You.) ~ Nicole Taylor Linehan”

  1. LIsa Hafner says:

    Nicole, you are a great writer, teacher, yogini and friend and I am always moved and inspired by what you share and through your experiences!!

  2. amphibi1yogini says:

    I remember a time I cried before class … I had been under a lot of stress at my job because of so many personnel changes. I did not even sign in/pay for class. The teacher tried to convince me to just go into class. This is a class/studio that attracted high-achieving suburban types in a neighborhood I'd been recently priced out of returning to. He continued to try and convince me. I'd finally told the teacher that there was something wrong with the beginner's class–that it wasn't for me, not since last time when (I implied) he tried to make this class competitive. I was afraid he would not meet me where I was that day. I would never find out. But on a soon later occasion, the other owner/teacher summarily decided she'd had no time for me, and as much as told me to go away. But hours later phoned me up and apologized. She'd never admitted to maybe being convinced to do so.

    • Nicole says:

      Yes, sometimes the external world may not be welcoming, which, to me, makes that sense of internal welcome even more vital. I think your story totally illustrates that. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  3. Joe Sparks says:

    In my perspective, most of the feelings we have are the effects of past hurts. We all are looking for places to feel welcomed, wanted loved. Since most of us do not feel that way most of the time, we give up. To allow a person to show themselves is huge and contradicts feeling alone and separate. To reach out and welcome someone openly gives them permission to be vulnerable, and you benefit just as much, because you got a chance to see someone be human. So, if we don't feel welcomed, it is old and a mistake, because most of us are waiting for someone to heal us. The battle is inside our minds, to notice we are all important and welcomed, even if we do not feel that way. Thanks.

    • Nicole says:

      "The battle is inside our minds," YES!
      And what a gift we have in yoga and meditation, helping us to get quiet enough to hear the old non-welcome, and to pause long enough to feel the constant loving welcome that rides on our breath.
      Thank you for your beautiful comment.

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