“If only I had spent more time at the office.”
Most people are too busy living their lives to stop and imagine the regrets they might have when they are about to die.
An old uncle once gave me the following advice. He said, “It is a wise man who can learn from his own mistakes. But it’s a far-wiser man who can learn from the mistakes of others.”
So, let me share with you what many dying people, upon reflection, most regret when they look back on their lives. Then, let me tell you what we can do to never have those same regrets.
A regret is usually based on not achieving something we really want to occur in our lives. Our regret may stem from not having a particular opportunity occur or not taking advantage of the opportunity when it presented itself. It’s also possible that we may not have recognized the opportunity when it was right there in front of our eyes.
Having a regret is often a by-product of bad timing. After all, if we try to accomplish something we want—at the wrong time and fail, we may convince ourselves that it won’t work or we weren’t meant to have it. Our failure may cause us to be so frustrated or disappointed that we never try again to achieve your goal or dream.
What if our wish could become a reality instead of a regret?
It can, if we pay attention to the transits that occur in our lives. Transits are astrological opportunities that present themselves in every area of our lives. They provide us with the perfect timing to be successful in accomplishing what we want in life.
Close your eyes and imagine your wishes. Some of the more popular ones are: wishing for the right partner to marry, a job that makes a difference, having children, more money for retirement, better health, or simply traveling more.
We can use our transits to make our wishes come true instead of becoming regrets. Of course, we’ll need to know when those transits occur and initiate action at that time, to optimize our chances of achieving success. (At the end of this article, I’ll tell you how you can find out where your personal transits are.) Here are the regrets many people have and the transits we can use so that we never have them.
Five Regrets People Have When Dying
1. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard and spent more time with my family
While everyone needs to work to make money to pay the bills and support their lifestyle, it should never be at the cost of having time to enjoy your family. A better choice might be to cut back on expenses and adjust your family’s lifestyle.
Be aware that for many people the obsession to work is an addiction. It’s the perfect excuse because it sounds so “damn” respectable to tell everyone how hard you need to work, for so many legitimate reasons.
Working hard because you’re dedicated to your job is admirable and in many cases, necessary. However, when your commitment to work becomes excessive, you end up short-changing your mate and your family. If you’re a work-a-holic, you’ll make your partner feel less-important—destroying the closeness and intimacy that’s so important to keeping a relationship healthy. As a parent, you miss out on the major events of your child’s life. And, worse, you miss out on valuable mentoring time, which can help shape your child into a healthy, well-adjusted adult.
To help you re-establish a greater connection to your family, use a Jupiter transit to your Fourth House. It’s the ideal time to become emotionally closer to your family, plan enjoyable gatherings and take fun trips. If you’ve had any major family upsets and want to restore harmony and even heal them, this transit will provide you the opportunity.
2. I wish I’d saved more and planned better for my retirement
So many people fail to plan for their retirement and find that either the quality of their retirement life is poor or even worse, they’re destitute in their old age. Let’s face it, when you’re young it’s impossible to grasp the prospect of retiring, let alone the reality that one day you will retire. It’s easier to imagine that you’ll have enough money or that you’ll have plenty of years to worry about it. After all, when you’re young, you’re going to live forever and retirement planning is for old people—which you’re not…yet.
There are many studies that show that nearly 50 percent of people don’t adequately plan for their retirement. They focus on a philosophy that they deserve to enjoy their life when they’re young. While living in denial, they’ll grow so old that money will be an issue. The realty is, when you’re young and earning money, you need to consciously plan for retirement. After all, you can’t live off of savings if you have none.
The solution is to begin planning, saving and investing for your retirement when you start your first job. Keep in mind that most people don’t earn enough in their job to retire very comfortably. So, use your most positive transits to invest your savings in incoming producing assets such as stocks and real estate that will provide you with income and appreciation. The way to do this is to buy a home or real estate when Jupiter transits your Fourth House of real estate. Invest in stocks when Jupiter transits your Eighth House of investments. Use your best astrological timing to plan a prosperous retirement for yourself.
3. I wish I had taken better care of my health
The biggest regret is the most important. Invest in your own good health. Many people take better care of their car than their own body. Or, many of us decide there’s no time to workout at the gym because we have too much work to do and making money is our priority. Yet, as the old adage goes: “when you die, you can’t take it with you.” By the time you realize that you should have taken better care of your health, it’s too late.
If you want to improve your body and physical appearance, Jupiter transiting your First House provides an excellent opportunity. (Just be careful, it’s also a time when you can gain weight.) If you want to lose weight, take advantage of Saturn transiting your First House. It’s the ideal time to both lose weight and re-evaluate your diet and exercise regimen.
If you want to improve your health, Jupiter transiting your Sixth House brings strength and vitality to your body. This is an excellent time for improving your body’s overall physical fitness through a new diet and commitment to exercise. If you’ve had chronic health problems and want to transform your health, Pluto’s transit to your Sixth House is the perfect time to rejuvenate your body—whether it’s losing 100 pounds, weaning yourself off insulin dependency though dietary changes, or going from drug-user to drug-free.
4. I wish I had children
In our modern, fast-paced society where we tend to be narcissistic, it’s easy to view having children as a sacrifice, inconvenience or a hindrance to all the great plans we have for ourselves. Many people focus on the practical side and the responsibilities of having children. After all, they cost money—lots of it. They may radically limit your freedom to travel and be out and about. After all, life is no longer about you: it’s about them, too. Perhaps, most significant, they change the type of intimacy you’ll have with your partner once they’re in your life.
As you grow older, when it’s too late to have your own children, it’s easy to feel lonely and wish you had your own sons and daughters. You realize there’s no one to love you, comfort you or leave your legacy to when you die. This feeling is always compounded when you go to family events and see your nieces and nephews and all those babies running around.
If you want to avoid this regret, during your childbearing years, use Saturn’s transit to your Fifth House as a time to seriously evaluate whether or not you want children. It’s the perfect time to consciously consider whether you want to be a parent. If you do, this transit will help you make the necessary adjustments so that you can have a child. Or, if you have Uranus transiting your Fifth House, you may find yourself suddenly changing your mind about not wanting children. You’ll surprise yourself by wanting a child even though you’ve told everyone for years, that you never would.
5. I wish I had married the right person
With the divorce rate well-over 50 percent, it is no wonder many people are fearful of marriage. It’s easy to be reluctant to marry unless you find the perfect person for a relationship. Unfortunately, the quest for perfection is the “booby” prize in life, since no one is perfect. The result is that it often leads to a lonely life of solitude, because no one will ever measure up to that unobtainable standard. Not even you.
For some, they marry young when their relationship needs and wants are simple or unknown. As time goes by they realize they’ve married the wrong partner or grown out of the relationship they were once content with. Then, there are those who settle for the wrong mate out of fear of being alone.
If you want to eliminate this regret, look to find your “close to perfect” partner when Jupiter transits your Seventh House. This is a lucky transit that will bring you legitimate relationship opportunities that may result in a marriage. Or, use Pluto’s transit to your Seventh House to meet your soul mate. During this transit you may find someone for a loving relationship that will transform you forever.
Success in life is often based on good timing! Use the positive timing of your transits to help you avoid deathbed regrets and achieve a happier, healthier and more prosperous life.
If you want to know where your personal transits are—to see if they are affecting you—go to the Free Transit Calculator and enter your birth date. You may find that transiting planets can benefit your life right now and help insure that you fulfill all your wishes and die with no regrets.
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Ed: Sara Crolick
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