We Learn by Loving How to Love. ~ Edith Lazenby

Via on Mar 7, 2014

break open your heart

Don’t feel bad if you loved a wrong person. Instead, be thankful because just like exams, every wrong answer makes you realize the right one.  ~  Abhishek Tiwari quotes

I don’t believe loving anyone is ever wrong.

But I do know from having loved that it’s a process of learning how to love.

It reminds me of writing. It always holds meaning, writing. But when I was young and new to this form, I had to go though a lot of rubbish to uncover the golden nuggets within.

And I believe we all have golden nuggets within.

I have been in love 5 times, one was unrequited. And I think I will always love my husband, long after we are no longer husband and wife, if that is what happens.

But I will say some of the men I loved were men I no longer like as individuals, much less friends and the love is all gone.

And I will say every relationship along the way gets a little better.

When I was looking for a life-partner before I met my husband I knew that whomever I chose to settle down with had to be a friend. Friendship can last forever. Passion moves in and out and the spark of new love and infatuation won’t endure the trials of a relationship.

What I have taken away from my marriage is a deeper understanding of what my needs are and what I can do meet them, rather than expecting someone else to meet my needs.

I believe we all need love, companionship and belonging. I believe we all need people.

I also believe we need to learn to listen to our own heart and feed the spirit ourselves; when we do that we are full and have more to give to another.

Self-love is a prerequisite to loving a significant other.

We learn by loving how to love. We learn by giving how and what to give. We learn by offering our heart how to be vulnerable and strong at the same time. We learn to stand in our light when we embrace our shadows and can then embrace the darkness we find in another for we all have both.

The stronger the light we shine, the bigger shadow we cast.

I live to love and love to live.

We have to be willing to risk all by giving all to love. We have to risk a broken heart to keep it strong.

In healing we learn more of what love has to teach.

 

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About Edie Lazenby

I am someone who loves to share and thrives on being with others. My craft whittles moments into meaning and eases my heart. I learn best by listening. I teach yoga and I write. Life is challenging but simple. My kitties make me happy. Check my blog here.

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2 Responses to “We Learn by Loving How to Love. ~ Edith Lazenby”

  1. Joe Sparks says:

    Hi Edie, I enjoyed your article, so very true. In my perspective, we were born expecting to be loved unconditionally. It was our birthright to have that rational need meet. Growing up none of our parents/adults were good teachers, in good enough shape to provide it to us, to any great extent. So we learned on our own by surviving and providing reassurance to our parents, trying to be "good.", and we have been looking for it every since. As an adult we will never get that love we needed so much to thrive and fully be ourselves. We all feel a little heart broken in the present, looking for someone to provide it. We all need to grieve over it and get as close as we can to others to get a chance to feel the tremendous hurt that got put on us, so we can be free and truly love everyone without exception. Not feeling loved as a child, it is one of the most unbearable feelings we have to face as adults, otherwise we will be looking for a "mommy and daddy" to love us, the way we expected and deserved.

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