We Learn by Loving How to Love. ~ Edith Lazenby

Via on Mar 7, 2014

break open your heart

Don’t feel bad if you loved a wrong person. Instead, be thankful because just like exams, every wrong answer makes you realize the right one.  ~  Abhishek Tiwari quotes

I don’t believe loving anyone is ever wrong.

But I do know from having loved that it’s a process of learning how to love.

It reminds me of writing. It always holds meaning, writing. But when I was young and new to this form, I had to go though a lot of rubbish to uncover the golden nuggets within.

And I believe we all have golden nuggets within.

I have been in love 5 times, one was unrequited. And I think I will always love my husband, long after we are no longer husband and wife, if that is what happens.

But I will say some of the men I loved were men I no longer like as individuals, much less friends and the love is all gone.

And I will say every relationship along the way gets a little better.

When I was looking for a life-partner before I met my husband I knew that whomever I chose to settle down with had to be a friend. Friendship can last forever. Passion moves in and out and the spark of new love and infatuation won’t endure the trials of a relationship.

What I have taken away from my marriage is a deeper understanding of what my needs are and what I can do meet them, rather than expecting someone else to meet my needs.

I believe we all need love, companionship and belonging. I believe we all need people.

I also believe we need to learn to listen to our own heart and feed the spirit ourselves; when we do that we are full and have more to give to another.

Self-love is a prerequisite to loving a significant other.

We learn by loving how to love. We learn by giving how and what to give. We learn by offering our heart how to be vulnerable and strong at the same time. We learn to stand in our light when we embrace our shadows and can then embrace the darkness we find in another for we all have both.

The stronger the light we shine, the bigger shadow we cast.

I live to love and love to live.

We have to be willing to risk all by giving all to love. We have to risk a broken heart to keep it strong.

In healing we learn more of what love has to teach.


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About Alex Myles

Alex Myles is qualified as a Yoga teacher, Reiki Master, Teacher of Tibetan Meditation, Dragon Magic and a Spiritual coach to name just a few. Alex has no intention to teach others on a formal basis for many years to come, instead, she is collecting qualifications along with life’s lessons. One day, when the time is right, Alex will set up a quaint studio, in a quirky crooked building where she will breathe and appreciate the slowness of those days as life is just way too busy right now! Reading and writing has always been one of Alex’s passions. Alex likes to consider herself as a free spirit rather than a commitment-phobe. Trying to live as aligned to a Buddhist lifestyle as is possible in this day and age, she just does not believe in "owning" anything or anyone. Based on the theory that we ‘cannot lose someone that was not ours to lose’ she flails through life finding joy and magic in the most unexpected places. Mother to a 21 year old daughter and three adorable pups, she appreciates that some of the best moments in life are the 6am forest walks watching the dogs run, play and interact with one another and with nature. Connect with her on Facebook and check out her blog, Love and Madness. 


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