Start Now. ~ Christina Chastain

Via Christina Chastainon Apr 19, 2014

nurture

Even if you think it’s too late, it’s not.

Spend time with the right people.

These people come few and far between, but once they are in your life, they will stay there forever. These are the people you enjoy, who love and understand you. They are the ones who make you feel more alive and not only embrace who you are now, but who you want to become.

Face problems head on.

The most important thing that my mother has ever taught me (besides if you think it’s too much eyeliner, it is) is that it isn’t your problems that define you—it’s how you react to them.

I used to be the one to bury my head in the sand if a problem arose, but quickly learned that problems do not go away until you find a way to take care of them.

Be honest with yourself—about everything.

Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed. Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. My dear friend once told me that once you become complacent, you no longer strive to be better. If you are truly unhappy, or even just complacent, change.

Make your own happiness a priority.

This can be the hardest goal to carryout because there is a common misconception that you can’t please everyone. Remember, it is possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.

Be yourself—genuinely and proudly.

It takes a lifetime to fully get to know yourself, so start as soon as possible. Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person that you are.

Embrace your own ideas, strengths and beauty.

Live in the present.

Right now is a miracle. Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life.

Stop thinking about how things could have been because you are here, right now, for a reason.

Value the lessons that mistakes teach you.

If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough. Take risks, stumble, fall, but most importantly, get up, take responsibility and try again.

Give your ideas and dreams a chance.

Either you succeed or you learn something. You will never know if you never try.

Cheer the victories of others.

Be happy for others making progress. Be thankful for their blessings and let them know. What goes around comes around and pretty soon, they will be cheering you on.

Notice silver linings.

Look for the small glimmers of hope in a rough situation and remind yourself of all the things in your life that are right. Focus on what you have, not what you don’t.

Notice the beauty of small moments.

Instead of focusing on the big things, like marriage, kids or a big promotion, find happiness in the small things that happen every single day – the quiet cup of coffee in the morning, the book you can’t put down, holding hands.

Forgive others—and most importantly—yourself.

Experiencing pain because of your actions or the actions of others is normal – it means you’re human; however, if you hold on to this pain, you will never be able to move on and grow. Forgiveness is key. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past or forgetting what happened, it means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain and instead choosing to learn and move on.

Actively nourish your important relationships.

Bring real, honest joy into your life and the lives of those you love by simply telling them how much they mean to you on a regular basis. Decide who these people are and treat them like royalty. Do not take them for granted.

Notice how wealthy you are—right now.

As Henry David Thoreau said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective. I woke up this morning with a roof over my head. I have a choice in what religion I want to practice, what job I want to do and who I want to love. I have clean drinking water and medical care. I can read and I have an education. Some would say I am incredibly wealthy.

Help others around you.

No matter how busy you are, find time to help others in need. It could be as simple as giving a bottle of water to a homeless person on the side of the road or traveling to a foreign country to lend a helping hand. Do what you can.

After some soul searching and introspection, I’ve decided to make these goals my priority in life, and I hope you do too.

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About Christina Chastain

Christina Chastain lives and works in St. Louis, Mo. with her 12-year-old golden retriever, Boo Radley. Christina works in the television industry and enjoys hiking, biking, movies, literature, and cheese. She is happiest with a cup of coffee in one hand and a glass of wine in the other.

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7 Responses to “Start Now. ~ Christina Chastain”

  1. Kate says:

    Very very wonderful article!

  2. Julie says:

    Wonderful advice that we should all live by! Thank you, Christina!

  3. This is fantastic! I think there are many of us, for many reasons, coming to many of these same conclusions — it really is fantastic. I wrote a similar piece for EJ here: http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/02/11-life-le

    On my website I write of these types of things and so many others are also. Right on, sister. Keep spreading the truth <3 Thanks for sharing.

  4. Silver says:

    This is so spot on and you wrote it so earnestly, so humbly, so intentionally. Honestly, thank you for the reminders.

  5. Ahsa says:

    Beautiful! Thanks for sharing! Perfect timing :)

  6. Richard says:

    Hi Christina

    I used to read articles like this before I started practising yoga. No matter how much I agreed with them I couldn't do the things suggested. I have a theory why that might be.

    It seems to me that when we desribe spiritual practice we are often desribing outcomes not objectives. For example "Forgive others—and most importantly—yourself." This looks like a task we can put on our self improvement to do list. It works linguistically. But…the language is a trap. In my experience it wasn't possible to just forgive myself and I cannot imagine how that would ever work.

    I found self forgiveness in meditation practice. I just sat there and self forgiveness arose. It was rather cheesy and funny and if you wanted to read a description of it I will post it. I suspect that most of the things on your list are really the outcomes resulting from states of mind such as acceptance or compassion.

    thanks
    Richard

  7. Ali Bennett says:

    A reminder I needed this morning- thank you! Also…..Boo Radley? Love it ;)

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