When we are angry, upset and obnoxiously anxious we turn into these crazy, heavily loaded and unrecognizable bags of toxicity that spew off the cuff and out into or onto some unsuspecting soul—and it isn’t pretty.

The winds of rage that enter (like some kind of alien invasion) are not only extremely poor behavior but they certainly make us look like fools.

Any kind of integrity we own goes right out the window.

If this is happening often, perhaps it’s time to take stock in personal accountability. It might mean it’s time to take a big breath and ask the fated question,

“What am I really mad about?”

The answer (more often than not) is the one we do not want to hear—internal anger equates to being mad at our self, period.

This is a hard cold fact but a truth well worth digesting.

Victimization, abuse, abandonment etc., are things that leave ugly deep wounds but the fallout of clinging to the why is detrimental.

How it got there is not really the issue, don’t fall into that trap.

There is no justification for anger. It is only kindle wood for the fire and excuses help ignite a flame that has no business in our soul.

We also know that stuffing it down is bleak for our mind and body. We will get sick, and sick becomes nothing short of a ticking time bomb ready to explode. There has to be a mental compromise when we are dealing with this much energy.

So how do we diffuse the emotion?

It isn’t easy, and as in all things we have grown into and adapted, our anger is a habit, and habits are hard to break. We have to begin with root thinking, dig deep in our truth, get ready for some hard work but also know that in the end, we are better for it.

Here’s how to begin.

1. Define what hate and anger mean.

Who or what constitutes that kind of bitter, dark and vile energy.

This takes an enormous amount of effort on our part to hold.

It is so big, so powerful, it will make even the strongest souls weak.

Some things exist and we will never understand why. Hatred is one of those things. It burns, it stings, it eats us alive and when we are being eroded, anger slips in undercover, masked as our hatred, large and out-of-control.

2. Don’t justify a foul mood.

When we give these situations (people or things that have hurt us) permission to take over our moods, our energy and our well-being, they have complete control of our hearts and mind. They become securely tucked away in our presence, (or so we think).

In reality, the past cannot live in the present moment.

So when we allow the wound to re-open, all we do is bleed again. As we bleed, we get tired, lethargic and then we are back to our unconscious habit of negativity. And yet, it is only the initial cut that is truly as unconscious as that bleeding past.

Don’t wake it up—let it sleep.

Not so easy. Yes, I get that, but what is pay off for resentment?

There is none, and revenge holds its own set of karma.

Remember that it helps put a stop to the wheel of vengeance knowing their energy is nothing more than a boomerang, and everyone has their own crosses to bear.

3. Words hurt.

There are times when I would rather have been beaten, than to hear some of the words that were said to me.

Violent anger seldom comes without words to accompany the rage so instead of being that same sort of person, reel in the emotion—pull it up, breathe into it and pause.

Stop and think, really think about what kind of an affect the anger will have.

Is it worth the repercussions? Is it worth remorse, guilt and a stomachache? Is it worth lowering your vibration to the gutter?

Just pause.

The longer you sit with mindful answers, the higher you rise.

But the hardest lesson of all is to know that the one(s) who push our buttons, are the ones we called into our life. Some how, some way, we need the encounter, the situation and the moment to resolve unresolved emotions we are stowing.

The more we address this, the easier it is uncover where our weakest points lie.

It isn’t about forgiving and forgetting—it’s about gracing ourselves with empowerment to go past the past and love our self for doing it.

It’s about patience, spiritual skills and tolerance. It is life begging us to get bigger than the toxicity of even our most ugly and sad experiences.

It is to embrace them as a way not to be and to linger in the satisfaction of peace. It is to have control of our facilities instead of waging an internal war that spills over externally.

It is grace.

Next time, (if there is one), when anger starts seething, remember why you want to be cleaner, clearer than the negativity of rage.

Find your breath. Inhale love. Exhale peace. It really works, this is a magic vibration—anger and hatred cannot stay in the same space.

 

 

 

Relephant:

Release Anger in 6 Steps.

Author: Debbie Laughlin

Apprentice Editor: Brandie Smith/Editor: Renee Picard 

Photo: PDPics/pixabay