I’ve been loved before, but rarely have I been understood.

No man could untangle the essence of my soul—they all believed I was an ordinary woman living in an ordinary world. My beliefs were barely grasped and my dreams always underestimated.

Eventually there came a point where I had to choose between the man I love and my dreams. And darling, my dreams have always won.

The men who left saw me as a fire that would burn them, a heavy stone that would crush their own dreams. They thought I was a threat to their own aspirations, so they tried to mute my dreams to secure their own safety. They didn’t know I just wanted to be supported and understood. They were oblivious to the fact that I was competing with no one but myself.

So to the man who will one day enter my life, please know that if you want to love me, you have to see me as an equal partner who has her own aspirations.

You have to understand that I’m a dreamer.

You have to love my dreams with the same intensity that you love me, because they represent who I am. If you dismiss them, you dismiss me.

You see, I don’t spend my days doing typical things. I don’t drink coffee—I make my own tea blend using herbs that Mother Nature has granted us. I don’t spend hours matching my clothes—I wear whatever makes my soul comfortable. I don’t sit in an office job making other people’s dreams come true—I focus on mine.

I plan for travels that make my heart tingle and book plane tickets without a second thought. I go on adventures that give me an adrenaline rush and break the walls of my fears and doubts.

Staying in one place is a living hell for me. If you want to love me, you have to understand that I’m free as a bird and move from a place to another just as they do. If you want to be with me, you have to wear that backpack of yours, hold my hand and trust that I will lead you where excitement resides.

I’m a woman whose favorite hobby is challenging the norm. I follow no one’s path and belong to no system or society. I have created my own way.

I’m someone who never stops growing and never stops learning. I want to make mistakes and your love has to be real enough to make those mistakes along with me.

My bucket list is longer than the years that might join us and my passion for it outweighs that of any romantic relationship.

If you want to claim me, you have to first claim my incredible, risky, spontaneous life. If you can respect that, I promise to help make your life just as incredible. I will stand behind your dreams just like you will stand behind mine and I will flood you with the needed inspiration to make them real.

I promise to love you the way you are as long as you will love me the way I am.

Don’t be scared to fall in love with a dreamer. Unlike what you might think, true dreamers are the most realistic people you are yet to meet because their dreams never remain words in the air—they become actions.

Dreamers are people who love from the bottom of their hearts, as they know what true commitment is. Their commitment to their dreams has taught them how to be committed to another person. They know how and when to give. They are strong, courageous and don’t fear life’s challenges.

To date a dreamer is to date a rock you can lean on whenever life knocks you down. They see optimism and positivity in every situation and this is exactly what makes them special.

The men who walked away from my life weren’t scared of me—they were scared of the unusual. So step out of the comfort zone of normality. Don’t be afraid to love the extraordinary.

Are you ready to embrace the phenomenal?

 

Author: Elyane Youssef

Editor: Nicole Cameron

Image: sixtwelve/Flickr