Online dating is quite a controversial topic. In fact, opinions are divided 50% to 50%. There are plenty of people, that do not believe in online relationships. Although, there is another half that either succeeded in online dating or knows somebody that did.

Indeed, as any other business it has its pros and cons. Some things about e-dating is true, and some things are totally myths. Therefore, let’s accept the fact that there numerous of success stories and let’s assume that online dating is one of the most powerful options.

So, how to find the “right” person on a dating site?

It would be smart to proceed intelligently and consistently.

First of all, let’s try to learn ourselves. Good questions here are:

1. What do I like? What do I hate?
2. What are the things I am able to give up? Which things I never give up?
3. When am I happy? And when am I sad?

Second of all, it is good to understand our needs. It is great when people know what they want. They know what they expect from themselves, from their surroundings, from their future wife or husband. But plenty of people simply don’t even know what they need. This is also true about the soulmate, they are looking for. Especially it is about guys that are trying to find the right girl online.

In fact, this is the real cause of the greatest failures. Hence, we should know our needs:

• What qualities the person should have?
• How should he/she look?
• What hobbies you want to share with your future partner?
• What is his/her income?

Now, when we know ourselves and made a short list of essential requirements, we can proceed further.

The third stage is quite simple. Now we can choose the dating site. Even though there are dozens of dating agencies online, we can easily filter them when we know what we need. For example, if we look for an Asian Dating we will go to those sites that provide this exact service. If we want to meet somebody from slavic countries, we will check the slavic dating websites.

Large sites for “everybody” are also good, but they are not well targeted to a specific niche.

Also, it is a good idea to register on several sites simultaneously. We never know which one works better for us.

The fourth step is to start communication. Sounds simple? Absolutely yes! The more we communicate the more information we get about the person we talk to. How else we can do that? Silence here brings zero information.

Casual “Hi! I like your picture” is totally fine. Keep in mind that dating site members are looking for pretty much the same thing. They want to find a soulmate.

So, go ahead, talk to people, get them better and get a precious experience.

The fifth stage is to actually choose “the right one”. That’s going to be a difficult job. I know this by myself. It is quite often when you choose between logical and irrational, between your brain and your heart.

Far not always we can keep ourselves cool. Here are some good questions to ask ourselves?

• Is this person meet my essential requirements?
• How do I imagine my life with this person in 10 years?
• What do I feel, when I am with this person?
• Can I give up my essential requirements for this person?

The last one is what’s called “self break down”. It is when you started your search with the list of mandatory requirements and ending up with all crossed out items. My congratulations – you found “the one”.