by Amy Ippoliti on May 20, 2013
Is it just me, or have you noticed that the word “forgiveness” has been thrown around this year ad nauseam as a spiritual cure-all in Facebook posts, on Twitter and even on Oprah? Forgiveness has been designated as the number one way to be more spiritual and has been heralded by some as the definition [...]
by elephantjournal.com on Jan 22, 2013
Gratitude does not feed our ego and is not meant to feed another’s.
by David McConaghay on Jan 17, 2013
Mommy, what’s a gentleman?
by Waylon Lewis on Dec 29, 2012
Source: webwombat.com.au via Megan on Pinterest Helping others isn’t always helpful, for ourselves or them. On avoiding “Idiot Compassion”, via Trungpa Rinpoche & Pema Chodron. Thinking of Others First is all very well, but what if He/She is Harming or Taking Advantage of our “Idiot Compassion”? I shared up this article (by my mother, [...]
by Tina Fossella, MFT on Dec 1, 2011
In the Buddhist teachings there are many guidelines and methods to help us become more compassionate people. When we apply these practices in the space of intimacy, with the person who triggers us, drives us crazy, irritates, and bores us–the person we are closest to–we begin to walk our spiritual talk. The Six Paramitas are guidelines to help us use everything in our life as a means to open our heart further.
by Recovering Yogi on Aug 20, 2011
This piece appeared on Recovering Yogi, one of our fave sites. ********************************************************************************** By Jayson Gaddis In nearly every spiritual community I’ve been a part of, nearly every self-help book I’ve read has a teaching on the merits of compassion. While this is great, to my Western, modern, spiritual ego, compassion-talk simply becomes a way for [...]
by Waylon Lewis on May 29, 2011
Ahimsa. “In the midst of darkness, light persists.” Fighting doesn’t help anyone. But idiot compassion doesn’t help, either. So let’s turn to one of the masters of mindful activism, Gandhi, for guidance. Gandhi: I succeed most every time in maintaining Non-Violence. It is the most powerful weapon. Love works. Beautiful contemplation: Bonus: his voice. Bonus: [...]
by Dylan Barmmer on Oct 26, 2010
It’s not too often that I receive nasty text messages or emails these days. Especially not ones that end with: “I hope you enjoy fucking yourself. It’s the closest you’ll ever get to love.” So, when the misguided missive that labeled me a “crazy dimwit” and a “twisted fuck”, among other things, ended with that [...]
by Jay Winston on Jun 15, 2010
Inspired by a discussion about giving to people on the street. The key word is care—both caring for others and being careful.
by elephantjournal.com on Mar 8, 2010
Can We Love Our Enemies Without Idiot Compassion or Shaming? ~ Duff McDuffee By Duff McDuffee; March 7th, 2010 For most of my life I’ve thought of myself as the kind of person who doesn’t have enemies. “Enemy” is a strong word, one that evokes thoughts of moral superiority, if not hatred and violence. Surely [...]
by Jayson Gaddis on Nov 19, 2009
Do you give to get? Is there any way around this notion? How can you be genuinely “of service” without an agenda? Is it possible? I believe so and have blogged about it on my men’s personal development site. Below is an excerpt. In my last post we explored the concept of selfishness as it [...]
by Waylon Lewis on May 18, 2009
I opened my inbox this morning to this brief, simple message from “The Dog Whisperer,” Cesar Millan, who I first read about in a dozen-page profile in The New Yorker a few years back. Cesar is one of my idols, one of my dream interviews, the man who taught be everything I’ve learned about how [...]
by Waylon Lewis on Jan 4, 2009
A worthy-of-contemplation article via Norris Burkes of the Zanesville TimesRecorder. Excerpt: …Maimonides’ Eight Degrees of Charity – describes eight levels that motivate our giving to those in need. Read the paraphrased list below along with my comments and ask yourself which one best describes your motives. 1. Giving to the poor unwillingly. This is what [...]