Want a Co-dependent Relationship? Click here now!

Via Merete Mueller
on Aug 6, 2008
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A friend just jokingly forwarded me an e-newsletter from Christian Carter, the “self-made relationship and dating guru.” The title? “Make Him Addicted to You.” Clicking through to Christian’s site, I found pages promising me that I can “create a FOREVER feeling in a man so he’s literally addicted to YOU and ONLY YOU,” which all led conveniently to a collection of e-books and audio CDs that could be mine for only 19.99/month. 

Ladies, I hopefully don’t have to tell you that men (and women) like a gal who has a life and interests of her own, that don’t revolve around “catching a man” so she can feel valuable and safe. There’s nothing sexier than a woman with the courage and honesty to be herself, no matter what. Personally, I’d rather have a wooden leg than go through life with someone else “addicted” to me.  

Enough of my ranting. For some real relationship advice, check out these video interviews with Robert Masters (Is Monogamy Worth It?) and Judith Simmer-Brown (three cheers for the Feminine Principle!). 


About Merete Mueller

Merete is a writer and filmmaker, and was once-upon-a-time the Managing Editor of elephant journal's print incarnation, from 2006-2008. Today, you can find her on Twitter @meretemueller and on her blog To The Bones. Her first documentary, "TINY: A Story About Living Small", about people who have downsized their lives into homes the size of a parking space, premiered at SXSW in March 2013.


3 Responses to “Want a Co-dependent Relationship? Click here now!”

  1. jackie says:

    YAY! Finally somebody said what I have been thinking. I've been listening to 20 somethings whining about how unhappy they are being single and doing nothing for themselves but trying to score a man. Do what you love, enjoy your alone time, he will find YOU!

  2. Varvara says:

    Oh yes I saw that add "MAKE HIM ADDICTED TO YOU" in Facebook and deleted it as Offensive. We are trying so hard to overcome our addictive behavior and attachments in life and help our relationships grow more conscious, deep, meaningful and open, I don't think we need any more of this hysteria.

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