Natural Vs. “Natural”

Via Lindsey Block
on Jan 30, 2009
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Yesterday at brunch, my friend made a comment about my hair.

Yes, it is true, girls do not like comments about themselves (if it is good it is perceived as creepy and if it is mean it is perceived as a**hole-ness).  I recently dyed my hair “blonde” and there has been quite a big quarrel among my friends. In this day and age, who is to know what hair color is to which person, or which tan is to which person.  What is funny with me is that I have been pretending that my hair is dark brown/black for at least 5 years (dying my hair for the last five years). It is interesting when someone you have known for less than 6 months can guesstimate your path or say that you’re a fraud by the direction you’re (your haircolor is) going into.  I used to have light hair.  I used to have dark hair. I have light.medium.dark. hair now. So what is natural?

You analyze a person by your first interpretation.  My friend met me with dark hair (apparently now my ‘natural’ hair color is dark brown/black). Wrong. People are so easily manipulated.

Oh yes and back to my point. My friend said he didn’t like my ‘blonde’ hair because it wasn’t ‘natural’. HA.  I laughed at that comment.  I think to myself, “you don’t even know natural. You are just as simple as they are.  What you see is what you get. Ha.”

So I think how ignorant some are.  It don’t matter if you’re (I’m) black or white?  I dye both ways.  How is one more ‘natural’ than the other. Yes I know, it is horrible for myself and the environment, but I can’t help it.  And is it worse than improper judgmentalism? It is no more right to dye my hair (dark brown/black) than bleach my hair (blonde)?  How come if my hair is dark brown that looks ‘natural’ when I am by nature a light brown/medium blonde?

People are judgmental and discriminative in their own way and in every way.  It is hard to fight every problem against you so you might as well cope with it and live for yourself (not someone else’s misinterpretations of you).


About Lindsey Block

Lindsey Block spends her weekdays as part of the Elephant Journal crew and her weekends hiking or picnicking at the park with a book. She's been a vegetarian for most of her adult life and delights in cooking up a new recipe (even though she really just wants to make tacos). She currently lives in Southern California.


8 Responses to “Natural Vs. “Natural””

  1. Joana Smith says:

    Ah… I see how you are! cool.
    So true, what you say too…
    I’m always trying to make up
    for other’s misinterpretations
    of me*
    I like that song by Fiona Apple, “criminal.”

  2. Lindsey says:

    This sounds a little more harsh than I meant it to. It sounds like I hate everyone. I am happy that everyone is so different and has things about them that no one else knows or understands.
    And I know I am ‘manipulated’ by what I perceive to be true and what is actually true.

  3. You look great however. I do think folks, including myself, rightly or wrongly get attached to how their friends ‘look.’ When I first saw your new hair, I missed your old ‘natural’ look, too. A few hang-outs later, I hardly remember how you used to look.

    That said, as resident eco-boy, I don’t get “but I can’t help it.” We are all responsible for whatever we do to ourselves and our environment—we can and must help. Whether putting toxic dyes in our watershed is worse that judgementalism, however—you got me there. Hopefully we can do with a bit less of both.

  4. Lindsey says:

    Oh another side note. I do try to do better when dying my hair. Organic eco-friendly hair dye from Lush! .

  5. sj* says:

    judgement is some crazy stuff. i had long locks (“dreadlocks”) for over eight years. there were so many lessons in those locks and big Self growth. but i was unprepared for the crazy amount of growth that would occur two years ago when i cut them ALL off. there were those in “my tribe” who didn’t see me as ligit anymore. then there were those who had judged me and scorned me and voila, suddenly they smiled and said hello. the inner strength and stability that has become “me” now is lasting. regardless of my exoskeleton. isn’t that what it’s all about anyway?

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  7. Yay for you being mindful. That's awesome, better for you, our water, our health overall. Chemicals. Succck.

  8. Andy says:

    Somebody keeps dying my hair gray. I tried to tell whoever is doing this that the joke is really on…me, apparently.