Tantric Sex (and the City).

Via Waylon Lewis
on May 4, 2010
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I’m watching Sex and the City, tonight, instead of hanging with my best friend and some of his good friends at a bbq at his place. One of those nights when you feel sorry for yourself, confused, tired, and all you want to do is cocoon. Couch, blankets, dog, movie, Ben & Jerry’s.

tantra "sex and the city" sex

The episode I’m on includes this rather…er…intimate, and ultimately messy scene. We’ve talked before about how Tantra really has nothing particularly to do with sex, traditionally—and how, in the West, it’s all about sex. It’s an irritating, funny contradiction, and says a lot about our fascination, and boredom both, with Eastern spirituality.

Tantra, rather, is another name for Vajrayana—the third turning of the wheel or teachings of the Buddha, and one mostly closely associated Tibetan Buddhism. Sure, there’s a little depiction of yabyum here and there, but mostly the tantric path involves a whole lot of meditation practice.

From an earlier post re the Tantra Chair (NSFW):

I grew up in an American Buddhist family, as some of my readers will be all too well aware. In Buddhism, Tantra (or Vajrayana) is not about sex. In fact, I studied it as a child (and not at night with a flashlight and a blanket over my head).

There are teachings within Tantra that have something to do with the art and practice of spiritually-directed, transcendent sex—but even those, a very small part (say .00005% of Tantra) are intended to help the Bodhisattva (a Buddhist dedicated to helping others) clarify his or her mind and heart and so better be able to help others.



About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now elephantjournal.com & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. elephantjournal.com | His first book, Things I would like to do with You, is now available.


11 Responses to “Tantric Sex (and the City).”

  1. My wife Jane and I have been through the entire "Sex and the City" on DVD from Netflix 3 or 4 times, start to finish. We love that show. Now we're looking forward to the second movie.

  2. Leann says:

    Sex and the City. I love/hate that show. The ultimate in material materialism and sexual materialism. Spiritual materialism? – nah, unless it can get you the other kinds of materialisms.

  3. Sure, but it is sure is fun and funny, don't you think?

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  5. tea margvelashvili says:

    i remember this episode,why were they giggling like 12 year olds now that i don’t know and i sure hope that tantra is not learned from shows like this and i would also like to see this space used to bring informative,genuine articles about Vajrayana,surely there r plenty of experts who would love to share

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  9. victoria says:

    Bob, save yourself. Don't watch the second movie. I'm a huge fan and own all the seasons and the first movie. The second one is an embarrassment…truly horrible, not funny and disrespectful of another culture…