Healthy relationship: love and change

Via Yesica Pineda
on Feb 24, 2011
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Take a breath, let it out. Tune in to your sensations and listen. Ask yourself:

How many times in a conversation I say the word “I”?

How often do I interrupt (by word or in thought) what others are saying to me…with the word “I”? Am I honoring what I feel? Am I honoring my freedom of choice? Am I honoring what others feel? Am I honoring their freedom of choice? Can I be with myself or do I need constantly the company of another? Do I blame others for my own suffering? Do I always think others are here to get me? Do I live in projection of how others judge me?

Allow me to change your perspective. After being honest with yourself with your answers, tell yourself:

From now on,  conversations will not include the word “I”.  Example: “Meeting you has been a joy” instead of  “I am happy to meet you”; or “Having you as a friend is a beautiful gift” instead of “I want the beautiful gift of your friendship”; or “You are needed” instead of “I need you”. (Unless, of course, you really need to talk only about what “I” wants, needs, and has done, stop talking about yourself.)

Listen. Honor what you feel. Honor your freedom of choice. Honor how others feel. Honor others’ freedom of choice. Learn to be with yourself so you have something enlightening to give to others. Stop blaming others for your suffering and take responsibility of yourself.  Learn how to trust in your own radiant energy.  Stop looking at yourself through the eyes of others.

There is only one successful way of communicating: Love. There is only one Ultimate Truth: Change.

Stop trying to change others and change yourself until your life is full of grace, love and real happiness.

Let go.




About Yesica Pineda

Yesica Pineda is a time and space traveler, viajera del tiempo y el espacio. Yeye is a musician, yogini, and writer, who thinks of herself as stardust creating the Universe, and loves the feeling of positive vibrations. She is the founder of the multilingual portal for the encounter of the worlds, Namaste La Onda Natural. You can also read her work at Destino Magazines®,®, BajaTraveler2016®, and follow her column here at Elephant Journal. She is a social media lover, and as the lead producer of Namaste Conscious MultiMedia, Yeye produces Yoga Videos in Spanish for and leads live power yoga & music events at 101 Namaste SJ art district®, and every full moon you can enjoy live music, friends, and nature by the Sea of Cortez at El Ganzo in Los Cabos, where she and her husband Justin Miller present Full Moon Yoga with Planetary Moods. She is a Vipassana Meditator. Born and educated in Mexico City, she has fully lived and continue studying in Los Angeles, CA; Boulder, Colorado; and Los Cabos, Mexico. Countries she has travelled include USA, Mexico, Colombia, Peru, Spain, Holland, Turkey, and New Zealand, and beautiful Islands such as Hawaii and Puerto Rico. She is a traveller of the worlds. She lives with her family and two dogs somewhere in the Universe. She believes in Love. To follow her Planetary Moods you can hear in Soundcloud at WaterWalkers or Yeyeorganicpop. Or, visit her website.


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  2. magdalena says:

    ~ thank you for this…. it takes so much effort and practice to "get" it. Having a beginner's mind helps, since in the beginning it's all about them. Funny how ego dissolves when love strikes 🙂

  3. yesica says:

    you are beautiful 🙂 thank you Magdalena 😉