10 Reasons I like being Single.

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on May 18, 2011
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Single not as in dating. Single as in, all alone.


1. Boring is good.

2. I get more work done, with less guilt (inside-out, or outside-in).

3. I exercise more.

4. It’s cheaper.

5. I sit around blabbing less.

6. Less drama.

7. Less planning all the time.

8. Loneliness is kinda nice.

9. I like sleeping alone, anyway, I’m big and can spread out.

10. Ummmm…help me out here, add your reason in comments?


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125 Responses to “10 Reasons I like being Single.”

  1. Ashley says:

    I don't have to shave my legs all the time 🙂

  2. Sarah says:

    I don't get constantly criticized.
    I don't get told what to do.
    I have more space to enjoy what I love.
    I get to date other people.

  3. Debi says:

    I can listen to all my favorite music.
    I don't have to have my pubic hair pulled out at the roots with hot wax.
    I can eat legumes with wild abandon, and pass gas without apologizing. Even during dinner.
    I don't have to eat two Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners within 3 hours of each other.
    I can leave my yoga mat unfurled, and label it "furniture."
    I get the last cup of coffee.

  4. bri11 says:

    I can fall in love as much as i want…

  5. Sarah says:

    Good one!

  6. Rachel says:

    More time with friends
    More time to travel
    More freedom
    Less stress
    Ironically, more love
    Less fighting
    I feel better about myself bc someone isn't criticizing me all the time

  7. Rachel says:

    Oh, I can cuddle with my friends without feeling guilty

  8. Um, having another person around typically becomes a pain in the ass sooner or later.

  9. aditia says:

    I cannot take that loneliness

  10. elephantjournal says:

    Nice, JJ! Or, you can learn to be your own best friend. We don't have to rely on conditional love of ourselves or others if we can get to know ourselves and like ourselves, fundamentally (working on it). ~ Waylon

  11. boulderwind says:

    The only dirty socks and underwear that I need to pick up are my own. The only dirt I clean up is my own. The only bills I pay are my own. More control over how my money gets spent, hoarded, saved, etc. I don't have to spend as much on food. The only moods I have to deal with are my own. Less drama. Did I say less drama?

    I have been in a relationship for a long time, but these are the things I fantasize about during those "moments". I had a lot of those "moments" today…

  12. Corti Cooper says:

    – Not having to answer the question "So…. did you eat or are you considering eating?"
    – Having more time to read the Elephant Journal.

    Crap, my bf is here. I guess I'm going to have to deal with his constant need to eat….

  13. kerry says:

    my dog gets to have as much of the bed as she wants and no one bitches about it.

  14. lindsaymcclure says:

    #11. Redford

  15. Wilson says:

    ‎# 10 i literally own my time
    # 11 i almost never get angry or have a fight
    #12 i don't put up with nobody's pettiness, nobody puts up with mine
    # 13 did i mention that i own my time?, i do what i want anytime i want
    #14 i can listen to whatever music i want anytime i want in the volume of my preference
    #15 i can concentrate better in my reading or watching a movie, without interruptions
    so forth and so on…

  16. Ansley says:

    10. I have no one to answer to. I can eat just broccoli for dinner and no one complains 🙂

  17. elephantjournal says:

    Hahahah I wrote Redford as my original #3 but then I thought, well one thing I do whether single or not is hang with Red. The only thing that gets in the way of doggie time is work or travel. ~ W.

  18. Dylan says:

    –I get a lot more writing done
    –My overhead is less
    –I get to meet a lot of different women, and occasionally lovingly ravage one

  19. fleecesheets says:

    I don't have to share my closet or my bathroom!

  20. Catherine says:

    You also become far more independent, resilient to hardship, and confident in what you both have achieved and are capable of.

    You depend on no one but yourself and you're forced to take responsibility when things get f***ed up. You stare your own bs in the face and move on.

    You learn to love yourself unreservedly without requiring or depending on outside validation.

  21. beccacski says:

    Some of us are just just happier solo. I know I am. I miss the rush of love, but it never ever lasts.

  22. tea says:

    .no complaining period
    ..pettiness about tiniest things
    …luxury of walking on trails with doggies without coordinating with another
    ….enjoying deep sleep
    …..eating in bed and having as much chocolate as needed 🙂
    ……having as many shoes and purses without being asked why
    …….doing yoga at 6 am daily blissfully
    i can go on and on and on

  23. Lele says:

    Complete and utter selfishness. It's nice to do what I want, when I want, how I want. It is, afterall, all about ME!

  24. yoga freedom says:

    10. The possibilities.

  25. JenJen says:

    I'm working on it too.

  26. zane says:

    ^ This!

  27. Pamela says:

    I am at peace
    a perfect

  28. Laura says:

    learning, in a more complete, visceral way, about how to honor and adore myself…..truly looking…and FINDING…. within 🙂 I too actually see myself happier in relationship ultimately, but this has been the biggest blessing of the last few months, and funnily enough, I can see the perfect-ness of this singledom in moments like this. Thanks for the read, the laugh, and the reminder that I'm not a freak 😉

  29. tri4me says:

    Yes, people ALWAYS want to hear about my most recent dating adventure. Sometimes I think I do it just for the fun diversion.

  30. elephantjournal says:

    via http://www.facebook.com/elephantjournal

    Bob Mizrahi itgood so you can eat garlic

    Mariah Brown Charbonneau
    I loved reading this, but I have to say that the things most people were claiming as good things about being single are the things (in the opposite of course) that I love about being in a relationship – sharing music, picking up his underwe…ar and doing his laundry, cooking for him…I just sincerely love doing these things, but I'm sure that has so much to do with how much he appreciates my doing them – it's just one more way for me to love him. I'm just happy to be happy where I am now, but I am also happy for others that are happy where they are now, regardless if that's single or in a relationship.

    Nadarajah S Ponniah no more defending our ego or pretending to be good towards our partner …

    Whitney Grace You can be yourself without being judged

    Christine Matos If you guys need to be single for that kind of freedom and security, you have either got some major co-dependency issues, communication issues or are with the wronf type of person Whitney and Nadarajah…

    A true loving relationship of equals who respect one another is a great life affirming and enriching experience…

    Jason Gan Social status is overrated, and not as important as it was in the Victorian Period. period. Plus the title of this should really be "10 Reasons I like being with 10 different women." Variety FTW.

    elephantjournal.com Jason, I think you win "comment most based on title and photo without having read the article" award of the day. ~ W.

    Anna Schantz ‎11. Reading in bed as late as I like. 12. Almond butter and apple for dinner. 13. Farting at will. 14. Not being lied to or cheated on. I could go on.

  31. Kathie says:

    No Drama!

  32. melonyjade says:

    Going for a walk in the rain and being present with myself and the world
    Not having to check in with someone when plans spontaneously arise
    The toilet seat is never left up
    The only expectations I have to live up to are my own

    ….timely article. Thank you.

  33. Chelsea says:

    I can join the Peace Corps without a second thought.

  34. Shale says:

    Never less alone than when alone.

  35. elissa says:

    Both are good and wonderful.

    I’d rather be single than in a bad relationship, but I’d rather be in a good relationship then single!

  36. AMO says:

    I feel so deeply sad for some of the people who answered. Whether you're in a relationship now, or not, being in a relationship DOES NOT MEAN having someone criticize you all the time. If your partner is doing that DO SOMETHING TO FIX IT, if that means working on it, work on it with a reputable coach or therapist. If it means leaving, LEAVE. If it means changing the way you view feedback from a loving partner, then get on that. Living in misery with another is not the definition of being in a relationship.
    Even those who listed things like "exercise more" are sad. Find a partner who loves to exercise and will support the things you love to do. Any partner who encourages you to give up the stuff you love, is not a good match for you. If it's YOU who automatically gives up big important parts of yourself in relationships, then work on that, get into a relationship with a commitment to watch yourself for that and not let it happen. Talk it out, with yourself, with your friends, with your partner. I want to be with this person but will hold on to myself at the same time. Single is awesome! So is relationship! When they are experienced fully by a healthy balanced person. And, our societal model of relationship is flawed if you think you can only fall in love and ravish lovely people when you're single. Not all relationship models require only person. That's an old outdated model for relationship. I'm in a relationship and both I and my partner can and do pursue activities, people, interests, loves, outside of each other. We are actively working to hold on to who we are as separate beings while being on a journey together. Consider HOW you do relationships, and then decide how you'd LIKE to do them. Move forward from there…

  37. Charlotte says:

    Notice how Farting at Will is at the top of most of our lists? That should make the Top Ten of what we want out of our next relationship.

    Personally, the best thing about being single is that claustrophobic sense of safety. Just wrap me in my cocoon nice and tight and let other folks take all the risks.

    But seriously, what is a better metaphor for spiritual longing than unrequited love? What experience–other than dying–has that clear, true, existential ring to it?

    Am I off topic?

  38. Linda Lewis says:

    *11. You have time–finally after 6 or more years–to visit your mama in Halifax! Yeah!
    Mama Linda

  39. Larry says:

    To be free of the feeling of responsibility and the karma of hurting the other, being hurt by the other, when in fact each is simply doing the best they can to work with any given moment.

  40. fredie says:

    Being in a committed loving relationship I:
    1-Get to be the witness of someone's faults and become accepting of my own.
    2-Get to face my needs and become conscious of them as they are not necessarily met right away.
    3-Have someone to share my deepest fear and insecurity and get love in exchange.
    4-Become a better person by cultivating compassion and empathy for someone who can be so irritating!
    5- Laugh together.
    6-Love together.
    7-Have project together.
    8- Argue together.
    9-Learn to accept and love yourself by seeing your reflection in the eyes of your lover.
    10- Wanting to grow old together.
    Selfishness doesn't make me happy, however it took me 10 years to slowly become happy in a relationship and with myself. It is hard work but definitely worth it.

  41. anon says:

    these comments make me sad. there's benefits to both singledom and coupling, but what kind of relationships were you people in that you felt constantly criticized, or judged, or any of the numerous other complaints here?! that's not love, just saying…

  42. Yogini5 says:

    My apartment is the opposite of a man-magnet. And I like it that way.

  43. Blanche says:

    you said everything i was thinking of saying.
    no one's dinner to cook except my own, nothing clean except my own mess
    it's total freedom!

  44. I get to know myself better and become more comfortable with myself.

  45. Jen says:


  46. Kim says:

    I can play guitar naked at 2:00 in the morning, not do the dishes, enjoy complete silence, or rock out to loud music, enjoy a late-night finger-painting session, sleep in until 12:00 PM or wake up at 5:00 AM, and no-one's the wiser.

  47. Meg says:


  48. ceej says:

    i don't have to coordinate my future with anyone and can daydream endlessly about what i want to do and where i want to go. endless possibilities.