New Bandwagon: Redirecting Hate in an Effort to Feel Good About Oneself. ~ Tammy Carew

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on Oct 25, 2011
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There are new photos sweeping Facebook, that are shared to express larger women as beautiful (just as thinner women are.) And I agree with that. I’m all for it. Larger women should be shown as beautiful in the media. There needs to be an evolution of media images, for real.

The narrow-focus of thin women in the media is both damaging and insulting to women everywhere. Women any shape, size and color are beautiful (same goes for men!)

Though, sadly, this new Facebook bandwagon is a misguided attempt left to ignorant people to redirect their self-resentment. It’s “misguided” because some of theseMarilyn Monroe vs. skinny girl pictures, and a lot of the comments, are insulting thin people. Making comments about bones being uncomfortable and larger being “more attractive.” A lot of it is very sickening to me, a thin woman.

No one is helping anyone by insulting other people. I understand that there are a lot of insults and judgments around being “fat” and that it needs to stop. But is insulting thin women going to help that?

If you are someone who made any of those comments, I ask you: does insulting another sized woman really make you feel good about yourself?

Lets try to make everyone feel good about themselves.

Stop the hate – don’t redirect it!


Tammy Carew

Tammy M Carew is currently a writer who writes in random bursts of creativity, because she can’t sit still long enough to focus and finish one of the dozen or-so books she has started. But will someday. Just watch! Which is why her blog,, is such an underdeveloped mess— but is full of (self-proclaimed) wisdom, humor, experience, and most of all, love. Follow her on twitter: [email protected] She has studied yoga philosophy and enlightenment for the last 2 years and just started her Yoga Teacher training in September 2011. She is a mother of two, a lover to one and is in awe of her dog and dove. And she absolutely loves elephant journal for all its delicious people and wisdom. 


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4 Responses to “New Bandwagon: Redirecting Hate in an Effort to Feel Good About Oneself. ~ Tammy Carew”

  1. I agree…the whole "real women" thing bugs me a little. Skinny women are "real women." Heavy women are "real women." And so are all the women in between! Photoshopped women…not so much;)

  2. TMC says:

    Exactly! Real women are all sizes and colors!

  3. diamondgirl says:

    Amen to that!!! I've dealt with this a lot and this is based in resentment and jealousy. This needs to stop! Let's support each other as women.

  4. It can be really good for thin women to read the negative backlash. I had this talk with my young cousin years ago who was upset because everyone assumed she was anorexic. It may give thin women a taste of what it is like for larger women and how to go beyond their identity as thin and beautiful. It reminds me of the exercise a teacher spoke to me about separating all the blue eyed children and brown eyed children to demonstrate the effects of racism. Anyway to illuminate the truth in the power and the vacuous nature of identity is a good thing. Anything you deny or depend upon controls you and if you find a strength without your identity then you have true power.