Radical Sexuality—can Women really Ejaculate?

Via Kimberly Johnson
on Oct 6, 2011
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I have a disease.

Thinking that everyone knows the same things that I do. Even writing that is ridiculous.

How could it possibly be true?

How could anyone have the exact same information set as I do? No one has had the same life experience, the same education.  Even if they did, we would likely remember and take away very different things from those same experiences.

Lately everywhere I turn there is information on female ejaculation.


Mmmhmmm, female ejaculation.


See, you’re like, “Well now I haven’t read anything about that.”


When I told one of my most progressive, feminist, doula, sex-positive friends, her immediate reaction was “that doesn’t exist.”  I was truly stunned. This is someone who considers herself a sex goddess.  And because she hadn’t experienced it, she assumed that it didn’t exist.

I knew it existed, because I experienced it as a confused teenager, wondering if I had just peed on the bed.

But upon further, non-anecdotal investigation, as it turns out, female ejaculation does exist.

What is it?

Surrounding your urethra (the hole where urine exits- see, I am democratic in my presentation) is a sponge-y tube. It’s called the urethral sponge.  When you get turned on, glands and tissues within and around your vagina get engorged, swell with blood. The plasma then gets pushed into the urethral sponge which also gets puffy.  You can even see this externally- a small raised donut around the opening.

Some of you are already nodding knowingly. However if you have never experienced ejaculation and would like to try it:

When you are fully aroused (which usually takes about 25 -30 minutes, at least, of external genital stimulation) relax and bear down gently with your pelvic floor muscles. At first, since it is a new sensation, you may not experience it as entirely pleasurable.

But over time it can be VERY pleasurable, adding to the juiciness of your lovemaking.


And there is a bonus– there is a biological function. It is a cleansing mechanism for your urethral tract.  In addition to broadening your sexual palette and realm of experience, women have experienced relief from the following symptoms upon learning how to ejaculate:


-Urinary tract infections

-Frequency of urination

-Urgency to urinate, especially after sex

-Frequent bladder infections

-Interstitial Cystitis

With all of the talk about this new era being about the power of the feminine, it’s time that as women we understand our own bodies.

As a  bodyworker and a yoga teacher,  I work with a lot of women, especially regarding post-partum recovery. It is extremely rare that I encounter a woman who has no trouble at all with her reproductive system- whether that is PMS, irregular menstrual cycle, HPV, cervical cancer, fertility difficulty or cysts—the list goes on. Modernity is wreaking havoc on our reproductive systems.

I am not suggesting female ejaculation as a substitute for a Pap smear.

However I am suggesting that unearthing a deeper understanding of our womanhood, and specifically, our sexuality, may hold critical keys to healing.

Shining light on sexuality as a shameless realm for healing is the next step towards evolutionary consciousness and must be included in our spiritual inquiry, if we are to claim a holistic approach.

Stay tuned for the lowdown on the G-spot.


** If you would like to learn more, I highly recommend the work of Ellen Heed and  Jaiya Ma.

There is an excellent online program called Reclaim Sexual Vitality Post-Partum.  While targeted to post-partum women, there are incredible tutorials on contemporary female anatomy, phases of arousal, female ejaculation and much more. There is also a Q and A forum. It’s like 69 dollars and has seriously revolutionary information for mothers, women, bodyworkers and yoga teachers.


About Kimberly Johnson

Kimberly Johnson helps women find their way back to themselves after giving birth. She herself was rearranged by childbirth in almost every way, so she loves sparing women the unnecessary surprises of the post-partum period. She is a a longtime yoga teacher, bodyworker, doula and somatic educator and a Certified Sexological Bodyworker. She loves helping women reclaim their erotic lives through somatic sex coaching, Somatic Experiencing tools, and holistic pelvic health. She created the program, Forging a Feminine Path: Bridging Women's Sexuality and Spirituality. The next one starts March 14th!


20 Responses to “Radical Sexuality—can Women really Ejaculate?”

  1. Rachel says:

    I also experienced the female ejaculation as a confused teen. I think the freedom in the confusion makes us that much more open to truly enjoy those sexual experiences. Funny part was I didn't know what happened. I just looked down stunned. Thankfully, or not, the man child I was with told me that he had seen that in porns and it is a good thing. Well thank goodness… 😉

  2. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Just posted to "Popular Lately" on the Elephant Yoga homepage.

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  3. This is a great spin on a "taboo" topic. Yes we do need to talk more and more openly about our bodies and EVERYTHING that goes on down there. As women we easily spend a third of our life dealing with it!

  4. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Thank you for writing and sharing this Kimberly! Are there any yoga postures that you can recommend for achieving such results? Some bandha work perhaps? 🙂

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  5. Sara says:

    I do. Its awesome and I love it. Xoxo
    thanks elephant journal.

  6. Alyosha says:

    This is one area where men (or lesbians) may have a broader perspective. I know women who experience this every orgasm — and women who never experience it.

    I don't know whether or not it is something worth cultivating. But it is kind of cool (and makes it impossible to fake an orgasm!).

  7. Veena says:

    Are you saying when women "spray" like a stream of fluids? Or more like orgasm achieved by stimulating the urethra area?

  8. Sara says:

    Its a ton and it has force………its crazy wild fun

  9. Shiva says:

    Female ejaculate is sometimes referred to as Amrita, nectar of the goddess. Having witnessed maybe a couple hundred women ejaculation, I have a fair amount of experience in this phenomenon. I am a little shocked that this isn't common knowledge by now. I have a spiritual perspective on this and see it as a sacred consciousness changing event in a woman's sexual evolution. At the same time it is seen as a goal by women who do not feel they are complete without experiencing it. This is completely false. The truth is all women emit ejaculate from their periutheral sponge. Some weep in small amounts, some squirt large quantities, sometimes over a litre. Some are accompanied by orgasm, some are stand alone events. The stimulation of the g spot is the most direct route to increasing the likelihood of this happening.

  10. Bre says:

    That is soooo juicy, Kim! So awesome you are sharing this with people. Keep shining, boo!

  11. Sasha says:

    I think this article is tasteless and does not belong in the yoga section of this blog. I know Kim and her personal agendas and this is a stab at something much deeper than she is revealing.

  12. anon says:

    Interesting topic. Interesting article. However, I agree with some of the comments that this topic does not belong in the yoga section. Secondly, do we need to place such an importance on the female ejaculation as a sign of our "womanhood"? Giving so much weight to such a phenomena as this will likely lead to an attachment to it happening to define whether or not we are having "good" sex…or whether or not we are "good" lovers. I know this can be an issue for men and their concerns with ejaculation. Whatever happened to the erotic union of lovemaking rather than the base physical sensation of sex? Who cares if you have a female ejaculation or not? As long as there is love and pleasure and joy in union with your partner, the ejaculation should be an afterthought. The way it is written makes me feel like I am reading a sensationalist article in people magazine rather than a real thought provoking journalistic piece in Vanity Fair. Let's start talking about yoga please.

  13. heater says:

    Yoga is about a mind-body connection, much like sexual intimacy can be if one allows. I see no problem with putting the two topics together. The headline of the article states that it's going to be about sex, so if you only want to read about yoga, then skip it. To anon, you're the reason why this topic remains taboo. You talk about having love, joy and pleasure with your partner, well this is described as a potential way to heighten the love, joy, and pleasure. It's obviously not for everyone, but perhaps given the benefits listed here or simply unmasking the taboo shroud may just give someone the joy and freedom they've been working toward meanwhile being too ashamed to know that what's going on with their body is normal, natural and healthy.

    and to Michelle Pate, there've been a few studies on how women can muster up orgasms with purely sexy thoughts while men typically have to see it in the flesh to be able to reach orgasm… kind of cool, huh? Here's an interesting paper on it: http://psychology.rutgers.edu/~brk/published05110

  14. anon says:

    Is this topic really taboo or is it just not well understood? And am I the reason for that? I don't think so…that statement seems rather extreme. Sex is one human activity among many in the realm of daily existence. It is a beautiful act of creativity that can, when given a sacred container, lead to states of connection, union and ecstatic bliss…but it is not the only way. The pith of yoga is a practice about clarity and sustained attention. This sustained attention is what brings about the "yoking" that is the very definition of yoga. I highly doubt that placing emphasis on female ejaculation has a huge part in this.

  15. Shivaman says:

    Clarity and sustained attention are the masculine, Shiva pole of the duality. Shakti, kundalini and all the wondrous manifestations of the divine are the feminine pole. Yoga is the inner union of the two.

  16. Elle says:

    I appreciate the information which Kimberly is conveying. Whether it belongs here, in this journal, is the judgement of the editors of Elephant.

  17. DSS says:

    My ex-wife ejaculated and as I guy, I loved it. I always wondered if it was pee or something else…now I know.

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  19. Rich says:

    Hey Kim,
    I have to admit… you've got my creative juices flowing. I look forward to your follow-up.
    Best Regards,