Four Dating Tips for Guys. ~ Yang Li

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on Mar 19, 2012
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All right guys. You’ve been in the dating scene for a while now but still cannot figure out the necessary dating tips to make the process a little easier.

It’s not a secret that women play coy when it comes to suitors. As a matter of fact, they often say little or nothing, leaving potential mates in the dark. To stay in the dating game and remain sane while dating the women of your dreams, there are several things you should know about your girlfriend that she probably will never tell you.

1. Do they like the chase?

The first thing you should know about your girlfriend, or any woman of interest, is that they like the chase. Yep, it’s true. What does this mean? It means they like it when you chase them. What they don’t like are guys who appear too eager. This leaves a women wondering why you’re so eager. Perhaps you are desperate, insane, a serial dater, clingy or even a control freak. If you want to catch that special someone, you must continue to chase at a slow pace. This includes your current girlfriend. The fact you’ve caught her does not mean the chase is over. Women enjoy feeling like they are worth the work.

2. How about her friends?

Even though you may want your girlfriend to meet all your friends and (hopefully) like them, that does not mean she will want you to meet her friends. It’s a crazy world and possibly even a double standard but the fact of the matter is that women like to know your friends so they know who you’re with and what you’re most likely doing while you’re out with the boys. On the otherhand, women are not as keen on sharing their friends with you. There are several reasons for this, one is that many women fear you may desire a friend more than them. They also fear little secrets slipping into the wrong ear.

3. No doesn’t mean No.

If you ask her if something is wrong and she says no, that’s probably not true. The fact of the matter is when women say they are fine or okay, look out. Women are hard wired to communicate so when they respond with a short reply such as I’m fine, or I’m okay, this means they want to talk. It actually means they want you to do the work to find out what’s wrong by putting effort into talking to them. This is how they confirm they will be listened to.

4. Her bonding time!

Believe it or not, your girlfriend really does want to you spend bonding time with your friends. Previous relationship-phobia women are to blame for this outlandish myth that women don’t like their guys hanging out with the boys. Truth be told, women enjoy having time with their friends as much as guys do. There is a natural balance to both sides spending an equal amount of time away from the relationship. Remember, you’re not single any more so work together to find anatural balance that keeps everyone happy.



Yang Li, a London PR girl, and she is curious about all the ‘quirky but cool’ things in the world. She manages website that features glamorous and leisure life in London. Apart from work, she’s also running her own blog that focus on delivering fresh news in events industry and meetings technology. Contact her and share your thoughts with her! Follow her on twitter @Smiley_Yang or contact her by email at [email protected]


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4 Responses to “Four Dating Tips for Guys. ~ Yang Li”

  1. Annie Ory says:

    Wow. What a load of manure. What century are you living in? I have been a professional dating and relationship coach since 2004 and have read most of the well written and researched literature on this subject and you have said things here I've NEVER encountered in person or in a book. I've never met a woman who wouldn't want a potential mate to meet her friends and I don't know any women who "play coy" or "like the chase". In fact, most of the women I know feel they must pretend not to like men they actually like because they think men like the chase. I don't think you really know what you're talking about here. I think you just made all this stuff up. It all sounds like a lot of nonsense to me. Sorry to be so blunt, but giving advice on relationships is serious business and if you're going to do it you should take it seriously and do some research. I certainly hope no one takes this seriously or believes any of this hooey.

  2. Branáin says:

    No never means no, and yes never means yes. It's as true for guys as it is for women.

    Oh, and you'll never be sane with the "woman of your dreams." She's an illusion. Any relationship based upon an illusion is doomed to failure (aka suffering of the Buddhist kind).

  3. cit1 says:

    You've been a relationship coach for 8 years and the concept that women "like the chase" aka "play hard to get" has never been introduced to you? Sorry to be so blunt, but maybe you need to pick a new profession.

    I would assume a professional "coach" in any field would have a little more charisma than what you've displayed here when dealing with other people, good grief.

    Further more I never got the impression that this article was being written by a doctor or psychologist, but rather a free-spirited journalist with what appears to me as some natural and intuitive insight into relationships. Maybe you should do a little more reading yourself, or better yet maybe step outside and learn how to interact with people.

  4. Yang says:

    Thanks for your support! I'm totally with you! The article's just my personal opinion. No offence.