Divine Love.

Via Lasara Allen
on Mar 4, 2012
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God, The Divine Other.

“A theme revealed in nearly every spiritual path, if you dig deeply enough.”

There is a place where we feel nothing but our edges.

There is also a place beyond that where we no longer feel our edges, having totally surpassed them, completely enmeshed with the divine.

This awareness is beyond the realm of dualistic existence. It exists beyond the realm of separation, beyond the concepts of God and human, self and other, me and you, man and woman, mind and body, and any of the other simple categories we try to fit the human experience into.

It can be envisioned as coming home to a love absolutely all encompassing, complete and total. It is the ultimate surrender of self and ego; any shred of awareness of self as anything other than part of the divine no longer exists.

This is a theme revealed in nearly every spiritual path, if you dig deeply enough. The ecstatic traditions of India have many examples of those who have given themselves entirely to the seeking of not only the transcendence of the human experience, but the ultimate desire for emergence with the Divine.

Throughout the ages, the Christian faith has also had its share of mystics, those seekers who come to know God in a personal sense. Some of the foremost amongst those are St. Teresa of Avila, St. John of the Cross, and St. Hildegard of Bingen.

There are a number of Christian sects and Catholic traditions that are given to the ecstatic worship of the divine, many of which survive even to this day. Many of the mystic Christians were also ecstatics, and the fervor with which they gave themselves to God more than bordered on the sexual.

“Only in God is everything pure, beautiful, and holy; fortunately we can dwell in Him even in our exile! But my Master’s happiness is mine, and I surrender myself to Him so He can do whatever He wants in me.”  ~ Blessed Elizabeth of the Trinity in a personal letter.

Centuries earlier, the piece below was written by St. John of the Cross.

1. Where have you hidden,
Beloved, and left me moaning?
You fled like the stag
after wounding me;
I went out calling you, but you were gone.

2. Shepherds, you who go
up through the sheepfolds to the hill,
if by chance you see
him I love most,
tell him I am sick, I suffer, and I die.
~ Excerpted from The Spiritual Canticle by Saint John of the Cross.

In a later stanza Christ is represented as the Bridegroom as he replies to the Bride, who in this case represents the seeker, and quite likely St. John himself:

22. The bride has entered
the sweet garden of her desire,
and she rests in delight,
laying her neck
on the gentle arms of her Beloved.

23. Beneath the apple tree:
there I took you for my own,
there I offered you my hand,
and restored you…
~ Excerpted from The Spiritual Canticle by Saint John of the Cross.

St. John was a Carmelite Brother and friend to Teresa of Avila, also known as Teresa of Jesus, who had a rather intense relationship with God as well.

“I saw an angel beside me toward the left side, in bodily form. I saw in his hands a long dart of gold, and at the end of the iron there seemed to me to be a little fire. This I thought he thrust through my heart several times, and that it reached my very entrails. As he withdrew it, I thought it brought them with it, and left me all burning with a great love of God. So great was the pain, that it made me give those moans; and so utter the sweetness that this sharpest of pains gave me, that there was no wanting it to stop, nor is there any contenting of the soul with less than God”

~ Saint Teresa of Avila, Life, Chapter 19

Also interesting is how closely the accounts of being smitten by Divine Love mirror one another from faith to faith. Much is made of the parallels between St. John’s Canticle and the Hebraic Song of Solomon, or Song of Songs, which is a beautifully erotic exchange between Beloved and Beloved:

1. “I am a rose of Sharon, a rose of the valleys.”
2. “As a rose among the thorns, so is my beloved among the daughters.”
3. “As an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the sons; in his shade I delighted and sat, and his fruit was sweet to my palate.
4. He brought me to the banquet hall, and his attraction to me [was symbolic of his] love.
5. Sustain me with flagons of wine, spread my bed with apples, for I am lovesick.
6. His left hand was under my head, and his right hand would embrace me.
~Old Testament, excerpted from chapter two of Song of Solomon.

The ancient Song of Solomon in turn hearkens back to the Sumerian, The Marriage of Innana and Dumuzi, an even older and even more explicitly erotic exchange between lovers.

Inanna sang:
“…He is the one my womb loves best.
My well-stocked garden of the plain,
My barley growing high in its furrow,
My apple tree which bears fruit up to its crown,
He is lettuce planted by the water.
My honey-man, my honey-man sweetens me always.
My lord, the honey-man of the gods,
He is the one my womb loves best.
His hand is honey, his foot is honey,
He sweetens me always.
My eager impetuous caresser of the navel,
My caresser of the soft thighs,
He is the one my womb loves best,
He is lettuce planted by the water.

Dumuzi sang:
“O Lady, your breast is your field.
Inanna, your breast is your field.
Your broad field pours out plants.
Your broad field pours out grain.
Water flows from on high for your servant.
Bread flows from on high for your servant.
Pour it out for me, Inanna.
I will drink all you offer.” ~ Excerpted from Inanna, Queen of Heaven and Earth, Diane Wolkstein

In Hindu Shaktism, and in some sects of Shaivism, this same dance is seen as the dance between Shiva and Shakti.

Shiva: One of the three most visible gods in Hinduism, along with Brahma and Vishnu. Shiva is the destroying aspect.
Shakti: Energy of the universe, also a face of the Divine Mother in Hinduism.
Shaktism: A branch of Hindu belief that holds the Divine Mother as the highest form of divinity, with all other forms being emanations of Her.
Shaivism: The worship of Shiva.
Bhakti: Spiritual devotion based in total love.
Mirabai: Known as the Mad Princess and The One Who Danced for Krishna among other names, Mirabai is remembered for her devotional poetry and her ceaseless seeking of Lord Krishna. Mirabai is considered to have achieved emergence with Her Lord.
Krishna: A Hindu deity known to be the eight avatar of Vishnu. Krishna is known by many names.
Rumi: Sufi mystic and teacher. One of the most well-known of the devotional poets, Rumi’s poetry reaches intense depths and heights of both pain and ecstasy.
Shamz/Shams i Tabriz: Rumi’s teacher and spiritual guide. Much of Rumi’s poetry is written for Shamz.

Krishna and Radha

Suffice it to say that for thousands of years this dance of love has been chronicled as a sacred act. With her ceaseless seeking for union with her beloved Krishna, Mirabai is part of this dance as seen in her sacred devotional Bhakti writings. It is voiced in the longing of Rumi for Shamz. It is echoed in the gasping cries of Saint Teresa in the throes of her ecstasies.

Is there a difference between the categories? Is there any love less sacred than any other love? Any devotion less sacred than any other devotion?

Mystics of any tradition tend to recognize that no religion has a corner on the “truth” market, even where the religious books and sectarian interpretations may reflect a sense of “The One Right and True path.”  Beyond the question of truth and belief, there are also the generations of conditioning regarding our bodies, sex, and the beingness of the human condition.

Many religions separate exactly the things I am encouraging the reunification of—body and spirit, sex and worship, humanity and divinity.

Some seek enlightenment through asceticism, some through indulgence. Those of us who have tried both routes know that there are more similarities between the two approaches than there are differences much of the time. Whether fasting and praying or feasting and praying, the heightened state of awareness that results can be much the same.

We can loose ourselves in divine madness either way. It is possible to turn our consciousness to oneness with a thought. Beyond that, the rest is just technique.

On the path of the mystic, we come to know that there are as many roads to the Perfect State of Being as there are people to walk upon those roads. We know that the destination is the same, regardless of the route.

This longed-for and constantly occurring state has been called nirvana, enlightenment, attainment, transcendence, the Mystical Marriage, rapture, and ekstasis (ecstasy), among other things.

On the human level, God is not any one of us but God is, perhaps, in all of us. More accurately, we are in God—not a single part of anything is separate from the all that is. If the word “God” is sticking in your craw, call it Spirit, or the Divine Spark, or whatever you like to call it. It!

God is within us and beyond us. Perhaps it is God that speaks to itself through our cells, recognizes itself through our bodies, finds connection through our hearts and limbs, awakens itself again and again to the pure and total presence within our cores.


Editor: Jennifer Cusano


About Lasara Allen

Lasara is wife to her true love, and mother to two amazing young women. She’s also a best-selling author, an educator, and an activist. Lasara’s first book, the bestselling Sexy Witch (nonfiction, Llewellyn Worldwide), was published in 2005 under the name LaSara FireFox. As of 3/6/2012, after a coaching sabbatical, Lasara has openings for three three-week, individual, personally tailored coaching and mentoring programs. She also has slots in a cohort-model group coaching program available for a limited amount of time. Lasara is available for one-session commitments as well. Make whatever commitment feels best for you. Lasara offers individual coaching on topics such as; * Mental and Physical Health and Wellness - accepting your diagnosis (or that of a loved one) - learning to live with awareness of strengths and vulnerabilities - Learning to live gracefully within your spectrum of the possible * Mindful Relationships - self as primary partner - loving partnerships, friendships and connections - marriages - parenting - family * Spiritual Contemplation and Alignment - Entering into and committing to your spiritual inquiry - Learning to listen to listen for and hear the divine in your life - Inquiring into the role that faith may play in informing your path - The role of meditation, contemplation, and prayer in your practice For more information and endorsements, visit: http://lasaraallen.com/about-lasara/coaching-services/


15 Responses to “Divine Love.”

  1. Lilith says:

    fabulous summation, Lasara. I love the way you write, and your topic is so wonderfully interesting. Bhaktis and Ecstatics, of any calling and form are so beautiful and inspiring. They are beauty, being beauty, living beauty, giving beauty. And beauty is god/dess – the divine by any name or representation. thank you for the reminder…

  2. Hi Lasara,

    Just posted to EJ Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/elephantjournal

    Jeannie Page

  3. Ben_Ralston says:

    Thank you 🙂

  4. thanks for the research and weaving this together. Right on. My most direct personal obseration on the matter occurred on a Greyhound bus heading east on I-70 when a middle-aged African-American woman carried a bible down the aisle, into the tiny closet of a restroom, and within a minute everyone on the bus was treated to “Ooh! OOh, Jesus! Yes!”

    “Lady, you got to cool it back there,” said the bus driver over the intercom. “You be having more fun than the rest of us.”

    Emerging victoriously, glowing, walking down the aisle,the woman proclaimed, “Jesus IS the Lord!”

  5. ValCarruthers says:

    Loved this, Lasara. Posted to Spirituality-Featured Today.

  6. LasaraAllen says:

    Thanks for posting! 🙂

  7. LasaraAllen says:

    Thank you, Ben.

  8. LasaraAllen says:

    Thanks for posting, Val!

  9. Justin says:

    The Father and Mother are estranged I think. The exalted Man sits up in the sky upon the throne. While the Woman is locked away in the tower.

    The Mother is nature, and all the physical elements — but that's become everything we are supposed to deny in order to be "holy".

    I think people are scared of natural b/c it doesn’t seem as “self-sacrficing” — like Catholic priests who feel their life of celibacy and restriction is “more holy” than a family-life — or Buddhists running away to mediate on a mountain top, leaving anything "worldly" behind — or monogamists who would tell a polygamist that they ought to “deny their natural man” and get with one-on-one monogamy instead of a natural state of multihusband-multiwife tribes.

    I like the way you put it here — bring back together the things that shouldn't ever have been separated in the first place…
    …or maybe it's realize that they haven't ever been separate — it's only a hardened mind perceives this-and-that, good-and-evil, heaven-and-earht, mental-and-physical, spirit-and-flesh, gods-and-humans, etc. as exclusive things — and our minds just need to be soften, or broken.

  10. LasaraAllen says:

    I'm with ya! Article to come on that exact topic – masculine/feminine divine and separation, and the healing of it – at some point in the (ideally near) future!

  11. trapsas1 says:

    Very cool, Lasara, I just tweeted the link on Twitter. I've recently written on these EJ pages about experiencing God directly and found your post to be refreshing, I love the sensual notes you hit. And great job in doing the leg work to pull up all those compelling passages. Thanks. ~Tom Rapsas