It’s Okay to Be Soft.

Via Kate Bartolotta
on Mar 13, 2012
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Photo: Patricia Lazar

Some days it would be easier if we were all tough.

Life gets complicated. It wears us down. It hurts. But it isn’t being hardened by it that gets us through it. It isn’t being jaded that allows us to survive the hard parts. It’s staying soft. It’s being broken open by it and staying open, no matter what. It’s staring at what comes at us—unblinking—and staying still in our softness even when it hurts.

When we feel pain—physically or emotionally—it’s a huge gift. It’s a message from our bodies or our hearts that something is wrong. It isn’t something to run away from. If we let it, it can teach us. Instead of going numb, becoming hardened or running away—let it in.

Lean into the pain. Look at it. It’s okay. It’s okay to be hurt. It’s more than okay, it’s necessary. It’s good to be in love with this beautiful, painful, crazy world we live in even though it hurts sometimes.

It’s okay to be soft:

“Be soft.

Do not let the world make you hard.

Do not let the pain make you hate.

Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness.

Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree,

you still believe it to be a beautiful place.”

~ Unknown


About Kate Bartolotta

Kate Bartolotta is a wellness cheerleader, yogini storyteller, and self-care maven. She also writes for Huffington Post, Yoga International, Mantra Yoga+ Health, a beauty full mind, The Good Men Project, The Green Divas, The Body Project, Project Eve, Thought Catalog and Soulseeds. Kate's books are now available on and Barnes & She is passionate about helping people fall in love with their lives. You can connect with Kate on Facebook and Instagram.


8 Responses to “It’s Okay to Be Soft.”

  1. Sounds like we're in a similar place today. Thank you Kate. Big love! <3

  2. Thanks Lauren! Big love back to you <3

  3. ValCarruthers says:

    Beautiful, Kate. Hug comin' atcha. Just posted to "Featured Today" on the Elephant Spirituality Homepage.

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  4. […] flesh, but my own flesh. On a potentially deadly quest to rid myself of all of my fleshy bits, all of my womanly softness that was developing relentlessly, all of the genuine parts of me that didn’t live up to my […]

  5. Joe Sparks says:

    A good portion of the hurt we carry isn't ours. It is our great, great, great, great, great grandparents' hurt, from the things that they fought through or fought off: the wars, the famines, the confusions, the big fires. They never got a chance to heal from the hurts, so they passed them on down to their children, who passed them on down to their children, who passed them on down to us. Now they are ours. And many of us have passed on a portion of them ( as little as we could) to the next generation. If you don't get a chance to heal ( discharge the hurts), that is what you do. We must learn how to heal and recover from our hurts. Understand that you have more than enough reason for your feelings and struggles. Appreciate how well you've done in a harsh world. Choose to notice all that is good. Don't wait to enjoy the life you already have.

  6. Beautiful, Joe! Thanks so much.

  7. Joe Sparks says:

    Thank you, Kate. Your have a wonderful mind. I am a fan! I always enjoy reading your articles.