You can’t stay happy forever.

Via Rebecca Lammersen
on May 7, 2012
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Photo by The Glowing North Stars

Have you ever noticed that being happy is just as exhausting as being sad?

That’s because it is.

I have lived my life on the roller coaster of emotion. Disneyland’s Space Mountain doesn’t hold a snow capped peak to the summits and valleys of my feelings. I have spent most days holding on for dear life to the side rails, addicted to the euphoria of elation and barreling through the caverns of sadness.

Riding the roller coaster taught me that, “Everything that goes up, must come down.” I don’t believe happiness is sustainable, but there is a space between these two polarities—it’s called contentment.

I call it, living in the eye of the storm—always calm, collected, in observance 360 degrees of everything around, untouched, yet aware.

I disembarked the roller coaster one day and began paying attention to the eye of the storm in everything I do. I started to exist in it and I discovered, contentment is sustainable.

When I breathe, I  acknowledge the emptiness between the inhale and exhale. I honor the silence between my words and the hover between my  footsteps. Between the joke and the laugh, I take pause in my smile. The place where there is nothing, that’s where peace awaits me.

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The storm will always be and so will the roller coaster.  There is always the temptation to step onto the platform of the roller coaster, lock down the restraint bars and take a ride. It is tempting because excitement is addicting. I have to tell myself every time I feel the craving to be struck by lightning that I have the choice to step into the storm or stand in the center, in the quiet stillness where I can observe the electricity and appreciate it.

I remind myself that the quiet always exists in the noise, I  just have to stop to hear it.


By Rebecca Lammersen


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About Rebecca Lammersen

Rebecca Lammersen is the founder of Yogalution, an intimate, boutique style yoga studio in Scottsdale, AZ. I love being alive. I love being a mother. I love teaching yoga. I love to write. I love to know. I love to not know. I love to learn. I love to listen. I love to read. I love to swim. I love to travel. I love to dance. I love to help. I love to serve. That pretty much sums me up. For daily inspirations, check out Rebecca's website. Visit her yoga studio website and peruse her articles at The Huffington Post. You can also find her on Facebook. Subscribe to Rebecca's feed and never miss a post!


9 Responses to “You can’t stay happy forever.”

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  2. ValCarruthers says:

    Loved this, Rebecca. Learning to dwell for a few moments in the pause or space at the top of the inhale and the bottom of the exhale has been significant to my personal practice and to my teaching for a long time. Only to me, it's far from "nothingness." As I've studied it, those spaces are exchange points of receiving fresh prana (life force)/returning stale prana with the universe. At yet another level it's where one of my meditation masters would say that your personal deity waits for you. And yes, it's the fount of sustainable contentment and silence that you have tapped into. It's a nothingness that contains everything!

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  5. Tamara says:

    I believe happiness is our divine right and what life is meant to be comprised of~
    The problem, and you state this so well; is that we base our happiness on the highs….happiness is a choice and it's like a slow burning steady flame vs. the explosion we all look for in our world.

    Happiness can last a lifetime and realizing that this NOW moment, good or bad, can be happy in it's own right.
    Thank you for your post, nicely done.
    Daily Transformations

  6. Tamara says:

    damn, i should have grammar checked that comment eh? Sorry~i imagine you get my point!!

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