A Family That Lives Together…

Via Joana Smith
on Jun 15, 2012
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Who I'd like to meet: Superman's Children, eco-warriors, truck drivers, persephone, roller derby queens, nurses, scientists, givers, priests, yogi, storytellers, people who don't know right now, playwrights, philosophers, people who are more visual, people who hop trains, performers, poets, seamstresses, activists, Spider-Man, kids, rangers, Snow White, dj's, massage therapists, people who work with their hands, bunnies, sportsracers, people who work in offices, dancers, baristas, artists, cleaners, climbers, Jeff's sister, Colbert, Skiers, Bikers, skaters, surfers, ani, people who are recovering, trees (and flowers), people who will die soon, gardeners, horses, Jolie-Pitt, soon-to-be mothers, margie's daughter, astronomers, people who are scared, girls who wear black and listen to the Smiths, cuffmakers, lambs, Miranda July, the man in the moon, Bono, people from 'round here, Obama...


5 Responses to “A Family That Lives Together…”

  1. Justin says:

    ( You have to wear clothes that kind of
    look like your name )

    Hmmm — what kind of clothes looks like the name "Justin"?

    I like the pages from whatever book that is:

    between man and woman, there really is otherness:

    I once wrote:

    Humans are not born into this world absolutely free. Meaning, the natural completion of any one human can only be found in the joining [or marriage] of two humans. The natural completion of any two humans [a marriage family] can only be found in the joining of that family to God. Man or woman [alone] know only one half of human nature.

    The key to harmony in this system is for masculine and feminine aspects to be in balance. It would be improper to ask the moon [feminine] to shine like the sun – or the sun [masculine] to reflect like the moon. Each has its proper role, power, purpose, and way of doing things. Activity must be balanced with rest. Contemplation must be balanced with creation. Etc.

    The two cannot be mixed together or pitted against each other – as though “on” could ever gain victory over “off” or vice versa. The masculine and feminine are to come together and become one – by joining together while retaining the masculine and feminine aspects undiluted, untainted, and unmixed.

    The friendship of Man and Woman — being stronger than Chaos, I guess…

  2. JoanaSmith says:

    "You have to wear clothes that kind of look like your name," I think I was trying to convey the concept of individuation…(is that a word?) You know, instead of just dressing like an assembly line of cut-out people, putting on the costume of ourselves…magnifying the individuality part is fun.

    I like the listings you do of the different qualities of the masculine and feminine. It's important to be aware of: activity/rest, on/off, contemplation/creation.

    Over the past month I've done a lot of thinking about my part effecting relationship dynamics–pulling apart the tangle of chaos. I'm pure feeling, he's very logical, and it's hard for me because when I feel rejected I freeze up–not because I want to or that I'm not capable or that I have nothing to contribute– I just can't think because I'm afraid that nothing I say or do will be good enough– it's total "deer in the headlights," and it makes my partner want to shake me. So for me, personally, it was a big step for us to realize that I needed to feel safe (and valued), and for him even to realize that I was frozen, not just playing some kind of game, and the he could diffuse it by simply doing or saying something to make me feel safe (and valued) again.

    And that reminded me of nature–flowers open up, but the right conditions have to be present.

    I like what you say about "freedom" as being two. Its one of the main points of this book by Luce Irigaray. There is a nice section about that in the book. You probably said it more concise and simply, but this is nice..

    "Man is not, in fact, absolutely free. That is not to say that he in enslaved to a nature and he must overcome it. Nor does it mean that he is a slave. He is limited. His natural completion lies in two humans. Man knows of only one part of human nature, yet this limit is the condition of becoming and of the creation.

    Man does not, therefore, have to consider his nature a burden, nor does he have to invent a second (abstract and unreal) human nature for himself, any more than he has to neutralize the difference between man and woman in the name of factitious equality. He should rather understand that he represents only half of humanity but it is this condition that permit him to postulate the infinite without an anti-natural labor of the negative. The fact of being half allows the whole to be constructed without denying what is. Taking the whole as its point of departure, becoming is forced to deny the whole in order to develop."

    It goes on to say that "I am not free in the way that is generally conceived, but I am free on the other hand as I should be, to be what I am: half of human-kind. In that sense, right–my right–is a function of respect for human life."

    Thanks for the comment, Justin:) It's nice to rethink some of the stuff. I think my next post is going to be about flowers.

  3. JoanaSmith says:

    There's a great song by The Smashing Pumpkins on "Mellon Collie and the Infinite Sadness," (1995) called "Take Me Down" by James Iha–not Billy Corgan, though I love Corgan's lyrics.

    take me down, to the underground
    won't you take me down, to the underground
    why oh why, there is no light
    and if i can't sleep, can you hold my life
    and all i see is you

    take my hand, i lost where i began
    in my heart, i know all of my faults
    will you help me understand
    and i believe in you

    you're the other half of me
    soothe and heal…

    when you sleep, when you dream, i'll be there
    if you need me, whenever i hear you sing…

    there is a sun, it'll come, the sun,
    i hear them call me down
    i held you once, i loved that once, and life had
    just begun
    and you're all i see….
    and trumpets blew, and angels flew on the other side
    and you're all i see
    and you're all i'll need
    there's a love that
    god puts in your heart.

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