The Epidemic of Sexually Unfulfilled Females. {Video} ~ Kim Anami

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on Jul 23, 2012
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There is an epidemic of massive proportions taking place right now.

Probably in your home and in your bed. Over 95 percent of women suffer from it. As a result, over 95 percent of men, other women, and children suffer from it. It plagues us all:

Females utterly freaking out about absolutely nothing due to lack of phallic near, in or around their vaginas, leading to moments of kataklysmic psychopathic moments of intense and troubling explosions of repressed sexual tension. (Otherwise, known as FUKME.)

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Kim Anami is a life and sex/relationship coach. She is passionate about harnessing the power of sex for a life well-lived and well-f**ked. Kim’s musings on love, life and sex have graced the pages of Playboy and national radio and television. Explore her bodacious retreats, salons and 1+1 offerings at: Facebook: Twitter:



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9 Responses to “The Epidemic of Sexually Unfulfilled Females. {Video} ~ Kim Anami”

  1. Tina Buchan says:

    Loved it! Laughed but recognized the truths.

  2. Simon Newton says:

    Do you know how hard it is for a man to approach the subject of sex with a woman these days, or how hard it is to get your own wife to chill out enough to even want to have sex, or how high women's expectations of men and sex are and how much pressure men are under to fulfill them?

    For as long as I can remember, and for every man that I have known it's simple equation – we all want sex all the time and think about it all day long. The slightest sight of a bare neck, the curve of breast or rump, the scent of a woman passing you in the street, all enough to flick the switch into horny, but actually getting past all the baggage that women carry with them about sex and what assholes they think men generally are is close to impossible.

    Why do men do stupid shit like climb Everest? They are failed Lotharios who wanted an easier challenge.

    And then there is the vibrator. Great for women, very bad for men. We can't compete with that. My wife tells me I am the best lover she has ever had, previous partners have said the same so I assume it's not just BS or flattery, but that one time she pulled out the vibrator after half an hour of oral sex (me on her) she may as well have said to me "Don't bother, I'll do it myself".

    If it takes a mechanical object to get you off then maybe you should address the psychological and emotional issues that
    get in the way of you being able to relax and enjoy the moment. I'm pretty sure they are the same psychological issues that make women such minefields to approach from a male perspective. And once you've owned one for any amount of time and that level of stimulation becomes your norm how can a man bring you to climax without Herculean levels of fitness and determination?

    And another thing, how many women out there can honestly say they actually take part in sex. Just turning up is not really enough. Laying there and expecting to be treated like a Goddess put's all the pressure on the man and gives him no encouragement whatsoever, it's a coming together of two bodies, a union of two souls, yet when a woman just lays there and expects the man to do all the work (as the majority of you do) it feels more like an audition. I expect there to be score cards at the end held up by a panel of judges.

    Women . . . men want to help you out of this epidemic of FUKME but it's going to take a lot of from both sides. Let's work together on this one and remember an old saying of our grandmothers . . . practice makes perfect.

  3. Amy B. says:

    OK- now reverse everything said above and THAT's my and many other women's problem. Our hubbies have "low t" or whatever they're calling it now, have used porn to get off for so many years that a normal, healthy woman is no longer enough to "do the trick" for them, even when SHE is the one doing the massaging and all of the top work, if you know what I mean. Maybe at first, when things are still new, they were able to, but after that… fuggetaboutit. It's porn or nothing.

  4. Kate VB says:

    Porn is a guy's vibrator in a way. My lover loves my vibrator. He jumps in and we all have fun together!

  5. Paul says:

    I'm totally with Simon .

  6. Jack says:

    Hurray for Simon. Perfectly and accurately said. Just needs one addition:

    You women would be surprised how many of us men have read those relationship books, in order to better ourselves and try to relate to and communicate with women in the way that they need. And you know what? The more perfect a "Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus" graduate you make yourself, the quicker women get bored with you.

    We men have long learned that whatever women say they want in a man, do the opposite. That's the best (only?) way to keep them. You women need to take a good hard long look at that, because it's true, and it works, and every guy will tell you this. You women pathologically keep the aholes and get quickly tired of the nice, communicative, caring guys.

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