An Ending is Really a Beginning.

Via David Zenon Starlyte
on Aug 22, 2012
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Photo: David G Arenson ND

I, butterfly.

Your universe crashes.

The world you had constructed in your mind falls like a tower collapsing into the dust of fallen dreams.

Like thunder in the heart, everything seems like it’s capitulated—nothing makes sense in your life any more.

A crisis? When an usually unexpected stressful event happens to us, do we ever stop to ask why? Or is it too late to ask?

We fall into an abyss (often partly of our creation) and ask questions later.

What would it take to accept your life as it is, and create a feeling of peace about it? Start with acceptance (fully integrating and accepting “what is”).

If we redefine what a problem is, and call it a challenge—or a game, or better, an opportunity or a blessing in disguise—surely that opens up many possibilities?

From our attitudes, we create.

The stress response is a complex one. Yet to simplify and get down to its roots: Stress is a response triggered by an event which takes us right back to the fundamental emotions from the past—fear and anger. It’s always past-focused. Usually the core issues that define these emotions are memories of rejection or abandonment, lack or loss of control, helplessness or hopelessness.

When your life seems to end, it’s a great opportunity to start all over again at the beginning, to redefine exactly who you are and what you will stand for. And who you are not.

Photo: David G Arenson ND

Your life is your statement to the world representing your values, your beliefs, your dreams.

An ending is really a beginning. Your life is yours to create, to enjoy or not enjoy, to fight or be at peace with.

When all else is lost, you face yourself directly in the mirror and from this vantage point of complete nakedness, clarity emerges and a new image starts to form of your future.

From this point, you can create something real and meaningful, which will evolve into something beautiful in time.

When does “becoming” end? When you are “being” something.

Sometimes “becoming” needs to come to an end (perhaps an abrupt end) for you to realize that you no longer need to become something you already are.

Whatever has appeared in your life is there for a reason. You can either ignore it or learn from it.

No circumstance is accidental, though it may be unwanted.

Choose. (Be at choice!) Choose what you will be. Choose what shall be.

All you have is this moment, the only moment of choice.

We cannot control everything.

Butterfly, butterfly remember your wings so perfectly poised to dance over the rainbow.

Life will always change. The only question is, will you change with it?

Sometimes getting out of the way is a better move than standing tall and strong.

When the river comes flooding down your driveway, will you survive by standing tall and strong, or by attaching yourself to a floating branch and trusting that the flow will take you somewhere safe?

Whatever you’re going through, there’s someone who is going through something worse. Whatever is happening, there’s someone who went through worse and didn’t just come out of it, but thrived!

Keep your chin up and believe that everything can get better. You are never alone, although it may feel that way. Believe in yourself. Nobody can take your music away from you.

Butterfly fly again!

I, butterfly…

Editor: Lynn Hasselberger

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About David Zenon Starlyte

David is an international SOUL-COACH who travels the world as a spiritual healer, coach and mindful speaker. David's vision is to create journey retreats to guide people to places of mystery and power to rediscover, balance and ground themselves. Growing up in apartheid South Africa, David had an early initiation into a dysfunctional society. It influenced his thinking and search for peaceful and spiritual solutions. A passion for healing followed a severe childhood illness and a medical approach he found lacking gentleness and compassion. David later studied theology in war-torn Jerusalem for 3 years, before graduating as a Naturopathic physician in Australia. David has studied personal transformation for over 20 years with some of the leaders of human evolution including Grand Master Mantak Chia, Master Chen and Ajahn Brahm. He has worked as Naturopath, Wellness Expert and Healer at the best luxury resort as well as number one destination spa in the world. His spiritual education in mindfulness, prayer and wisdom has included immersion into Qi Gong (China), Buddhism (Thailand & Australia), Taoism (Thailand and China), Tantra, Qabbalah (Jerusalem). For more information, he can be found at: Website:, , Email: [email protected] , Facebook:


8 Responses to “An Ending is Really a Beginning.”

  1. Carmen says:

    Beautifully said, something I needed to hear right now. Thank you, David.

  2. Thank you so much, Carmen!

  3. Karen A says:

    Awesome! A truthful motivational piece well written. Thank you.

  4. thelindseyoneill says:

    Love this, David. Thank you. "I, butterfly." <3

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  6. I, butterfly indeed. Fly butterfly….FLY!!!
    share with the world your beautiful wings