Five Questions to Kickstart Total Life Transformation.

Via David Zenon Starlyte
on Aug 22, 2012
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You deserve to achieve your dreams.

Most people who consult with me are seeking increased happiness or more fulfillment. Some have achieved financial wealth, yet yearn for spiritual wealth. Some do yoga, but can’t seem to get ahead in their careers.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma—which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” ~ Steve Jobs

I’m a big believer that some already have it so good that they forget to be grateful. For most people, it can always get better.

How can your life become truly extraordinary? Ask better questions!

I’m sure you’ve heard before—there is no success or failure—only feedback.

Perhaps you’re in a “bad” situation and instead of seeing it as a learning point, or stimulus for making a change, you’re stuck in the perceived shock or drama of it. If a relationship or job ends, it is not the end of the world even though it may feel that way. Some of the greatest leaders have suffered spectacular failures.

All is never lost in failure or loss; on the contrary, often we learn the most from overcoming adversity. Most people know this consciously, yet emotionally they’re still vulnerable to drama and the feeling that the world has ended when they experience a big change.

These are five quality questions that will kickstart you on the path to achieving your dreams:

1. What do I dream of doing and how can I be paid to do it?

Another way to ask yourself this is:

If money, time, health or anything else impeding you, were not a factor, what would you love to do with your life?

If I could magically transport myself ahead 10 years from now, and look down upon this moment, what advice would I give to myself…How will I turn this around into an opportunity for realizing my goals?

Now you could also add an altruistic angle.

How will this make the world a better place?

What can I do to be of service (for others and ultimately for all humanity)?

2. What is the one action step I can take today to get me closer to achieving my dreams?

Take action on your dreams.

3. How can I learn from this?

What did I do that was an effective strategy—how can I make it even better?

Was there something that didn’t work so well, and if so, what did I learn from it?

How will this make me into an improved “better me”?

How have I handled challenges in the past?

What solutions could I program for myself that will prepare me to face similar challenges in the future.

4. How have I chosen this, and when will I start taking complete responsibility for everything that happens in my life…?

Start realizing that this is not a dress rehearsal.

If you’re not learning and improving yourself by taking responsibility for everything you have in your life, then your dreams may stay fantasy.

5. What am I truly grateful for?

Enjoy the moments you have.

Quality time is taking the time to find out what you enjoy, know yourself better, and bringing that awareness into your life now.

It’s extraordinary what magic will start to happen when you open your heart through gratitude.

Picture by David G Arenson ND




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About David Zenon Starlyte

David is an international SOUL-COACH who travels the world as a spiritual healer, coach and mindful speaker. David's vision is to create journey retreats to guide people to places of mystery and power to rediscover, balance and ground themselves. Growing up in apartheid South Africa, David had an early initiation into a dysfunctional society. It influenced his thinking and search for peaceful and spiritual solutions. A passion for healing followed a severe childhood illness and a medical approach he found lacking gentleness and compassion. David later studied theology in war-torn Jerusalem for 3 years, before graduating as a Naturopathic physician in Australia. David has studied personal transformation for over 20 years with some of the leaders of human evolution including Grand Master Mantak Chia, Master Chen and Ajahn Brahm. He has worked as Naturopath, Wellness Expert and Healer at the best luxury resort as well as number one destination spa in the world. His spiritual education in mindfulness, prayer and wisdom has included immersion into Qi Gong (China), Buddhism (Thailand & Australia), Taoism (Thailand and China), Tantra, Qabbalah (Jerusalem). For more information, he can be found at: Website:, , Email: [email protected] , Facebook:


5 Responses to “Five Questions to Kickstart Total Life Transformation.”

  1. bobcat says:

    Excellent post but could be balanced out with these questions:

    Is it true that the purpose of life are personal growth and self improvement?

    What if life right now is already complete?

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