Three Ways to Create Bliss in Your Daily Life.

Via David Zenon Starlyte
on Aug 23, 2012
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Photo by David G Arenson ND

I am not the darkness nor the light. I am that, and far more…I am myself, the eternal consciousness.

When I love myself, I experience all of Creation in one instant.

I am not tomorrow. I am not yesterday. I am the infinite present.

When I bring presence to the now, I can stop time.

Love yourself!

All of us individually and collectively are seeking pleasure, the end of suffering, and ultimately “wholeness.” Yet, we get caught up in dramas, judging ourselves and others, and craving empty substitutes for living our truth authentically (food, sex, caffeine, drugs, alcohol, television, etc.).

In Buddhism, on the one hand, craving and attachment to Vedana (feeling or sensation in Sanskrit) leads to suffering. On the other hand, concentrated awareness and awareness of Vedana leads to enlightenment and the end of suffering.

The antidote and solution to this is self-worth.

Positive self-esteem is an essential foundation that should be instilled in all our kids from the earliest age. Without this foundation, we are “lost” as a society, and people will always seek external methods of validation— from drugs, alcohol, sex to junk foods.

It is not in denying ourselves that we find a pathway to inner peace.

It is in the very experiencing of ourselves that we find authenticity and wholeness.

Seeing beyond the veil of illusion reveals our true selves, what is inside. The mirror of your life does not lie. In our frenetic 21st century lives, it is more important than ever to change that which is not working from the inside out.

Behold, the heart is a vessel for love.

Look within and expect miracles.

Today I am the sky learning that every hurdle or challenge hides secrets, every experience offers something to learn.

Behind the mask is the essence of truth, which is infinitely more vast than expected. When we get out of the way of our ego, we can learn to truly experience love from the inside out as an intrinsic part of all nature. This is our calling.

Everything is alive. Everything breathes. Movement is life. We are all part of the movement, the cycle, the breath, the expansion, the contraction, the awareness…

We are all infused with life force…as is all of the vibrating universe!

There is always something for me to learn and heal from, and make me understand more. But, I need to forget my ego—just be still. In silence is found the true healing.

If all I am is love, then how can I hurt? It is only attachment that leads to suffering.

Life becomes resistant when you resist what stares you in the face. See the windows beyond the bars of separation. All it takes to break down the bars, is an open heart and courage to face the truth.

When we experience love from the inside out as an intrinsic part of all Creation, we find our calling; experiencing ourselves as Love. This is touching God, our true nature.

Photo by David G Arenson ND

Three Reasons Self-Love is the Gateway to Finding your Bliss:

1. You cannot love another more than you love yourself.

Loving yourself leads directly to loving choices for yourself and for others.

2. You cannot escape yourself.

Not through drugs, alcohol or junk foods. Not through sex.

You may feel like you’ve escaped—but the effects will soon wear off. And once again, you’ll find yourself in waiting.

You’ll always take yourself with you wherever you go.

3. Loving yourself gets you to the true source of who you are.

Attachment leads to suffering. As a society, we have become receptive to media messages and external comforts. Non-attachment requires not chasing after shadows and luxuries.

Wholeness that comes from a full embodiment of who you are, comes from self-love.

Non-attachment to material, artificial and exterior comforts leaves only the self. The source of all love is within your reach.

Loving yourself is the way to a blissful life.

Photo by permission David G Arenson ND



Editor: Brianna Bemel


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About David Zenon Starlyte

David is an international SOUL-COACH who travels the world as a spiritual healer, coach and mindful speaker. David's vision is to create journey retreats to guide people to places of mystery and power to rediscover, balance and ground themselves. Growing up in apartheid South Africa, David had an early initiation into a dysfunctional society. It influenced his thinking and search for peaceful and spiritual solutions. A passion for healing followed a severe childhood illness and a medical approach he found lacking gentleness and compassion. David later studied theology in war-torn Jerusalem for 3 years, before graduating as a Naturopathic physician in Australia. David has studied personal transformation for over 20 years with some of the leaders of human evolution including Grand Master Mantak Chia, Master Chen and Ajahn Brahm. He has worked as Naturopath, Wellness Expert and Healer at the best luxury resort as well as number one destination spa in the world. His spiritual education in mindfulness, prayer and wisdom has included immersion into Qi Gong (China), Buddhism (Thailand & Australia), Taoism (Thailand and China), Tantra, Qabbalah (Jerusalem). For more information, he can be found at: Website:, , Email: [email protected] , Facebook:


6 Responses to “Three Ways to Create Bliss in Your Daily Life.”

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  2. Alex says:

    All good but what is this obsession with not being able to love someone else unless you love yourself? I think it's quite possible to love someone else even if you have huge insecurities like I do. It would certainly make my moods more consistent if I loved myself but I disagree that it is impossible to love someone else. I mean, I definitely love my Mum and my girlfriend and I have serious love-hate issues with myself.

  3. Hi Alex. Thanks for the great points. The point I am making is that others are a reflection of us. You cannot experience something if it's not already in you. So your love of other people, reflects what is inside you already. You may feel a strong love for your girlfriend – would you be surprized if she is just the inspiration for those feelings – whose true source is within?

    All my writing is aimed at deepening people's connection with themselves, and the source of all life. Call it sacred wisdom.
    Please do keep loving your Mum and girlfriend…!

  4. utesmile says:

    Thank you for this post, I had to work on myself hard to love myself again, after having been rejected and my self esteem, cionfidence and self love was on the floor. Since I am accepting myself as I am and love me and my body as it is, I feel great and life is happy again. It makes such a big difference to life. I still love reading about it and being reminded. Thank you!

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