An Open Letter to Amanda Todd.

Via Dianne Bondy
on Oct 25, 2012
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Recently, a young woman took her life because she was being bullied.

She was in the seventh grade, and so full of promise. Amanda was beautiful, young and impetuous…and she paid for it with her life. A momentary flash of skin caused years of torment.

Amanda, I totally understand.

It was harmless, it was innocent, it was a young woman in a moment of fearlessness. It killed her in the most cruel way, through years of torment and shame.

Who are we as society when we let this happen? Why is being mean okay? Why are so quick to judge? Why are we so quick to hate?

Amanda, I feel you and I am you. I was bullied too…

Growing up as the only black child in an all white school was hard. Kids were mean and relentless. I was so different from everyone else. For years my brother and sister were tormented for our skin color. The students hated us and the teachers ignored us. They played into stereotypes and were less then kind.

I feel you, Amanda. I am so sorry that you felt suicide was your only way out. I know you asked for help.

We are blessed and cursed to live in a world where social media is everywhere. When I was a kid the worst that could happen to you is gossip at school, a comment written on the wall of the bathroom or maybe the cool girl would beat you up. Now your entire life can be exposed to the world.

Amanda, as a girl who was relentlessly bullied and shamed, I understand. I survived through the grace of God. My parents told me I was destined for great things and I believed them. My parents were bullied and discriminated against being black in an all white world so I had their support and understanding. I think that’s what saved me. My Mom taught me yoga. I learned to trust myself and I learned to go deep within and find peace. Yoga saved me. I was so fortunate

Wherever you are Amanda, I know you are at peace. Your light lives on in all of us.

Amanda and everyone like you, I bow to your brilliant light.


Editor: Brianna Bemel


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About Dianne Bondy

Dianne is an E-RYT 500 the founder of, and Co-founder of Yoga for All Online Teacher Training She loves to educate, share, celebrate yoga and diversity and is a contributing author for Yoga and Body Image: A New anthology. She is also featured in Yes Yoga Has Curves and Yoga Journal. She is a columnist for the Elephant Journal, loves public speaking, runs yoga retreats, trains yoga teachers, has a devoted husband, two small boys and not enough sleep. Dianne is big, black, bold and loves all things yoga. Try to keep up with Dianne on Facebook, Twitter, and instagram or download one of her FREE podcast on iTunes


9 Responses to “An Open Letter to Amanda Todd.”

  1. Michelle Marchildon says:

    Breathtaking Dianne. Thank you.

  2. Dianne says:

    Thanks Michelle this hit home..suicide occurred to me at the height of my bullying saga. I was scared my parents would kill me if I didn’t succeed. Strange right?

  3. Thanks for this beautiful piece Diane. I was bullied too, for all of grade 8, by one very disturbed boy. That's why I was so moved by Amanda's death and posted the first piece (How Cyber-bullies Drove Amanda Todd to Death).

    Lori Ann
    EJ, love and relationships

  4. carolhortonbooks says:

    Beautiful post, Dianne. This story is so horrendous; it is wonderful to see someone like you asserting the light after experiencing that same sort of hate and meanness. Blessings!

  5. Dianne says:

    Thanks Lori Ann we need to shed light that their is life after bullies

  6. Dianne says:

    Thank you Carol.

  7. clare says:

    Thank you for writing this, Diane. And god bless you, Beautiful Amanda, and your family.

  8. Dianne says:

    thank you Clare…you and yours as well

  9. Tangential says:

    Maybe Amanda Todd suffered from mental fragility. Maybe her parents' marriage failure had a deep but not easily perceptible effect on her mental state. Maybe Amanda was predisposed to addictive personality disorder, and when she experimented with cybersex as a way of coping with her family situation, she became hooked on the attention she was receiving. When it became painfully apparent to her that there was no way she was going to 'win' the cybersex game and restore a positive personal reputation, the tragic downward spiral began.