Jennifer Livingston: 1. Bully: Zero.

Via Kate Bartolotta
on Oct 2, 2012
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This is a response that shows true grace and elegance.

When we can keep our heads under the pressure of small minds, we change the world. When we set the example for our children that bullying—in any form—is unacceptable, we change the world.

I have huge admiration and respect for this woman. She didn’t argue or go on some tirade. She owned who she is and held this man accountable for his behavior. She didn’t go on the defensive. She called him out on his bad behavior eloquently.

She is exactly the kind of role model American children need.


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11 Responses to “Jennifer Livingston: 1. Bully: Zero.”

  1. I have a hard time characterizing the original email from the listener as "bullying" or that he is a bully. It may not have been the most polite or politic thing to say, but, he actually had a bit of point when he said, essentially, that obesity is a problem in the US that needs to be addressed. The news-person in this case is also responsible for her behavior. I don't condone what the guy did particularly, but we need to teach kids to eat appropriately as well as to act respectfully.

  2. Pat says:

    It was not a stranger's place to make personal comments to this lady. Although he is entitled to an opinion, judgmentally expressing it to the news reader is well past the line of polite discourse. He may have just as easily passed his judgment and been just as wrong by commenting on her clothing, hair cut, or nose shape. Her physicality is none of his business.

  3. Angie says:

    Take a look inside. I am sure you have some personal flaw or emotional pain or human struggle that expresses itself in some way – unless you're perfect and I guarantee you 101 percent, you're not. This woman is beautiful, inside and out and her job is to deliver the news – which, she apparently does very well. As a bonus, she teaches children confidence and grace.
    I would like to know how many public figures, news people, actors/actresses, etc who are slender are eating appropriately. Are anorexia and bulimia appropriate eating? Is eating a lot and then exercising a lot appropriate? Is counting calories but eating food without nutrients appropriate? Perhaps she does eat appropriately – how do you know? If this man or you truly care about teaching children to eat appropriately, please do something about it rather than pass the responsibility on to another.

  4. Korumaze says:

    The way that the guy's original email was written showed no compassion, and was quite pointed and judgemental, so to my mind could be characterised as "bullying". He also seems to be attempting to control the behaviour of others through his words, which is a rather pointless exercise which usually backfires! In this case, rather than putting a focus on obesity (his expressed concern), the focus has been put onto bullying (also a concern, but not his original point). He essentially aimed a gun at one person, and then been shot back at… but he started shooting first. Here is the lesson for me – if you want your true message to be heard, remove judgement and add some compassion.
    Wonderful response by Jennifer Livingstone – best to speak your truth out loud and from the heart, and she did it so well.

  5. Laura says:

    We live in America so everyone is entitled to freedom of speech and expression and of course you leave yourself wide open to criticism when you choose to put yourself in the public's eye. I applaud how the anchor woman handled herself and I think the angle of bullying does somewhat apply. However, regarding the man who wrote the email I thought what the anchor woman and the media missed touching on was shame on the email writer for using looks as his sole criteria for being a good role model for women. How about her brain, her professionalism, her commitment, her charisma? Being able to succeed in the media is a tremendous accomplishment and has to be earned and not with a bikini. How about the schooling and work it took for her to attain her position? How about the fact that she is a working mom as well? Based on his logic does that mean Paris Hilton is a good role model for American girls because she is skinny and pretty and has earned her place in front of the camera via stupidity and lack of clothing? Yes – obesity is an epidemic but so is small mindedness and intolerance. Kudos to the news channel who was willing to put their money where their mouths were and put a talented and capable woman who didn't fit the idiotic TV model mold and put her in front of the camera because she is great at what she does and serves her community with her commitment and talent. Shame on the man who wrote the email for being so shallow. What kind of role model does he represent to anyone with that kind of mind set?

  6. While obesity in America is definitely a problem, sending a letter to an individual telling her that her personal habits are a contributor and make her a poor role model isn't the way to address it. I've seen worse incidents of bullying (obviously) but I love the way she addressed it.

  7. Kuru says:

    Excellent exposé, Laura. I'd watch this woman's news way before some of these botoxed made up anchors whose consumption with the superficial is so distracting it's hard to hear what they say. Thanks, Jennifer, for being you!

  8. Vision_Quest2 says:

    You forgot the abuse of drugs, tobacco smoking, diabulimia (abuse by Type 1 diabetics of insulin), the ingestion of tapeworms … and those are just chemical means …

    How many fewer children would take up smoking with certain "other" kinds of role models?

    If it's a matter of worrying about the public weal ("costing the US too much in insurance"), if an attorney is so concerned, they know how to lobby and how to harrass politicians, and how to hire economists as expert witnesses (as well as study their opinions and theories) … and so forth and so on …

    I actually have a thesis … pulled from the vast annals of discrimination studies …

    Kenneth Krause, Attorney-at-Law is actually not communicating to Jennifer Livingston … he is actually communicating to an idea of a Jennifer Livingston … he does not know the woman … and he is actually telling Kenneth Krause that he, Kenneth Krause, needs to lose a few ….

    This theory, if practiced, can help your inner problem-solver, Jennifer Livingston, and advance your career …

  9. Vision_Quest2 says:

    It turns out that the media made an error. The guy is actually a security guard, not a lawyer.

    Security guard who does not catch the local news often, because he's come home ready to sleep from working the graveyard shift, and not because he's pulling 75 hour weeks as a PI attorney.

    Additionally, he had been obese when younger, offered some kind of apology; but in a way he did us a favor, opening up this dialog.

  10. Guest says:

    We are beginning to live in a world where one word that could potentially be hurtful automatically translates to "bully." Everything that man said is correct – she is overweight, she does serve as a role model by placing herself in the public eye, and she is thereby carrying on a cycle of an unhealthy lifestyle. Berating a man who pointed out a hurtful truth will not help to kickstart healthier lifestyles in America. Instead of going on the offensive, sometimes one should look within instead of publicly bullying a "bully" to feel better about an unfortunate turth.