Do Who You Want to Be. ~ Lauren Wessinger

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on Nov 22, 2012
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Be willing to let go of who you think you are, so you can become who you are meant to be.

“Do you want to be a writer?” someone asked me recently.

Who me? God, no. With my run on sentences that can go on and on for days and trailing thoughts that often times never come full circle and my less than perfect technical skills and over use of “…”

“But don’t you write on your blog? Then doesn’t that make you already a writer?”

Huh, I suppose. But no, because I am not a writer. That isn’t who I am.

In Buddhism this is called “ego-clinging.”

We get so stuck on our idea or image of who we think we are, that we can’t imagine being anything outside that self-defined box. I heard something recently that blows this self-defined role theory we create for ourselves out of the water:

If you have 200 friends, then you have 200 different interpretations of who you are.

Does this mean nobody really knows us? Or does this mean the way the world sees us is more true to our own true nature than we ever believed it to be, that our self-defined roles are ficticious? I think about how many times someone has paid me a compliment that I brushed off, thinking no that’s not me, I am not that fabulous/cool/smart whatever…

More times than I can count someone has also voiced a criticism they have of me that I brushed off with an air of disbelief and words like how could she think that of me! I am not that—only to find out later that they were actually spot on and were simply holding up a mirror to show me where I needed to focus some healing work on myself.

If you love, aren’t you a lover?
If you birth, aren’t you a mother?
If you teach, aren’t you a teacher?
If you laugh, is that not your laughter you hear?
If you dream, aren’t you a dreamer?
If you give, are you not a giver? If you smile, are you not at that moment a human smiling?

So if I write, am I not a writer?

So I write. I am a writer. Good or bad worries me not. I can say I am a writer because I write my thoughts and feelings honestly and freely. I don’t write for an audience although it looks like that is starting to change. The pieces I have produced that move people the most are those I wrote with no intention to ever share, probably because I can write with (reckless) abandon that way.

I write about my past, present and future and intertwine it all into one moment of clarity that brings light to my life as it is, right now. I pour my heart out.

Who am I to say what I am not? Who am I to stop myself in my own path? Whether I have consciously or unconsciously defined some of my roles in this universe, the roles are there. Whether I choose to free myself from the roles I play, or accept them as pieces of who I am, there is no arguing their presence.


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I am a lover.

I am a mother.

I am a teacher.

I am laughter.

I am a dreamer.

I am a giver.

I am a human smiling.

I am a writer.

I am everything I do.

I am nothing that I don’t.

DO the things you want to do, because the things you want to do and who you want to become won’t just happen. Do them. Be willing to let go of who you think you are, so you can become who you are meant to be. A perfect version of you, just as you are, in everything you do.


Lauren Wessinger, Fort Worth Texas, 35 years old, yoga teacher and mother. I am not my writing. I am not my yoga. I am not the role society has put me in. I am not my past. I am not my future. I am not my possessions. I am not my thoughts. I am not my doubts. I am not my desires. I am not my religion. I am not my politics. I am simply a human on the path, just like you.



Editor: Jennifer Townsend

Like elephant I’m not “Spiritual.” I just practice being a good person on Facebook


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13 Responses to “Do Who You Want to Be. ~ Lauren Wessinger”

  1. Well done, Laura! Love this.

  2. Lauren says:

    Thank you Lynn!! I appreciate you reading and taking a moment to comment.

  3. Miriam says:

    Wonderful! Spot on! The world, and our capacity to live and love in it has immeasureable creativity, energy and space. I love this piece. thank you for sharing it!

  4. Shelley H. says:

    I am inspired by your writing and your advice Lauren. Thank you for sharing your insight into this lifetime.

  5. Kimberly says:

    Love it. Love you!!

  6. Shannon H. says:

    You have a gift, Lauren. Thank you for sharing your passions and inspiring me in so many ways.

  7. Francesca says:

    This was great!

  8. vicki says:

    your writing is fun to read while conveying thoughtful information, lauren. you got me with the first thing
    printed: it's not who you are that holds you back. it's who you think you're not.
    this invites endless possibilities! thanks 🙂

  9. Kristin N. says:

    LOVE LOVE LOVE it! Thank you for this perfect reminder!

  10. Kate Southward says:

    Lauren! Thank you for adding me on twitter which eventually lead me to reading this post. You are such a fantastic writer, succinct, to the point, interesting, readable! This is a great reminder for me today, something I just needed to read. If you would like to publish an article like this in my Sydney Australia based yoga/wellness blog Yogi's Basket, I would be greatly obliged. Love + light Kate xx

  11. Lauren says:

    Kate I would love to – thank you!! Let me know where to submit. Love & light 🙂

  12. Lauren says:

    Thank you everyone, for reading, for commenting, for supporting. Love to all of you! I would still love you even if you didn't like it 🙂 🙂

  13. phylicia says:

    lauren your piece is so timely for things I've been thinking about this week, and it succinctly addresses the issue. You have a gift to not talk "about" the issue at hand, but rather to present it as an alive presence.