2013: Choose to See Something Else in the Mirror. ~ Malin Bergman

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What kind of resolution could you possibly make for 2013….

… if you can already fit into sample size clothing?

… if you already practice yoga every day, along with running, taking dance classes and walking to work even in snowstorms or sideways rain?

… if you already eat a strict, balanced diet and keep track of all your nutrients to make sure that you get just enough of iron, potassium, B12 and God knows what else?

… if you always pack your lunch and never waste money on crappy fast food from the vending machine at work?

… if you are meticulous about using your Clarisonic brush every night and never sleep with make-up on?

… if you never leave your house with chipped nails and always make sure to pick out your clothes, shoes and jewelry before you go to bed, so you don’t have to scramble in the morning for something to wear when it’s time to go to work?

Well, here’s an idea.

How about never, ever again thinking,

“I’m fat.

I’m ugly.

I’m such an idiot”

when you see the reflection of yourself in mirrors, windows and other people’s sunglasses.

I could add more. But I think this alone is pretty huge. And I bet there’s at least one more person out there, who will read this and understand exactly what I’m talking about.

Let’s make 2013 the year when we look at ourselves in the mirror and try to see something else.

You’re not stupid just because you missed that one deadline at work. You’re not disgusting just because you slipped up and had a cookie. You don’t need to work out for three hours or run 16 miles to make up for it. You should not take pictures like the one below and think, “even my shadow is fat.”

Sometimes it takes a stranger with a chalk on the Williamsburg bridge to make you realize you might want to start doing things differently. I haven’t figured out the details yet, but I will. That is my one and only resolution this year.

malins pic - pls dont reuse


Malin Bergman is an ashtanga yogi, indie film and music aficionado, often-cheating vegan and failed ballerina, who sleeps like a starfish and refuses to accept that Pluto is no longer a planet. She loves green figs, anything crochet, horses, Coney Island, second-hand book stores and the guy who plays piano in Washington Square Park. She seldom leaves her house without giant shades, a mug of black coffee and her Chinese Crested darling dog, Angel. Connect with her on Twitter and/or New York City Snippets.


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15 Responses to “2013: Choose to See Something Else in the Mirror. ~ Malin Bergman”

  1. Stephanie Faris says:

    You're an inspiration to me! In fact, seeing pictures of you at Christmastime made me realize it's definitely worth it to give up eating bad food. Of course, I'll never look half as good as you, but it's funny that most of us look at people like you as the very definition of beauty, yet you have insecurities, too. I achieved everything I wanted in 2012 BUT my fitness goals, so I'm determined that this is the year I'm getting back on track.

    • Thank you, Stephanie, that is so sweet of you to say! To me, you're exquisitely beautiful! 😉 Let's set a fitness goal together for 2013 to exercise only to feel good and have fun!

      Also, now when I'm at it, thanks again for all your great writing advice last year! You are really one of my greatest sources of inspiration. Happy New Year!

  2. edie says:

    Great post. Thanks!

    • Thanks Edie! Your post from yesterday, seeing friends' Facebook posts about wanting to lose weight, pack their lunches, go to the gym etc, and our random talking back and forth about the yoga challenge inspired me to write this. Why is it that you can do everything "perfectly" and still not be happy with yourself? I think it's good to have high standards for yourself, but what's the point of all they do is to make you unhappy?

  3. Love this, Malin. I think this is the most important resolution any of us can make. I make a huge point of curtailing any out loud negative self talk, since I don't want my children to absorb those patterns, but I need to reallllly stop it internally too. (But I do love my Clarisonic brush 😉 )

    • Who doesn't love Clarisonic?! It's the best thing since sliced bread. I remember your post about 15 good reasons to go running and felt like maybe we have something in common – I look forward to the day I can go for a jog just for the fun of it. Baby steps!

      Thanks for reading!

  4. edie says:

    I so agree and why it is such a strong piece. I did a cleanse years ago, or tried to do it and after a week I went the opposite direction and those negative tapes came alive. It was interesting…it had been years….I listen to Tara Brach a lot. Acceptance is simple but not always easy….Great picture too. I know most all of us can identify with it!

  5. laydowninthetallgrass says:

    I love this Malin! This is definitely ongoing work xo ~ Bryonie

  6. Well said, Malin! It's unfortunate but too true. Whenever I see myself in a mirror, I see dark circles under my eyes and thin lips. Pretty sad. I can look horrible in photos, then sometimes am pleasantly surprised to see I'm not half bad looking afterall (but that shouldn't even matter!). I will add this to my list of things to be mindful of. Cheers!

    • Thank you, Lynn, and you are so right. I get angry with myself for even caring about stuff like this – but then again, anger is not sometimes I want to dabble in either!

      Hope you're having a great weekend and thanks again for reading! xx

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