Stuff Your Stupid, Uplifting Blog Post. ~ Maggie McReynolds

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on Jan 2, 2013
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Sometimes, I get really tired of uplifting blog posts.

Or motivational quotes. Or inspiring stories of people triumphing against all odds. Or pictures of animals hugging each other.

Sometimes, I just want to be in a thunderously bad mood, all right?

Sometimes, I want to be a toddler having a tantrum; I want to stomp my foot and pound my fists against the floor, and scream, “It’s not going to be okay, it’s not it’s not it’s not!”

I refuse to be cheered.

I won’t breathe deeply, or imagine my ethereal higher self cradling me—in fact, just the thought of imagining that makes me want to run head-first into a wall.

I don’t want to chant forgiveness mantras or hug a freaking rhododendron. I will not be assuaged, damn it! Stuff is seriously sucking around here and I demand my right to be pissed off about it!

So you know what I do? I go right ahead and get pissed off.

I stomp around. I eat something ridiculous like cold leftover pizza for breakfast (because I’m too irritated to be gluten and lactose-intolerant, okay???). I cry, I play online Scrabble, I hide under the covers and sleep.

And sometimes, allowing myself to feel exactly what I’m feeling moves me past the fear and the anger and the despair and the suckishness way faster than any meditation session or motivational pep talk ever could.

When I allow myself to feel what I am feeling—even when I’m not proud of what I’m feeling—I make room for those feelings to change.

And then, sometimes, I find that after having that tantrum or hiding in mindless media marathons or eating stupid stuff, I pop out the other side, and boom, just like that, I’m calm and positive and in a good place again.

Sometimes, I find that I end up writing an uplifting blog post after all.

Damn it.

Maggie McReynoldsMaggie McReynolds is an award-winning writer, certified life coach and writing coach who helps clients with real or perceived limitations break through to create lives of meaning, fulfillment, and joy. She specializes in helping both writers and non-writers find their authentic “voice” and create compelling content and manageable writing routines that don’t suck, as well as in life, love and career coaching.



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59 Responses to “Stuff Your Stupid, Uplifting Blog Post. ~ Maggie McReynolds”

  1. Maggie McReynolds says:

    You're really really welcome! : ) P.S. as long as you remember hubby gets to be in a crappy mood, too!

  2. Michelle says:

    You've gone & done it – made me smile – once again. Thanks Maggie!

  3. Maggie McReynolds says:

    : ) Thank you!

  4. Maggie McReynolds says:

    Sometimes observing my feelings is a great way to work through them/past them. One of my favorite meditations is to imagine each of my thoughts/emotions and sticks in a river, passing in front of me. I can sit and watch them, see them, note them–without engaging with them, without wading into the river and beating myself over the head with them, or poking myself in the thigh. In those meditations, I don't try to stop the thoughts/feelings, anymore than I try to wade into the river and stop the current and its flotsam.

    And then, other times, allowing myself to feel what I feel AND react, albeit regressively or dysfunctionally, is exactly what moves me past it. Gotta be a short-term deal, though. One day, one night, maybe. Otherwise, it's not living with the feeling, it's wallowing and starting to make a little nest inside there.

    Thanks for the comment!

  5. Maggie McReynolds says:

    Smiling back! You're welcome!

  6. […] We hear a lot of talk about reaching for bliss. Striving for bliss. Achieving bliss. Why is bliss so elusive? I mean, we all want to be blissful, right? But many of us have had that feeling that bliss is just too far out there. It’s like it’s unobtainable. Or, screw it, I just don’t feel like reaching today. […]

  7. jackie says:

    Bravo Maggie! I also like to indulge in a little conscious complaining (and tantrums) every now and then.

  8. Andy Macleod says:

    Loved it Maggie. Thanks.