Date a Girl Who Takes Baths.

Via Sarah Brose
on Mar 11, 2013
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Another girl you should date.

In response to: “The Girl You Should Be Dating.”

Date a girl who takes baths.

Date a girl who spends money on Epsom salts instead of clothes. She has a problem with closet space, in particular with that spot under the bathroom sink because of all the soaps and essential oils. Date a girl who makes castles float on water, who can make it hotter or colder with just one toe, who knows that small yellow ducks do more than float, they listen.

Find a girl who takes baths. You’ll know she does because she’ll always leave the party early. She’s the one in the corner holding a hot toddy, not because she likes the taste, but because she likes to stick her pointer in and listen. She’s the one swirling it till seven o’clock rolls around and she can do up her cardigan and leave. She’s the girl who politely declines and goes home, who sleeps with a hot water bottle because she’d rather be warm and alone, than cold and with somebody.

She’s the girl in the second-hand shop down the street.

You’ll notice her because she’ll look like she’s from another era. Who wears scarves and gloves and things. Who peels off her clothing, slowly, so she can imagine the stories of the sweaters before her. A girl who understands that the pleasure is in getting undressed, not dressed. Date a girl who’s not afraid to disappear completely. When you’ve wondered where she’s gone, look down by your feet. You’ll find her used clothing like snakes on the cold tile floor.

Date a girl who’s not afraid to make a beard and wear one. When you meet her, she’ll notice yours. The time and care you took in growing, the tiny bits of red, or grey. The bald patch on your cheek or the way it swirls under your chin will inspire her to have fun with foamy shapes later. But when she goes home and gathers all the bubbles on her chest into two pointy white mountain tops and looks up at you with puppy-dog eyes, pop every one and tell her they’re perfect just the way there are.

When she feels morose she thinks how Sexton and Plath both died in the bath. Well not really, but she likes to imagine that they did. Comfort her when she’s sad: your warmth will make her feel strong and fragile—yet safe.

It’s easy to date a girl who takes baths.

Buy her a loofah or pumice stone. If you’re confused about what either of these things are, pick up any old rock and give it to her. Tell her you bought it around the corner at her favorite health food store.

Watch her. Upon first glance, it may appear as though she’s staring at the blank tiling in front of her, but really she’s imagining she’s Lady Ophelia, drifting down the river with flowers in her hair. Either that, or she’s counting the hairs she missed while shaving her toes.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not?

Girls who take baths understand that people, like fruity-scented bath bombs, take shape, expand.

If you find a girl who takes baths, keep her close.

When you find her up at 2 a.m. standing ankle-deep in water cold and weeping because she made it too hot, turn the faucet to the left and hold her. While you’re waiting for it to cool down, put on Joni and hold her, tighter. Look into her bloodshot eyes and tell her to keep on crying, that she was going to add salt to the water anyway. You may lose her for a couple hours but she will always come back to you. And when she climbs into bed with her fingers all wrinkly, kiss every one and tell her you’ll love her even when her whole body is like that too, one day.

When you propose, do it from the bathroom toilet.

Put the lid down first. She’ll say yes by smiling and sliding over. You’ll both squat, knees jutting up and touching. One person’s back will jam against the faucet. The water will be cold because you spent a lot of time preparing.

You will see her with her face of bubbles and wonder how you’ve fallen so hard for a lady with a beard. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will teach your children the difference between what is half-empty and what is half-full, that patience is a virtue, that if it doesn’t work out the first time, you can drain it all and start again.

Because a girl who takes baths knows that things don’t stay hot forever. That life is meant to have a burn or two.



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About Sarah Brose

Sarah Brose is a Yoga Teacher and Theatre artist who is interested in exploring the links between Yoga and Art. She believes Yoga and Mindfulness create the space and stillness required to cultivate the greatest amounts of strength, softness, courage and compassion. It is within this space that we come up with the most creative solutions to all of life’s problems. She enjoys writing and sharing words from this place. You can read more here.


53 Responses to “Date a Girl Who Takes Baths.”

  1. Maraianne says:

    Beautiful 🙂

  2. Viola says:

    This pretty much sounds like me…..except I hate baths

  3. Brynn says:

    Eloquent words artfully entwined

  4. SaraCrolick says:

    This is just lovely. Thank you.

  5. Emily says:

    Amazing. Such a beautiful read.

  6. John says:

    Love the article!

  7. Natalie says:

    I'll have the water running in a few. Cheers to the woman who would rather be warm and alone than cold with company.

  8. Michael says:

    Absolutely lovely,

  9. Chantel says:

    I read this not being big on baths. This article gave baths a second chance for me. Thank You

  10. Brett Young says:

    Not in love with this article because I don't feel it adequately credits Rosemary Urquico for the style in which this was written. I get the inspiration and I am a girl who LOVES baths but this just feels unoriginal and as if you are adopting someone else's style and not in a good way. Are you really going to turn her wonderful piece of prose into another stale meme? What's next, "date a girl who has cats?"

  11. Beth says:

    I loved this article. It showed alot of imagination and moved with inspiration.

  12. madeline brose says:

    I love baths too- a time to remove some of the unwanted layers which have accumulated over the course of the day.

    Beautifully written and expressed. You are right. Things don't stay hot forever – however keep in mind we all have these cool times during our lifetime but here's hoping the heat can be ignited again. Madeline

  13. madeline says:

    Keep in mind. She does acknowledge the author at the very beginning of the article. See below the title.

    "in response to "The girl you should be dating by Rosemary Urquico""

    She is responding in the same manner that Rosemary herself wrote about her dating piece.

    I don't see it as stale at all but we are all entitled to own opinion.

    A very well written article.

    I assume you don't like baths or girls who take them.


  14. Cindy says:

    love this,, it is me!!

  15. This. Is. Amazing. Because it's so….perfect!

  16. mommychick says:

    LOVE! and I love my bath time too.

  17. Lashes McGee says:

    Lovely sentences. They peel.

  18. Siya says:

    Wow sarah! This was absolutely beautiful to read, I really enjoyed it and even brought a tear to my eye at the end. Please keep writing ! Xx

  19. Brett Young says:

    Hi Madeleine, you assume incorrectly. I AM a girl who LOVES baths and others who take them though that is irrelevant. You are right; it is true that the author states that it is "I n response" to Rosemary Urquico and that she is responding in the way Ms. Urquico responded. That being said I AM entitled to my own opinion and here I still find that "a copy of a copy isn't always so sharp." Thank you for your input.

  20. theongoingmoment says:


  21. Maudy says:

    I can't wait until the next piece!

  22. madeline says:

    Never assume anything. My apologies. Thanks for responding. I hope you get a chance to read some of the other articles that the author may be submitting in the future.

  23. SOFLY_Anna says:

    How pretty! Thanks, I love taking Epsom Salt baths:-)

  24. Robin says:

    Your voice whispered in my ear as I read this Sarah. Very beautifully written. It would make a great monologue too.

  25. Robin says:

    Beautiful 🙂

  26. catnipkiss says:

    This was very nice. I could be that girl, except that I am older than just "girl" and don't need to worry about naming my children, as they are grown and used to their names! Also, my typing fingers are itching to parody this series…. but I wonder if I would get seriously SLAMMED for it?!!! – Alexa Maxwell

  27. Renee says:

    Absolutely beautiful- beautifully written, beautiful content & meaning. ) Thank you!!

  28. Hansi says:

    Am I the only one who thinks the kind of girl described in this might need psychological help???

    "Buy her a child-proof razor. Sometimes when she’s shaving she cuts herself on purpose. She likes to see the water change colour, to surround herself with what is hot and red. It makes her feel morose and special because she knows that Sexton and Plath both died this way. Well not really, but lie to her and tell her they did. This will make her feel the perfect mix of strong and fragile."

    WHAT??? I don't mean to be offensive towards the writer's ideas, but I don't find this kind of behavior very positive. When I was a teenager I had a brief phase of self mutilation and I'm eternally grateful to those who helped me come out of it. We should think twice before we try to romanticize it.

  29. elephantjournal says:

    Yes, love this. I'm a boy who takes baths. And hot tubs. I could do without the blood, but the rest…mwuah. Let's leave the party early. Let's take a bath together. I'll prepare the hot toddies.

  30. Yael says:

    Loved it!

  31. QueenCassandra says:

    That was wonderful. 🙂

  32. manda says:

    You are not the only one. I do not understand that part. I am all the things described in the article but that. I get it that she hurts herself, but there are better ways to show it. I think this part is why the other comments were about it being a rip off. Yuck. I loved the tone and the ideas. Why ruin it? For ratings?

  33. Ahsa says:

    So beautiful! I loved this. 😀 Thank you for sharing!

  34. Michael says:

    This is one of the most beautiful pieces that I have read on elephant journal. Thank you for sharing this soulful and poignant piece.

  35. Becky Beaudin says:

    LOVE the article. Reminds my so much of our sweet Carly. Thank you for so eloquently painting a picture and swirling memories. My heart is smiling! <3

  36. Vicky says:

    I felt like this poem, ironically enough, was dry. It is lacking real commitment.

  37. julie says:

    Amazing…………..I love this……..I take a bath every night……my husband..has NO idea:(!

  38. Jennifer says:

    Love love love love love this!

  39. Lexy says:

    This piece gave some great descriptions of bathtime activities and behavior, but there was not much else. There was very little in the way of metaphor; there was no great insight into love from the perspective of a “bath-taking” girl. Boring and derivative.

  40. Leah says:

    this sounds incredibly onesided. and sexist. LAME.

  41. Alexandra says:

    Am I the only one who read this as a parody?

  42. Alicia says:

    So stupid lmao. Absolutely regarded and I take baths.

  43. Nope says:

    I used to bathe with Epsom salts for years and it took a long time to figure out that was the cause of recurrent BV. No more baths for me

  44. Edu Sou says:

    Sweet accurate poetry! Thanks

  45. Jesse says:

    I love this. I love baths. There are so many truths in one piece of writing…..

  46. Grant says:

    I really, really wanted to troll this but…it was well written and nice. So off I go.

  47. melicious says:

    That and the fact that this girl would stand in her bathtub weeping because she put too much cold water in. And not only that, she would be so unraveled by that situation that she would need to be held and have someone else to turn the hot water on. I mean, really? I wouldn't want to date someone that was that easily emotionally jarred.

  48. Lol I always date girl who takes bath everyday. I love this kind of girl. It makes me feel lucky to have this kind of girl. BTW your article was beautifully written and expressed. Love your writing skill XD