Helping Does Not Make You Feel Good.

Via Tara Lemieux
on Apr 30, 2013
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“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.” ― Charles Dickens

The little boy from down the way, and who is just about 3 years-old, was recently told by his preschool teacher that,

“Helping makes you feel good.”

Imagine my delight when he offered to push my over-sized Rubbermaid trash cans from the side of the curb to all the way behind my house.

“I’ll help you,” he shouted proudly as he quickly scampered off.

After 15 minutes or so, and with many grunts and oomphs in between—by God, he finally moved that trash can just where it needed to be.

Oh, but it was not without notice that he was not so very pleased.

As he harumphed right past me, with muddy shmootz in his hair…he shouted,

“Helping does not make you feel good.”

And with a snarliest of ‘frowny brows’ and disillusioned sideways glance—he reinforced this disgust, by stomping away.

So now, I need to figure out the perfect ‘thank you for helping even though you got shmootz in your hair’ present for a 3 year-old boy.

Because, he’s right, you know—helping should always make you feel good.


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About Tara Lemieux

Tara Lemieux is a mindful wanderer, and faithful stargazer. She is an ardent explorer and lover of finding things previously undiscovered (or, at the very least, mostly not-uncovered.) When she’s not writing, you can find her walking in the woods and sometimes changing the way we look at things, one simple moment at a time. You can contact her at via her website Mindfully Musing or, take one second to "LIKE" her on Facebook at Tara's Facebook Page. Or email her directly at [email protected]. All roads will lead to one home, and rest assured she (and Nudnick, the wonder dog) would LOVE to hear from you.


One Response to “Helping Does Not Make You Feel Good.”

  1. davebo says:

    Nice scene. Good question. A timely big smiled Thank you! before he gets up a full stomp is my suggestion, but absent a tardis, I hope you'll think of something.

    Maybe he couldn't tell he was really helping?