I don’t want to have to compromise my morals in order to make a living {Grimes}

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on Apr 24, 2013
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grimes letter

The best (truest) thing I’ve heard in too long. Like manna from heaven.

Grimes just made my day. And, likely, yours. Words from the heart and experience of truth and genuninity are unmistakable. ~ ed.

I don’t want to have to compromise my morals in order to make a living

i dont want my words to be taken out of context

i dont want to be infantilized because i refuse to be sexualized

i dont want to be molested at shows or on the street by people who perceive me as an object that exists for their personal satisfaction

i dont want to live in a world where im gonna have to start employing body guards because this kind of behavior is so commonplace and accepted and I’m pissed that when I express concern over my own safety it’s often ignored until people see firsthand what happens and then they apologize for not taking me seriously after the fact…

I’m tired of men who aren’t professional or even accomplished musicians continually offering to ‘help me out’ (without being asked), as if i did this by accident and i’m gonna flounder without them.  or as if the fact that I’m a woman makes me incapable of using technology.  I have never seen this kind of thing happen to any of my male peers

I’m tired of the weird insistence that i need a band or i need to work with outside producers (and I’m eternally grateful to the people who don’t do this)

im tired of being considered vapid for liking pop music or caring about fashion as if these things inherently lack substance or as if the things i enjoy somehow make me a lesser person

im tired of being congratulated for being thin because i can more easily fit into sample sizes from the runway

im tired of people i love betraying me so they can get credit or money

I’m sad that it’s uncool or offensive to talk about environmental or human rights issues

I’m tired of creeps on message boards discussing whether or not they’d “fuck” me

I’m tired of people harassing my dancers and treating them like they aren’t human beings

I’m sad that my desire to be treated as an equal and as a human being is interpreted as hatred of men, rather than a request to be included and respected (I have four brothers and many male best friends and a dad and i promise i do not hate men at all, nor do i believe that all men are sexist or that all men behave in the ways described above)

im tired of being referred to as ‘cute,’ as a ‘waif’ etc., even when the author, fan, friend, family member etc. is being positive


waif |wāf|


a homeless and helpless person, esp. a neglected or abandoned child: she is foster-mother to various waifs and strays .

• an abandoned pet animal.

cute |kyo͞ot|


attractive in a pretty or endearing way: a cute kitten.

• informal sexually attractive.

I’m tired of people assuming that just because something happens regularly it’s ok


i have so much love for everyone who has been cool and amazing.  I have the best job in the world but I’m done with being passive about any kind of status quo that allows anyone to suffer or to be disrespected

Grimes world tour is officially over, the visions album cycle is officially over, and I’m now taking the time to overhaul everything and make it better

much love to every fan – stuff can be lame sometimes but its really cool to have this support <3

7:28 pm  •  23 April 2013  •  7,190 notes

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A few interviews:

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10 Responses to “I don’t want to have to compromise my morals in order to make a living {Grimes}”

  1. DaveTelf says:

    Tremendous. For me, this is a brilliant introduction to this artist.

    Grimes — the authentically heartfelt forthrightness expressed here makes me an instant fan of your human-person. Do rock on.

  2. Alan Debbs says:

    Just another spoiled kid.
    I don’t care about your rich girl problems.

  3. Javier says:

    So you put on a persona to make money, then feel bad when you are not seen for who you are.
    If you didn’t want to compromise your “morals” for a living you should not have gotten into the music industry.
    Just like actors complaining about paparazzi.
    Also, genuinity is not a word. . . genuineness.

  4. elephantjournal says:

    Genuiniity is a fake word, I know that…I just like it and figure if I use it a thousand times it'll make Merriam.

    In any case, I disagree that someone signs up for selling out by being in any particular industry, but thank you for being one of the few to criticize both intelligently and respectfully.

  5. Jennifer White says:

    I am all about making up new words. I try to every day. Also, I agree (possibly it's the writer in me that desperately wants to be successful) that believes that sometimes creativity actually has some pitfalls—and I adore Grimes.

  6. Cynthia Farrell says:

    I support you completely. I am your mothers age. You must stick to your ideals and know that you will be a beacon to others, no matter their age, weight, or circumstances. Bloom, flower, and shine!!! You are beautiful, inside and out!

  7. chang says:

    I don't want to have to compromise my glitter

  8. Kiera says:

    They are not rich girl problems. Her problems mirror the problems of so many other women in the world despite their context. Open your pessimistic and narrow minded male eyes.

  9. elephantjournal says:

    He doesn't speak for all men! Let's not generalize.

  10. Jessica says:

    She's an exquisite and unabashed creator.