To Love A Serious Girl. {Poem}

Via Rebecca Lammersen
on Jan 8, 2014
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Photo Courtesy Margo Connor

Warning: naughty language ahead!

She ain’t casual.

She’s serious in the fanciest of ways.

She means every word she says as she prays.

She ain’t a liar, the opposite in fact.

She’s a truth sayer, a lie slayer.

She’ll find a way in, because love always does.

She’ll break you on purpose.

It’s okay to be nervous.


Her only demand?

Honesty without command.

She’ll fuck you with her questions


 you cum with the answers you didn’t know you had.


She’s complicated, she’s always been.

You’ll never unravel her.

Don’t try, you can’t win.

She’s smart, not to be confused with sly.

Live twisted in her mystery until the day you die.


Don’t take her to happy hour,

unless you want to be there till closing.

Happy hour was created for those other girls—

The girls who look like women

and the women who act like girls and seem frozen.


She’s neither of those.

You’ll know it immediately too,

 if she’ll look at you.

It’s in her eyes.

They’ll conquer you. 


She’ll seem shy.

She’s not, just careful.

She knows what she’s capable of—

So, if she looks at you,

She chooses you.

Be grateful.


You’ll feel sexy.

Sexier than you’ve ever felt,

Cause you just saw yourself in those eyes,

you melt.  

It’s hard to look away after that.

Virginity you thought you lost, way back. 


She’ll swallow you, like the whale to Jonah. 

You’ll disappear as if she owns ya.

Your cock, your mind, your heart—

it will seem

You’re safer than you’ve ever been.

She’ll spit you out whole in the end. 


No need to be afraid,

she isn’t, 

Of any of it cause she’s already lived it.

Like she’s been inside you too.


To love a serious girl is what you need.

A muse she is indeed.

She’ll ravage you with inspiration.

Her passion is suffocatin’.


You’ll gasp for understandin’ for the rest of your life,

Cause you know—

The casual ones don’t compare,

not to her and that stare.

She ain’t them, they ain’t her

And boy,

you seriously ain’t nothin’ without her.

By Rebecca Lammersen

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About Rebecca Lammersen

Rebecca Lammersen is the founder of Yogalution, an intimate, boutique style yoga studio in Scottsdale, AZ. I love being alive. I love being a mother. I love teaching yoga. I love to write. I love to know. I love to not know. I love to learn. I love to listen. I love to read. I love to swim. I love to travel. I love to dance. I love to help. I love to serve. That pretty much sums me up. For daily inspirations, check out Rebecca's website. Visit her yoga studio website and peruse her articles at The Huffington Post. You can also find her on Facebook. Subscribe to Rebecca's feed and never miss a post!


24 Responses to “To Love A Serious Girl. {Poem}”

  1. Sofi says:

    I'm a serious girl. I get it.

  2. Claudia Kuzniak says:

    This needs to be a rap.

  3. Thanks for reading Sofi!

  4. If I only could… 😉

  5. guestinyourheart says:


  6. guestinyourheart says:

    I love, shy she's not, just careful.

  7. guestinyourheart says:

    That would be a whole new way to approach, just start with that and see who dares to write.

  8. Jess says:

    Seriously in love with this. Powerful.

  9. That's funny. Thanks for reading. ~Rebecca

  10. Melody says:

    I loved it! Sounds like me a little bit. Rock on… Wooo <3

  11. Guillaume says:

    Very sexy…

  12. erika says:

    this is so beautifully written!

  13. Kim says:

    Love this !

  14. Colby says:

    I am a huge poet, writer and creator of word and honestly, I haven't read a poem that riveting in a while. Bravo and thank you for that.

  15. Michelle says:

    This took my breath away..all I could say is wow and thank you.

  16. Rhonda says:

    Best description of me I’ve never written. Thank you!

  17. Angela says:

    Wow, this is magnificent

  18. Sara says:

    Ah yes! This resonates with me as well! Thank you, I'm sharing this too!

  19. Boyd says:

    I love the flow of this piece and its candid description of a serious girl. Kudos!

  20. Amy says:

    This is so well written. It's hauntingly accurate.

  21. sara says:

    Wow, literally gave me goosebumps. So intense, so raw, so honest, so…me <3

  22. Maree says:

    I love myself more completely and all other women like us, when I read this. Thank you.

  23. She says:

    Love it "You’ll never unravel her. Don’t try, you can’t win."

    ~ a serious girl

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