I tricked you with the title…

You don’t need to work that hard to have someone choose you.

If you are working hard to get someone to love you, you are wasting valuable energy and resources internally. So feel free to keep repeating this pattern, as it may burn out in time.

At some point however, you’ll grow tired, resentful, and fed up and do something different.

If, on the other hand, you want to speed up the process, reel your attention away from your project of trying to get them to be different, and bring it back to the project of loving and embracing your beauty and awesomeness right now. Stand tall, and find your dignity.

You don’t need to settle for scraps or change your partner. Trust me, you can have what you want and all you need to do is accept you as you are.

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Editor: Travis May

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