Dying Equals Winning. ~ Dr. Matt Kreinheder

Via Dr. Matt Kreinheder
on Jul 7, 2014
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Dying is a funny thing.

Well, maybe not ha-ha funny, but more “Uh, what’s going on here?” funny. The funny thing about dying is that ninety-nine percent of us are afraid of it and one hundred percent of us do it. Seems silly, or at least inefficient, to waste all that energy on what is inevitable, but alas, it is a hallmark of the human condition to fear what we don’t know.

Aside from the fear, the stigma of dying is really damaging. How many times have you heard someone say “they lost the battle with cancer,” or “It’s a shame he had to die so young?” This perspective on dying suggests a belief that dying is losing and living is winning. But it’s just that, a perspective, a belief—and beliefs, like your favorite pair of argyle socks, are chosen.

Our beliefs run our life, constantly informing us of right and wrong, safe and dangerous, fun and tedious. If our beliefs are chosen then it is true that we have set up rules to a game that we have to lose! Playing a game by my rules and having to lose, well, sucks. If I believe that dying means I failed then I will fight and claw against the inevitable death as long as humanly possible. But, is that the point?

I mean, I get where this comes from. In order for our species to have evolved from the primordial soup and survive this long, the fight or flight part of our nervous system had tuned to value life and reject death—that’s a good thing. But its 2014, we are not running for our life from tigers or bears, instead, we’re talking to the Apple genius and haggling to get a deal on designer luggage. These are hardly survival activities.

Why, then, the stigma about dying? It comes from a limited view of what the human experience is. When you view the human experience as being bound in this physical body then, yes, death is death and that’s the end. You don’t get to eat ice cream or watch sunsets anymore, you’re dead, game over, do not pass go, do not collect $200.

However, if we expand our perspective a bit and look at life in a larger context as the evolution of your soul weaving in and out of this world, learning lessons and having fun doing it, well then our perspective must change.

The Eastern spiritual traditions are more favorable on this view than we tend to be in the west. The idea of reincarnation pervades many Eastern cultures and the way I see it everything else I can observe that is part of the natural universe lives then dies then lives again. All things move in cycles of life, death and rebirth, why would we suspect that we are any different?

So then what is the value of dying? Well maybe it’s where our soul gets to reconnect and recharge its batteries after the years and years of work we just did. Maybe it’s when we get back in touch with our true divine nature. Maybe it’s where we see and remember that we have spent a lifetime as an expression of the infinite.

That sounds pretty good, right? Why would anyone be afraid of that? So how then do we get back to this blissful, heavenly, experience of personal and collective divinity? We have to die! Maybe death is a reward for a life well lived. Maybe you finished all the work your soul needed to finish here on this planet in this lifetime and diseases like cancer are the most efficient way for you to die and revisit the other side.

In that case you’re dying because you’ve won! You finished your life! Congratulations and great work! To look at this great and amazing thing that you just did (living your life) as a failure because you died really sours the experience.

Ultimately how do you know that you died because you messed up your life or because you won? Who knows? But if you can’t know wouldn’t you much rather choose a perspective that allows you to enjoy and celebrate the life you lived? If you don’t know whether you won or lost, choose winning, I bet you’ll enjoy that ride a whole lot more.

 

 

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About Dr. Matt Kreinheder

Dr. Matt Kreinheder focuses on helping people with cancer create a consciousness so that their body can heal.
Over the past four years of clinical practice as a Chiropractor, Acupuncturist and Coach Dr. Matt has helped people make deep connections with who they are. By focusing on an approach integrating the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual sides of healing Dr. Matt has helped people heal and transform in ways they never expected.

Dr. Matt has chosen to focus on helping people with cancer because he saw a real need for people to understand healing from a consciousness perspective. Many people focus on either just traditional medical or nutrition but haven’t yet explored their emotional, mental and spiritual toxicities.

Dr. Matt believes that cancer is a message that our life is off course. When we are fighting against the life we are meant to live it causes a multi-level stress response. We can alleviate these stresses and get back to health by understanding who we are meant to be and healing physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Dr. Matt is also the editor and a contributing writer for the Association For Reorganizational Healing. A community of transformational healers.

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8 Responses to “Dying Equals Winning. ~ Dr. Matt Kreinheder”

  1. If I were suddenly 'battling' a life threatening disease, I'd certainly want to reconcile myself to the fact that sooner or later, some day—hopefully, not too soon—I'm going to die anyway. I'd want to be at peace with the notion of dying. We're dying from the first breath we take anyway. It's only a matter of time. I figure if I'm not afraid of where I came from, then there's really no need to be afraid of where I'm going back to.

    So, it's not so much the fear of death, but the fear of suffering that tends to rock me when I think of cancer.

    That being said, I realize this article isn't inviting a debate about whether or not cancer sucks. That much is a given. And it isn't inviting a debate about whether or not it sucks to die of cancer or any other disease for that matter. No one is getting in the short line for suffering. We all want to die in our beds, of old age—in our sleep.

    Here's my take away: it doesn't suck to die. It's the natural consequence of having been born, having lived a life and having gone on to whatever comes next. It's the game of life. So, in that sense we're all born winners because the game ends the same way for all of us, regardless of what comes between.

  2. Maxine says:

    My mother passed away 5 years ago. This morning was the first time she came to my dream. When she just appeared, my son woke me up, so the dream got interrupted.
    She died from cancer, at the age of 68. I wish she will be born again in a good family with love.

  3. Marge says:

    I agree. For the last 30 years and hopefully many years to come, helping people with chronic ailments such as cancer has been my passion. It is great to know that there are peers such as you that look at the Whole Person. Body, mind and soul is all going down the same path. Nurturing and educating has been my life's work so far. I love working on quality of life and helping people to feel great and look great. We deserve it as yes we all die. I grew up hearing that 2 things in life are for sure, 1. is paying taxes and 2. is dying. AMEN!

  4. tiffanystaropoli says:

    You are RIGHT ON! Thank you for sharing a perspective that so many are unwilling or unable to try. Embracing death as a part of life and not getting caught up in the resentments that looming death can bring = FREEDOM! And as a Stage 4 Cancer Survivor, I know first hand that letting go of the fear of the unknowns leads to an enjoyable ride through life. If you were diagnosed with an illness that could potentially kill you, would you want your remaining days on Earth (if truly that is what you are living) to be filled with hate and anger and bitterness? Well, I don't! I choose to HONOR this life I have lead thus far and make the most out of as many steps as I have left on this Earth.

  5. Hi Lucia, A very Buddhist perspective! I like it. One of the 4 noble truths, suffering is inevitable. Thanks for reading!

  6. Hi Maxine, Wow, what a cool experience and if it had to end, what a great way to have it end, being woken up by your son! I hope the same for your mom. Thanks for reading!

  7. Marge – Haha, death and taxes right! It was the mantra of the working man. Thanks for reading this and I'm glad to hear there are others on the path as well.

  8. Hi Tiffany, I love this, freedom is such an amazing part of the experience and so very unexpected. I've heard a lot of people say once they get the diagnosis they really show up (for what feels like the first time for some) in their life and they have something to really push for! Thanks for sharing your experience and congrats!