How to Attract a Conscious/Evolved Man.



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The term conscious or evolved (awakened) man is used to describe a man who is fully aware of his thoughts, feelings, perceptions, beliefs, opinions and someone who stands elegantly in his own truth and is not afraid to acknowledge and express the depths of who he is.

A conscious man is neither afraid of his powerful masculine or feminine energy and he is constantly working to find the balance within the two.

A conscious man is aware that his masculine energy provides him with decisiveness, analytical thinking, assertiveness and pushes him to strive, and that his feminine side provides him with patience, an open heart, loving, nurturing and inner calm.

Conscious men can appear to be elusive and many women seem to attract the same types of men over and over, repeating the same mistakes, and being presented with the same lessons time and again.

The reason for this is that women can turn a blind eye to a conscious man as they are afraid that they may not live up to the same standards a conscious man lives to, or it may be that some women aren’t fully aware of how to recognise a conscious man when they meet one.

Due to a conscious man standing strong in his own truth, he can make others feel as though they have come face to face with all of their insecurities. It can feel as though the conscious man holds out a mirror so that other people see their reflections clearly and vividly.

If we do not have high self-esteem or self-worth these reflections can tempt us to run and hide from our problems rather than facing up to them and doing the necessary work and making changes for personal growth.

To be able to recognise a conscious man easily, these are a few of the most common traits:

Honours the divine Goddess within the female.

Someone who takes control and responsibility for his own life.

A man who has high levels of integrity.

A conscious man will be interested in a woman who is natural.

Creates a safe space for communication.

True to his word.

Consistent, especially through difficult times.

He is not afraid of criticism.

Comfortable in his own skin.

Accepts his faults and faces up to mistakes.

He has self-love, self-worth and high self-esteem.

Listens fully and communicates clearly and honestly.

Not co-dependent.

Does not have the need or desire to control his relationship or any other person.

He has a strong masculine spirit.

In touch with his feminine side.

Does not avoid conflict.

Honest, open, loyal and trustworthy.

Connects fully and makes his partner feel unique.

Cares deeply about the planet and all of its inhabitants.

Knows how to pleasure a woman sexually without thinking of his needs.

On a journey constantly growing and learning.

A conscious man will take care of his emotional, mental, physical and spiritual health and he will likely be attracted to a person who does the same.

To to attract a conscious man it is essential to do the vital inner work needed to ensure there is progression towards fully loving ourselves and being the best version of who we are so we reach our highest potential.

A conscious man is intrigued by a woman who is comfortable to be her complete authentic, genuine self. Flaws, imperfections and the shadow self will not matter to a man who is conscious. He would rather a woman shows up entirely as she is, accepting that she is on a journey of progression, rather than trying to hide or mask herself and be someone who she is not.

The kind of woman that doesn’t give a f*ck about what people think about her is who a conscious man will find most attractive. One who won’t change, blend or compromise her self to suit or conform to societies norms or expectations. The conscious male will be attracted to a woman who sets her own guidelines, standards and moral codes. Just knowing that she is true to herself, honours herself and those around her is what a conscious man finds intoxicating and magnetising.

A conscious man won’t want a woman who commits herself to making him happy; he wants someone whose primary focus is making her self happy. He knows that no other person is responsible for his happiness other than himself. A conscious man adores being in the company of, or connected to, a woman who is radiant from the core, who is free-spirited and who sets out on adventures to explore her dreams and fantasies.

A conscious man will not criticize or put down a woman in any way for being her true, authentic self. He accepts a woman as she is and does not expect her to be full of joy at all times. A conscious man fully understands that life will offer every shade and knows that everyone has inner demons to work through.

There is a level of peace and inner calm with a conscious man and he will very rarely lose self-control or to allow his emotions to get the better of himself. He will not appreciate if someone tries to deliberately wind him up or push him to see if they can cause a reaction.

There will be no game playing with a conscious man—he will spot this type of manipulating behaviour immediately. He has no time for drama or for high maintenance people, he wants people around him that are not afraid to speak their truth, do not need to be chased and do not use trickery to gain attention.

A conscious man wants to be around a woman who is not going to judge him for being truly himself and likewise, he will not do the same in return. He wants to be free to sample all that life offers, make mistakes, learn from them and begin anew everyday.

The conscious man has high integrity and good morals and wants a female who can recognise this so that she will trust him on his path without feeling insecure or doubtful of his actions. He is a work of progression, not perfection and sees others the same and he accepts he will fall many times. However hard he hits the ground, he will get back up stronger and wiser every time. He will not appreciate someone who berates him for being true and aligning with his authentic self.

Although a conscious man wants to be accepted for who he is, he also wants to be around a woman who is not afraid to call him out on his bullsh*t. When a conscious man is not being genuine, is living within his ego or is not authentic, he will appreciate being told and also being held accountable for it. He respects a woman who pushes him to achieve his highest potential, but only when a woman does this from a place of love and not from fears or insecurities.

The conscious man knows that the right relationship will help his evolution, just as he is there to assist the female through hers and he wants someone around him where their dual focus is on growth and journeying through life side by side, whilst both on their individual paths.

When in a relationship with a conscious man it is important to leave the past firmly behind and exist in the present moment. Holding on to heavy baggage or loves now gone will prevent the relationship from deepening and a conscious man will be very aware that barriers and walls are present. The past has now passed and the only place to exist is fully in the present moment, embracing the exhilarating sensations that love, adventure and life have to offer.

Unresolved or unhealed painful memories give off a powerful negative energy and it is essential that these wounds are acknowledged and worked on. When the work is done, rather than attracting the same types of energy and relationships that brought the onslaught of old traumatic patterns, new energy and love will radiate, which will then attract a similar vibration to that which is send out.

In a relationship with a conscious man there will be no need to focus on the superficial aspects of our lives. The conscious man is interested and intrigued by what lies deep down within our souls and what is happening within our minds. It is important to stop worrying about outer appearances and judging whether we are good enough, pretty enough or worthy of attention or admiration from anyone. The most important opinion is how a woman sees and thinks about herself and her ability to accept herself entirely as she is—that is the attitude that attracts the right type of person.

Women who can fully accept themselves and also who worship and honour their inner Goddess will radiate an abundance of energy and sensuality that conscious men find very intriguing and attractive.

The conscious man has a powerful sexual energy, however, he will not use it to his advantage to seduce or gain affection or advances of women. He knows exactly how to respect and honour a woman and admires someone who also is aware of her magnetising energy. Together they will be in a place to cherish and explore the powerful, explosive and ultimately healing benefits their energetically charged connection delivers.

For any woman that wants to attract a conscious male into their lives, they must first let go of everything they have known from past relationships: all the hurt, pain and mistrust and recognise the full qualities a conscious male possesses.

A masculine warrior and a feminine Goddess can together create a harmonious, soul bonding and life-altering partnership that will be a sacred commitment to worshiping each others’ paths and journeys together, yet entirely separately as they each stand firm and live authentically in their own truth.

“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” ~ C.G. Jung

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aideznousaaider Apr 1, 2016 2:25pm

One thing I really think we should start consider as conscious thinking is not identifying certain traits such as assertiveness, decisiveness etc. as masculine, and open hearted, caring etc. as feminine. Both genders have both sides. I think giving certain personality traits gender recognition is what prevents people from feeling safe to be open with this particular trait. If a man is open hearted, it does not mean he is ultra feminine, it means he is open hearted. It's like women who are good leaders are often labelled as being "too bossy" or "too manly," it's debilitating for both genders to feel they can be all things and emotions if it is gender based.

Chris Feb 25, 2016 1:12am

Alex, thank you for writing this. It was just what I needed to hear – a reminder that I am on the right course. Whether that statement of what conscious man is can ever be fully achieved I am uncertain, but it is certainly the man I strive to be, and it is great to hear that from a woman's perspective.

Chris Feb 23, 2016 8:35pm

Here, too much of what constitutes the “most common traits” of a “conscious man” is as written by a woman. That’s like men legislating what a woman can do with her body. I think much of the traits in this article is projection of the authors desires, not the true attributes of a conscious man.

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Alex Myles

Alex Myles is a qualified yoga and Tibetan meditation teacher, Reiki Master, spiritual coach and also the author of An Empath, a newly published book that explains various aspects of existing as a highly sensitive person. The book focuses on managing emotions, energy and relationships, particularly the toxic ones that many empaths are drawn into. Her greatest loves are books, poetry, writing and philosophy. She is a curious, inquisitive, deep thinking, intensely feeling, otherworldly intuitive being who lives for signs, synchronicities and serendipities. Inspired and influenced by Carl Jung, Nikola Tesla, Anaïs Nin and Paulo Coelho, she has a deep yearning to discover many of the answers that seem to have been hidden or forgotten in today’s world. Alex’s bestselling book, An Empath, is on sale now for only $1.99! Connect with her on Facebook and join Alex’s Facebook group for empaths and highly sensitive people.