October 1, 2015

Dear Soul Mate—You don’t need me & I don’t need you.

Flickr/Hartwig HKD

“The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere, they’re in each other all along.” ~ Rumi

Dear soulmate and lover,

If you think you are in love with me you should read this:

It doesn’t matter if it’s you or someone else—it matters if this would be the ultimate expression of our highest selves.

If I really love you, I don’t need you to love me.

I love you, because I’ve learned to love myself.

Since I learned to love myself, I love everyone around—because everybody is a reflection of myself.

All sparks of an infinite firework—all sparks are part of this magical event, which lightens up the Universe.

Are you the one spark, who ignites the firework again and again?

Are you that spark who can’t wait to set this world on fire? To set this world on fire by the reunion with the one mirror—whose intentions are the purest, whose desire is the fieriest and whose feelings go back to the beginning and end of time.

Do you feel this unconditional love, which is meant for something bigger than your personal needs or your own completion?

This love, which is leaking out from every cell of your being?

Then you are for me, and I can give myself completely to you—because you don’t need me, and I don’t need you.

I choose you, because I want to—there is no compromise to make.

You are with me, because there is no question about it.

We choose each other, without choosing. It just is.

Not only do I strike a chord deep within you, but it is the one sound the whole Universe started with. The one sound, from which everything else evolved, is still evolving and will always be.

Together we play symphonies of the highest joy and excitement—of deepest feelings and fears—of overcoming, losing, creating and loving ourselves more everyday.

The Universe did put us together for a bigger reason.

It put us together, because we’ve learned to become whole again—to feel whole, without needing anything on the outside.

The ultimate feeling of being complete, no matter what happens.

You can only manifest in my reality, because I am already whole.

If I were to fall away from this wholeness, you wouldn’t need to rescue me—you could just remind me with your presence.

We rescued each other many lifetimes before, and this time it’s about full alignment and service.

Full alignment and service in being not in love, but being love itself.

The kind of love I just needed to find within myself again.

The kind of love we never loose, because we never try to own it.

With us being together, there is no question about if there is “real love.”

We are love.

We are the highest completion—without completing each other.

We were in each other all along.

We just needed to look inside, instead of searching on the outside.

With us being together, we express our love to everything—to every particle of our Universe.

I love you, and will always be with you.

“Through my love for you, I want to express my love for the whole cosmos, the whole of humanity, and all beings. By living with you, I want to learn to love everyone and all species. If I succeed in loving you, I will be able to love everyone and all species on earth…This is the real message of love.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh



A Soul Mate is a Mirror: We Accept the Love we Believe we Deserve.


Author: Christine Stein 

Editor: Yoli Ramazzina

Photo: Flickr/Hartwig HKD

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