With New Year’s quickly approaching, it is that time of year to consider what things we want to change in our lives.
Many of us choose to focus on what we do want to see or do, but what about the things that no longer work for us—the things that we no longer wish to do or have in our lives?
Perhaps there are things that we do, or allow others to do to us, that keep us stuck. Just as the soil must be tilled and plants removed to make way for new seeds to be sown, it can be helpful to look to what no longer serves us so that we can nurture what we do want.
In recently talking with a close friend, I joked about putting an old habit on the “Fucket List.” Loosely based on the Bucket List (things we want to do before we kick the bucket), I decided the Fucket List would include the things I want to eliminate from my life. For me, this is just as important as listing out what I do want to do in my life.
With this in mind, I sat down and penned the list below. It was an incredibly freeing thing to write, it helped me to get some things off of my chest, so to speak.
After writing this list, I have decided that starting now and continuing into the New Year, I want to be an A-List Star in my own life. My list serves as a reminder to no longer settle, hide, nor to allow myself to put up with “less than.”
What things in your life are holding you back from being a super star?
Go ahead, take ten minutes and write to your heart’s content. Spell out what it is that is no longer working for you.
This list could be key to setting yourself free!
Tiffany’s Fucket List (because life is too short):
- Hiding behind a mask.
- Giving until it hurts.
- Believing that I’m to blame.
- Believing that there is something inherently wrong with me or that I am evil.
- Being in relationships where I cannot safely express myself.
- Being proper: I need (yes, mom, it’s a need) to cuss like a Sailor – I even like to make them blush.
- Wearing clothes that don’t fit, whether too big or too small.
- Wearing shoes that hurt me (well, unless it’s just for a short while and I feel more sexy in them).
- Worrying about things I cannot control.
- Driving within the lines/following all of the rules about “how things are supposed to be.”
- Settling for “less than” because I feel “unworthy” of more.
- Accepting blame, being a victim, being a doormat.
- Addictions that control me: food, spending, alcohol, approval, moving non-stop, over-thinking.
- Being silent or (worse) talking and still not being heard.
- Not being appreciated.
- Being marginalized.
- Marginalizing myself!
Author: Tiffany Bertolacci
Editor: Renée Picard