A Letter to Myself When Anxiety Gets the Better of Me.
You’ll be fine.
Because you already are. If you stop thinking for a minute, stop fretting, stop worrying and see that you are here, alive and kicking, then you’ll see what I mean. You are just feeling like the whole world is falling apart, but actually, you are breathing, you exist and you have a life—you are alive.
No matter what situation you’re in, no matter the struggle, no matter the heartache—you will be fine. We were made to survive. We were made to endure, to persevere and to find answers and solutions and ways out of the war—with ourselves or with the world.
There will be a point where you’ll find the help you need. Allow yourself to accept it.
There will be a point where you’ll see what you need in order to move forward. Do just that.
There will be a point where the answers will come to you. And you will understand.
Now all you can do is be there for yourself and give yourself what you need, what you crave, what will keep you going. Breathe in, breathe out. You are alive and that is the only thing that matters. The funny thing is that it will always be the only thing that matters. What happens or what doesn’t happen around you will affect you, but it won’t kill you. As long as you don’t let it.
The fact that we exist, that we are here and are living our lives is already a masterpiece. We are already fine. The problem is that we think we aren’t. We need to have perfect jobs, glimmering cars, the latest smartphone and feel like that is what gives us value. As if those things validate us, give us permission to be who we are.
As if they say, “Yes, you get a place in the universe because you have ticked all the right boxes.” It doesn’t work like that. We make our lives incredibly difficult by putting conditions on it.
If only I had a partner, I would be happy. If only these people would treat me like this, I would feel accepted. If only I had more money, I would have permission to be here.
We create expectations, set the bar so high that our daily lives are filled with worry and dissatisfaction. We create our own suffering by not seeing that we are already here, we have already arrived, we are already whole.
We only need to embrace ourselves fully, let our light shine and find our purpose in life. By doing this we can then be a beacon to others and contribute meaningfully. By stepping into our own power we empower others. But we can only do that by acknowledging that we are already good enough, that we are already allowed to take up our place and that we have already arrived.
So just sit back, relax, breathe and look at the life in front of you: in the here and now.
Don’t you already have everything you need? What you really need?
You have yourself and that is already so big, so powerful, so promising. You can only go up from here.
What the future holds no one knows, but if you tune into the present and take care of that, the future will take care of itself.
Author: Sophie Kruijsdijk
Image: Elephant Journal Instagram
Editor: Sara Kärpänen