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February 8, 2018

How a Psychic Reading Changed my Perspective on Love. {Partner}

This is a post written by Keen—an Elephant partner. We’re honored to work with anyone who is this dedicated to helping us find meaningful love, make sense of our relationships, and finally end the cycle of ruined romantic affairs. ~ Ed.

 

My love life has done a total 180 in the last few years.

If I could have looked into my future back then, I’d never have guessed where I would be now. But it only happened once I decided to do something I always kinda dismissed before: I spoke to a psychic.

Wait, psychic?

Trust me, I was a skeptic at first too—now my only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner. But, of course, what’s meant to be is meant to be and, really, I had to learn those lessons before I could get to where and who I am today.

Here’s how my life looks different since that first conversation with my psychic, or Love Advisor as I like to call her:

1. I don’t grab a pint of Ben & Jerry’s and sulk in the bedroom on V-day anymore.

It’s that time of year again—“love” is in the air!

For some women, it’s their favorite time. I mean, who doesn’t like being showered with chocolates, roses, and more love and affection than usual? For others, it means feeling sorry for yourself for being alone for the third V-day in a row. No roses for me…

I was one of those women who got flowers from her dad every Valentine’s Day—and not roses, those faint yellow carnations that scream you’re going to die old and alone!

Until, mostly after some friends recommended it (enthusiastically), I finally decided to speak to a psychic.

Now, I know what you’re thinking: crystal balls and spells, like kooky Professor Sybill Trelawney from Harry Potter…

Well, you’re wrong! I was also wary at first—I didn’t know how I felt about getting dating advice from a psychic.

What I do know is that first call transformed my love life (which was pretty nonexistent if you ask me, or anyone who knows me).

While I won’t credit my Love Advisor with all the success that followed, she did guide me on the right path, and had some eerily accurate predictions along the way…

2. I finally Kissed (or shoved) that Person who Weighs me Down Goodbye.

We all have that negative person in our life—whether it’s an ex or a friend—who constantly lets us down, doesn’t support us, and has us feeling discouraged. I basically called an advisor on Keen, we’ll call her Lady Libra to keep her anonymous, and, in a panic, poured out, “My life sucks, I hate dating, am I going to be single forever? SOS!”  She couldn’t have been any calmer and more reassuring in her response:

“Honey listen, I sense an anxiety in your energy and restlessness in your spirit. And sometimes, love, or a lack thereof, can do that to a person. Love is not ready for you because you are not ready for it! Instead of accepting mediocre love, let it go. Once you learn how to find love within yourself, you’ll see your love life do a complete 180.”

As I would later find out, she was completely right. That old flame I wasn’t able to let go of for some reason was now out of my life for good, and I knew I would never go down that emotional rollercoaster again.

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3. Self-Love: I Woke Up like This.

I never practiced self-love before I found Lady Libra, a Love and Relationships Advisor on Keen. No—I’m not talking physical, but spiritual and emotional self-love that has led me to a place where I look at my reflection and I am genuinely happy—smiling proudly behind my scars, stretch marks, acne, and all my other flaws.

Lady Libra guided me on the right path, starting with baby steps: I stopped comparing myself to others, I cleaned out my closet (got rid of old clothes and things that reminded me of negative times in my life), and I started meditating. A few weeks later, I was feeling on top of the world! Even though I was still single, who cares? This Valentine’s Day is BYOB: Be Your Own Boo!

4. I Learned how to Read the Signs.

To be honest, it’s hard to tell a douchebag from nice guy. Did you know sometimes nice guys will pretend to be douchebags because some women living in a crazy parallel universe (like the old me) find that attractive!?

I found myself confiding in my Keen Advisor, Lady Libra, before and/or after I would go out on dates. She knew immediately if I liked the guy or not, but also if the guy liked me or not.

I found myself compensating for their lack of humor or personality by highlighting a physical feature like, “but he has a great smile” or “his disheveled hair is so cute!” She explained how I was finding something to like about them, something superficial, when there was nothing deeper.

“You are looking for love in all the wrong places,” she told me, “and this can sometimes blind you from all the qualities that, deep down, you know you don’t like.”

5. I Stopped Chasing Love—and the Right Person Found Me.

The waiting game—my favorite. *Sighs*

I decided to stop waiting, and just start living. Once you begin to embrace yourself, and focus on things you do have control over, like your who was already in your life—a friend.

The craziest part is, Lady Libra told me I’d grow to love someone who had been in my life for several years, someone I never had a physical connection with, and the best part was–she said this person already feels this way about me. In that moment it was like a lightbulb went on over my head and I saw Alex (also not his real name). We were friends in college, but never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined him as my future boyfriend.

Then, I started reading the signs when I was around him, and I don’t know if it was the $2 beers that night or if I was just in a great place in my life and it showed, but he asked me out to dinner and, from there, everything just fell into place…

Time to get Physical! I mean…Emotional and Spiritual?

Now that I had Alex in my life, you would think all my love troubles were solved.

My new relationship somehow brought even more questions: Is this relationship meant to be? How will I know? If it is, how do I keep this one from falling apart or withering away?

As my Keen psychic advisor taught me, the key to real and lasting love is the depth of connection between two people. “Most people can tell when they have chemistry with a person,” Lady Libra said, “If the kiss feels right, then it’s right! But what’s even more important for a long-lasting relationship, is the emotional and spiritual connection between one another. And it’s not something that usually exists on it’s own. You have to create it—together.” (We’re still working on that last one years later!)

Single Life Problems become Real Relationship Problems:

…But at least you have somebody to work on them with.

Men like Alex don’t come out of the blue, and they aren’t perfect either. But what counts is that we’re in it together. We have a real connection, and after all the disappointment and heartbreak I’ve been through to get here, I can feel the difference. The time and care we have to put in to keep our relationship healthy is worth it to keep that connection alive.

Love doesn’t always work out the way you hope it will. But sooner or later, we all end up on the right path.

Lucky for me, my psychic advisor helped me find that path. Lady Libra is more than just a psychic to me, she is also my relationship coach. Her intuitive abilities make it so easy for her to deeply understand my emotions, how my emotions impact my relationships, and even the emotions of the men in my love life. She understands me, my past, and (obviously) can kinda predict my future.

The insights she gave me guided me down the path to loving myself, and to discovering the love I deserve. And that’s one of the most important lessons anyone can learn.

 

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Editor: Khara-Jade Warren

 

 

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